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This is such horsehockey. I have been cleaning school toilets for over 25 years and see it all. Bullying in schools is such a minute problem blown out of proportion by a handful of insecure hovering mothers who's husbands are either whipped or out screwing around.
Why is the emphasis always on the kids who are minding their own business and are harassed needing to "do something?"
Who is really the cause of the problem?
The shy kid sitting quietly in the corner OR the bully who takes action to attack that kid either physically or verbally or both?
Maybe if the bullies were the ones who were treated like there was something wrong with them instead of their victims being treated like that, their inappropriate behavior would stop. Maybe if bullies' parents were immediately told to leave work and come to school to pick their kid up once their kid has launched into action or the bullies' parents were the ones who were told they should get their kid counselling, they would not tolerate bullying others from their kids.
What's particularly sad is when a bullied child defends himself physically and THEY are the one who gets in trouble for doing so, not the bully who has harassed them and made their life unbearable.
It's always blame the victim. I think treating bullies and their parents harshly would nip this behavior in the bud instead of treating the bullied, who have done NOTHING at all, like the one with something wrong with them would be more effective.
No one is blaming the victim. But, throughout life we all have to deal with bullies, not just in school. There are bullies everywhere, maybe a boss, maybe a cop, maybe a co-worker or a neighbor. And guess what. Once you get past the age of about 16 or so no one is going to step in and "punish" the bully for you (unless this bully is violent or commits actual crimes). You need to deal with it yourself, and if you go the first two decades of your life with authorities stepping in to "protect" you from generally minor incidents of bullying you will never gain the confidence to stand up for yourself. In extreme cases, yes, the school bully should be dealt with harshly, but this recent trend of pretending bullying in school is something new is ridiculous. That's life, you better learn to deal with aggressive people or they will walk all over you. This is not a defense of bullies, I simply don't think there is a way to prevent this type of behavior, some people are a-holes and that's that, we can't socially engineer that aspect of human nature away.
Why is the emphasis always on the kids who are minding their own business and are harassed needing to "do something?"
Who is really the cause of the problem?
The shy kid sitting quietly in the corner OR the bully who takes action to attack that kid either physically or verbally or both?
Maybe if the bullies were the ones who were treated like there was something wrong with them instead of their victims being treated like that, their inappropriate behavior would stop. Maybe if bullies' parents were immediately told to leave work and come to school to pick their kid up once their kid has launched into action or the bullies' parents were the ones who were told they should get their kid counselling, they would not tolerate bullying others from their kids.
What's particularly sad is when a bullied child defends himself physically and THEY are the one who gets in trouble for doing so, not the bully who has harassed them and made their life unbearable.
It's always blame the victim. I think treating bullies and their parents harshly would nip this behavior in the bud instead of treating the bullied, who have done NOTHING at all, like the one with something wrong with them would be more effective.
Do you think that once these kids grow up, mommy and daddy will be stepping in when their boss demands something from them? What about if someone comes up to them with bad intentions walking down the street? Should they call mommy and daddy and cower away and hide?
No. Both sides are wrong -- bullies aren't going to just go away, whether it's on the school playground or in college or in a workplace, nor should kids just run away and expect someone else to solve their problems.
Well I went to high school on Long Island as a gay teen in the late 90s. Bullying is a problem only for a few kids, which is why alot of people underestimate how bad it actually is. I was spit on almost everyday, I got into ALOT of fights where it was me or another friend against 10 guys. And girls are just as bad. I remember getting jumped walking home from school while 3 guys beat me up with 2 girls watching and laughing. Its bad. Anyone who has been bullied will tell you it is one of the worst experiences of your life.
Imagine going to work everyday and 90% of the people harrass you and a few really bad seeds actually get physical with you. Oh and you cant quit. That was high school for me, the worst 4 years of my life.
Mommy mommy...call the boss..he wants me to work a whole 8 hours a day...he's mean to me.
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