23 years old -- so lonely on long island! (fit in, construction)

[Zerby]

That word friends is thrown around too loosely nowadays. You cant "seek" friends. You can only "seek" acquaintances. Real friends will come to you and vice-versa without effort, they will reveal themselves throughout your normal interactions on a day to day basis. Focus on yourself, be yourself, and things will fall into place. Keep yourself busy on things you enjoy and let the rest work itself out. You cant "try" to make friends! I believe that if a person has had a handful of "true friends" within their lifetime they are well ahead of the game!

[hotkarl]

If you really think about it, LI is a lonely place to live. Even with all the people around and things to do, it's very shallow and has no soul. If you really wanna get all spiritual and stuff like that...

[FrmlyBklyn]

Originally Posted by truth to valid

Nah, that's not rude. I'm glad you brought it up.

I'm mainly talking about upgrading my social network -- high school was basically 6 years to a decade ago, I'm a different person now than I was then. That said, I still talk to some friends from high school sporadically, but they aren't doing much with their lives anyway right now, so its boring. Also, I'm 'friends' with people right now, just that they're in their 30's and 40's, and I was hoping to meet younger, datable girls. haha

I went to college in Maryland and made friends there but they all live 300+ miles from me now!

I just wish there were more events and things to do on long island to meet people, as anything that anybody ever seems to do here when they go out, is to shop!

Match.com or Plentyoffish.com or Jdate or E-harmony - you're on City-Data, why aren't you on any of those sites?

[FrmlyBklyn]

Originally Posted by hotkarl

If you really think about it, LI is a lonely place to live. Even with all the people around and things to do, it's very shallow and has no soul. If you really wanna get all spiritual and stuff like that...

Why are you living there then?

[I_Love_LI_but]

Originally Posted by FrmlyBklyn

Why are you living there then?

Your problem is you are thinking LOGICALLY!

If you take a look at some of the other "GET OUT NOW!!!! posts," you will see that they are from a similar type of person ...

... one who moved back to Long Island, a place they used to hate, a place that they still hate, and curiously waste year after year after year growing older and older by the minute on Long Island, hating it every step of the way.

They will be the first people to tell you to get out, yet will be the ones who will doggedly STAY.

Now that's living!!!!

[NYEconomist]

Originally Posted by Zerby

That word friends is thrown around too loosely nowadays. You cant "seek" friends. You can only "seek" acquaintances. Real friends will come to you and vice-versa without effort, they will reveal themselves throughout your normal interactions on a day to day basis. Focus on yourself, be yourself, and things will fall into place. Keep yourself busy on things you enjoy and let the rest work itself out. You cant "try" to make friends! I believe that if a person has had a handful of "true friends" within their lifetime they are well ahead of the game!

No. No. No! NO! My The Facebook status distinctly says I have 4,000 "friends." It must be true, I read it on the interwebz.

"If you want a friend, get a dog."

-Icahn

Zerby has it, you can't force these things. It just happens naturally. Find something you are passionate about, go do it, meet people that have the same passion. Profit!

[Jetties]

Originally Posted by hotkarl

If you really think about it, LI is a lonely place to live. Even with all the people around and things to do, it's very shallow and has no soul. If you really wanna get all spiritual and stuff like that...

What nonsense.

[hotkarl]

Originally Posted by I_Love_LI_but

Your problem is you are thinking LOGICALLY!

If you take a look at some of the other "GET OUT NOW!!!! posts," you will see that they are from a similar type of person ...

... one who moved back to Long Island, a place they used to hate, a place that they still hate, and curiously waste year after year after year growing older and older by the minute on Long Island, hating it every step of the way.

They will be the first people to tell you to get out, yet will be the ones who will doggedly STAY.

Now that's living!!!!

I'm no longer bitter or anti-LI anymore. Is it my dream place to live?
hell no.
But I'm making the best of it for now. Life is too short to sweat all the pissy things commonly complained about on this forum. Now that I've landed a pretty decent gig, it sheds a whole other light on things. When you can pay your bills every month without worrying about where your next dollar is coming from, it makes a world of difference in your overall quality of life, it's like a huge weight being pulled off your chest and being able to breath freely again. Yes it is way too expensive to live here, and a large majority of the people are rude, self centered and obnoxious, but whatever. I ignore it now. Things on my 60x100 are alright and that's really what matters most.

I'll be the first to admit my dead-pan sarcasm is sometimes taken the wrong way, but mostly, it's just me entertaining myself.

[I_Love_LI_but]

Originally Posted by hotkarl

I'm no longer bitter or anti-LI anymore. Is it my dream place to live?
hell no.
But I'm making the best of it for now. Life is too short to sweat all the pissy things commonly complained about on this forum. Now that I've landed a pretty decent gig, it sheds a whole other light on things. When you can pay your bills every month without worrying about where your next dollar is coming from, it makes a world of difference in your overall quality of life, it's like a huge weight being pulled off your chest and being able to breath freely again. Yes it is way too expensive to live here, and a large majority of the people are rude, self centered and obnoxious, but whatever. I ignore it now. Things on my 60x100 are alright and that's really what matters most.

I'll be the first to admit my dead-pan sarcasm is sometimes taken the wrong way, but mostly, it's just me entertaining myself.

I caught your sarcasm.

I wasn't talking about your post on this thread.

Congratulation on landing a good gig!

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by truth to valid

I'm 23 and have been working my first full-time, 'real' job out of school for about a year now (located on the island) and have very, very few friends left here -- most of whom are retained friends from high school, but I feel I've grown apart from them to be honest. I'm finding it very hard as a young person on LI to meet other people in similar situations.

I've even started a volunteer gig over the weekend, but unfortunately I'm the only young person there! At least its outdoors and somewhat enjoyable for me...though I hoped it would open some more doors, socially.

Should I just look for a job in the city to get out of this rut? All I do when I come home after work is read, surf the web, watch documentaries or teach myself things -- no one to confide in, talk with, etc. Lonely.

Sorry but the problem isn't Long island, it's you. I was in the same situation with my job @ 23 years old. I lived at home and even though I was single, I had a ton of friends and a great social life (still do...not single anymore though).

The bottom line is if you don't put yourself out there you're going to be in the same situation you are now. I used to tell myself when I was single that it was the guys here that was keeping me single- it was me that was keeping me single.