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We left NY for good 9 years ago this year. Our parents gave us the confidence we needed to be successful no matter where we chose to live. As a result of leaving the area and the fact that we are thriving in our jobs in our adopted home, we were able to purchase a second home for my in-laws to live in last year so now they are just 10 minutes away.
Plus, having another house is generating wealth that will someday go to our kids so they won't have to struggle when they get older. We will encourage them to follow their dreams and go where life takes them just like our parents did. Even though they are native Texans, I bet they will want to live in NY.
No, it is not essential. I do not have one, and neither do several other posters.
Obviously you have money problems, or you wouldn't have to resort to a job that literally leaves you no time for anything but working, commuting, and sleeping.
If you dropped your smart phone data plan and maybe cut out some other luxuries, you could afford a job on LI.
If you lived close to your job, you wouldn't have to spend that much on gas. Far less than what you pay for the LIRR.
At least in my field, most NYC firms have very strict, formal dress codes, while the LI firm that I work for has a very casual dress code. So I pay very little for clothes, while my peers working in NYC have to own several expensive suits.
A smart phone data plan is not part of a livable wage.
A smart phone is essential. There are apps that can literally save your life.
Also smart phones have a flashlight. Ever try changing a tire in the dark? Bet you wish you would have had a smart phone.
There is an app that can read your texts to you in a voice so you dont have to text & drive. I dont know about you but i think that is something that can save a life.
Also I didnt "resort" to this job. I chose it. I could have had jobs with less hours. I didnt want those particular offers. You know I have weekends off so I do actually hang with friends & family & do things orher than work, sleep & commute. I am also married and I have young nieces and I still have the time to make my living, see friends & fam and have time for myself.
If I took a job on LI that would entail a paycut. Why on earth would i want to do that especially when I am the higher earner btwn me and my husband?
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We left NY for good 9 years ago this year. Our parents gave us the confidence we needed to be successful no matter where we chose to live. As a result of leaving the area and the fact that we are thriving in our jobs in our adopted home, we were able to purchase a second home for my in-laws to live in last year so now they are just 10 minutes away.
Plus, having another house is generating wealth that will someday go to our kids so they won't have to struggle when they get older. We will encourage them to follow their dreams and go where life takes them just like our parents did. Even though they are native Texans, I bet they will want to live in NY.
Glad you were able to thrive elsewhere but it is also possible to thrive on LI as well. Many people do.
Also smart phones have a flashlight. Ever try changing a tire in the dark? Bet you wish you would have had a smart phone.
No, I use a real flashlight, which doesn't require a monthly fee.
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There is an app that can read your texts to you in a voice so you dont have to text & drive. I dont know about you but i think that is something that can save a life.
I don't text and drive. Any text can wait until I'm finished driving. If I absolutely have to respond to a text, I'll pull over in a safe place.
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Also I didnt "resort" to this job. I chose it. I could have had jobs with less hours. I didnt want those particular offers. You know I have weekends off so I do actually hang with friends & family & do things orher than work, sleep & commute. I am also married and I have young nieces and I still have the time to make my living, see friends & fam and have time for myself.
Not based on my math.
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If I took a job on LI that would entail a paycut. Why on earth would i want to do that especially when I am the higher earner btwn me and my husband?
A job on LI would give you far more free time, and would actually allow you to enjoy your money. Why on earth would I want a job that gives me less free time, regardless of how much money I make?
No, I use a real flashlight, which doesn't require a monthly fee.
I don't text and drive. Any text can wait until I'm finished driving. If I absolutely have to respond to a text, I'll pull over in a safe place.
Not based on my math.
A job on LI would give you far more free time, and would actually allow you to enjoy your money. Why on earth would I want a job that gives me less free time, regardless of how much money I make?
So you have a flashlight in your glove compartment?
"Not on your math??" Bc you know about my job situation, right? Bc you know the offers I got and what I do for a living? Please tell me what you know about my job.
When did I complain about a lack of free time? The amount of free time I have is just fine.
I dont know how old you are but I suspect I am younger. Most ppl would consider a smart phone to be essential. If you dont thats fine, but I would wager most feel differently.
So you have a flashlight in your glove compartment?
I have one in the back of my car.
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"Not on your math??" Bc you know about my job situation, right? Bc you know the offers I got and what I do for a living? Please tell me what you know about my job.
You said that your door to door commute is 3 hours each way. I did the math.
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When did I complain about a lack of free time? The amount of free time I have is just fine.
You have basically no free time, yet you seem ok with it. I wouldn't be ok with it.
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I dont know how old you are but I suspect I am younger. Most ppl would consider a smart phone to be essential. If you dont thats fine, but I would wager most feel differently.
How can it be essential, when people lived without them for a long time, and some (like myself) still live without them? Are you going to tell starving people in Africa that a smart phone is essential?
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Pulling over isnt always option
Then I wait until it is an option. The only place where I can think of where pulling over isn't an option is on the parkways, since they lack shoulders. So you get off at the next exit, and pull over or go into a parking lot. Not that hard!
You said that your door to door commute is 3 hours each way. I did the math.
You have basically no free time, yet you seem ok with it. I wouldn't be ok with it.
How can it be essential, when people lived without them for a long time, and some (like myself) still live without them? Are you going to tell starving people in Africa that a smart phone is essential?
Then I wait until it is an option. The only place where I can think of where pulling over isn't an option is on the parkways, since they lack shoulders. So you get off at the next exit, and pull over or go into a parking lot. Not that hard!
Ok well I think the majority of ppl dont have flashlights in their cars so for those people a smart phone is a good option if you need a source of light. What if you were in your friend's car who didn't have a flashlight and neither of you had a smart phone and you needed to change a tire, I think you'd prob hope you had a smart phone. Also there is an app that acts a panic button. Fortunately I have one on my car key, not everyone does. If you had a daughter and she didnt have a key with a panic button, wouldnt it make you feel better to know she could have a cell phone with one it that could potentially save her life? This is why I'd argue a smart phone is essential. It could absolutely save a life.
I have no free time?? You know there are Saturdays & Sundays right? I also get 3 weeks vacation and 10 holidays off. I'd say I have plenty of free time. I've been all over Europe. I suppose traveling doesnt require free time?
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