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JJJ...some people just relish in the general...I think choice is a many splendored thing and we all make them..I, too, appreciate that we have some trees on the Island, but not everyone sees the glass the way others do...
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Rude comment coming from a true New Yorker, That's why I left.
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Get a grip, you moved there from Plainview what...a month ago? I hope you're working on that espanola and making some real life friends up there in the boogie down... but from the tone of these posts, it doesn't sound like it. Don't forget that even though the BX is lacking in commercial retailers save for fried chicken and 99 cent stores, the worlds largest open air mall is located only a few miles south across the river. Don't get it twisted, the fact that you can buy bootleg DVDs and knockoff handbags off a shopping cart outside the Apple Store does not make Manhattan a culturally vibrant experience, it only makes it (at least) on par with the worst of LI's malls in the materialistic pissing match that is constantly being waged in your head.
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I also agree with your previous note about the malls. I'm not a mall dweller either that's for sure, I look like I'm on a mission impossible when I have to get to one store (which takes an hour to get to with the indoor mall traffic!)...people must think I'm in some sort of mall race with my daughter's stroller and dragging my son behind me, I almost break out in hives from the stress of getting in and out! |
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In addition, every day I pick up the paper and yet another story of scumbags that are lying and cheating us contributing to our already ridiculous taxes that I know goes to waste. Can't live here.. but right now can't go anywhere else because we have our business here that is barely keeping us afloat and NO money saved to make a move outside of NY with a small child. It's depressing.. and I feel sometimes completely hopeless about the situation. Trying tostay positive.. I"ve always been a positive person.. but lately.. it's getting harder. And the people on LI are worse! They are snobs who think that LI is the be all end all. They ridicule those ina mortgage mess because of "trying to keep up wiht the Jones's" and accuse all of them of living in McMansions..huh? We're not the land of McMansions. Yet, goon Newsdays forums and then they call anyone they think is living in a Mastic or someplace like that "white trash" because their house isn't as "nice" as theirs or whatever. Why put down people for trying to live and livign in what they COULD possibly afford here.. which even the worse neighborhoods have become out of reach! I've had it with this place.. Both brothers and my mother have left.. We 're the only ones left and we're trapped! Long Island is a hell hole.. a big money pit that the rest of the country.. heck the rest of NY State , politicians, school administrators and lawyers think is one big ATM Machine! |
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Don't let Long Island destroy your life. If you really want out, then do it. Why can't you just relocate your business. What kind of business is it? You are actually in a better position to move then most people. Most small towns around the country would welcome you if you open up a business in their area. When people go to relocate they will find themselves in competition with the locals for jobs. This causes friction sometimes, but if you are bringing something it will be appreciated. Just be aware that everyplace is basically the same except for the weather, housing costs, population density and the type of people in a given area. I've lived in three states, a big city, suburbs and a small town and people are essentially the same everywhere. I hope everything works out. Best of Luck... |
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It's not really a brick and mortor type of business. It's one where you have to build up "contacts" and get to know people to go to with the stuff you have to sell etc. It would literally be starting all over again..which we dont' mind.. but we would have to live off something in order to do that.. but we have nothing to live off of.. LI has sucked up our savings and now we're treading water.. and swallowing a lot of it..if you get my meaning! Just having a bad day I guess!!! |
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Have you thought about giving up your business and getting regular jobs off of LI? The business is obviously not making enough to support you on LI anyway. What about renting out your home until you have some equity in it, then sell? Even if you have to rent it for less than the mortgage, its better to have to come up with some money to put towards the mortgage, than the whole mortgage. You could move out of state, rent a 2 bedroom apartment and start over. Sorry if none of this is feasable, you just seem like you are in a really rough place. |
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Well. I thought about getting a job outside of the busines.. You want to know the SAD part.. the busines brings in more money than I would make at a full time job. I could work as an administrator etc.. at what.. maybe 30 - 40K.. not bad right.. BUT on LI .. that is abysmal. My husband could stay working in the business..but would then loose me helping him with it and it would require us to hire an employee.. which we wouldn't hire on the boosk because we couldn't afford to pay someone to work on a salary that wuold be able to support them AND give them the benefits like insurance.. plus all the taxes and the unemployment insurance.. add nauseum. I haven't gotten a full time job up to this point because working that job would realy only net me maybe $200 a week after paying for my sons childcare and taxes. Yes.. I'd hae the insurance benefits which I then wouldn't have to pay for myself.. but still wouldn't amount to enough to actually help with the bills and would be countered by the person we'd have to hire to take the place of what I do for our business. Mother in law is here from Europe..so I will go get a waitressing job..becasue now I dont' haev tow orry about childcare. My husband couldn't be depended on for childcare before at odd hours becaues he is ALWAYS busy .. always working.. .. my little waitressing job will cover the small bills and give some relief.. but NOT enough relief. I've thought through every possible scenario here.. and have come to the conclusion that staying on LI was a HUGE mistake. Whatever made me think that I could raise a family here. Yeah.. both of us could work like dogs just to survive.. but then I'd never get to see my kids at all. As it is my husband hardly gets to see him. Yeah..I am in a bad place right now.. just the stress of it all gets to you you know. And we don't make LITTLE money..we make pretty good money at our business.. CERTAINLY more than middle income in teh U.S. Anywhere else thigns would be great.. but here on LI .. forget it.. even at $100K a year you're struggling Ilive in a small levitt house 1100 square feet.. hardly living high on the hog.. and I don't really care too. I just want to live peacefully with some sense of security and without the stress.. a nice modest house.. no mcmansion with lots of expensive toys. I guess I'm just havign a bad day.. some thing I see mto have more and more these days. LI is getting to me.. the cost of living.. and I hate to say this but the people.. And sick of reading how there is so much corruption in our gov't and people getting rich with perks off of the backs of people like me and all of us Li'rs.. just disheartening.. |
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