In general I find LI parents to be less disciplinary in nature than.. (Farmingdale: homes, weddings) - Page 2 - City-Data Forum

redrunner+2 · 11-14-2010, 06:19 PM

I don't think it's LI parents, but many parents in general. I don't operate that way and that's not how I raise my kids.

My neighbors have 3, 4, 5 kids, and yet they pay some landscaper $50 a week to mow the lawn and bag the leaves. High school and college kids don't work, don't babysit. I don't get it. A little hard work never hurt anyone.

minesbroken · 11-14-2010, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jetties

disagree. The friends of my children are very well behaved. Of course I have seen some very poor behavior out there too but I think it is the exception rather than the rule.

I'm not saying that you should exercise physical punishment on all children, some are very well behaved, I was not...mine is very well behaved, my neighbor has two daughters that are very well behaved,
but what do you do when you are out of peaceful options?
everyone who claims you should never physically discipline your child never had an answer for what you do when they are just completely out of control.

my mother did everything she could with me and I was just a bad kid.
she tried everything she could until she was in tears
she got frustrated and hit me one night, then cried for hours about it.
it really opened my eyes
I don't blame her, and I have tried not to hurt her feelings ever since.
there are a lot of kids out there who don't respond to normal punishment.
if my 15 year old told me to go **** myself I don't know what I would do.
I wouldn't hurt him..
but I may surprise and startle him.

FLtoLONGISLAND · 11-14-2010, 06:21 PM

Kids are kids. Where I came from the kids are no different than those here. I have siblings with children in both Virginia and Texas, and they say Long Island children have better manners and are more controlled. Anyone can have an experience,but anecdotal evidence does not a valid conclusion make.

minesbroken · 11-14-2010, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by FLtoLONGISLAND

Kids are kids. Where I came from the kids are no different than those here. I have siblings with children in both Virginia and Texas, and they say Long Island children have better manners and are more controlled. Anyone can have an experience,but anecdotal evidence does not a valid conclusion make.

kids are kids...isn't that the truth...and like all people they are all different. and just like they cant all learn math at the same rate...some cant learn discipline at the same rate.

Pequaman · 11-14-2010, 06:36 PM

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huh? He/she is obviously not from the area so "you people" is just like "you guys" and does not sound like it is a remark.

It's poor etiquote that you wouldn't expect from someone preaching about "manners". (the OP)

That's all.

twingles · 11-14-2010, 06:42 PM

We recently moved off Long Island and I can't really comment on different parenting styles since I have not been here long enough, but I will say, the level of school discipline down here would never be tolerated on Long Island (and no, we don't have corporal punishment down here). When the kids are in the hallway at school they are expected to get in line, eyes on the shoulders of the person in front of them, and STAY QUIET. And if they don't there are REAL consequences. In NY, the kids go from class to specials and back again willy-nilly, with no thought or regard for the fact that there are classes going on in the rooms they are passing by.

Sounds like you had an awfully bad weekend on Long Island....not sure it's a Long Island thing but at a basic level I can now say, yes - it's likely more tolerated there.

Pequaman · 11-14-2010, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Pequaman

It's poor etiquote that you wouldn't expect from someone preaching about "manners". (the OP)

That's all.

**etiquette

okaydorothy · 11-15-2010, 04:35 AM

I also think that some parents here want to be their kids best friends. Let me give you an example that is true

We have friends that live in Boston. The mum wanted to be the cool mum and as a result let the kids (boy and girl) do whatever they wanted and never got scolded. The father wanted to be a parent. Anytime the father tried to scold the boy, the mum scolded the father.

Fast foward ; now at age 18 and 15, neither child wants to live with mum. Parents divorced about 6 years ago. I was with the dad and his girlfriend and daughter over the summer. The daughter is very upset and says ; I need my mum to be my parent, not my friend. The boy hasnt lived with the mum for a few years and choose to live in the fathers dingy basement apartment, sleeping on a couch.

Also a parent cannot suddenly try to discipline the child when they are teenagers. I have followed thru with any punishment that I felt my children deserved. Now at 11 and 10 they are mannerly, hold the door open for people, say please and thank you. They know what we expect.

scottzilla · 11-15-2010, 06:35 AM

I only wish each and every one of you would write a book about proper parenting so I can become a better parent.

BigMike50 · 11-15-2010, 07:31 AM

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I only wish each and every one of you would write a book about proper parenting so I can become a better parent.

What do you need a book for

As a parent you should know how to bring your children if not then there is no hope for you. My wife and I wife would never tolerate bad behavior or manners or any form of disrespect to us or any others for that matter. The children are a reflection of you, parents have to remember that. Its easier to bend a tree when its young and small. If you act like their friend, their going to treat you as such. There is such a thing as tough love without getting physical and as a more mature and experienced person you should know what to do