Moving back to Long Island from NC

[andybuildz]

Originally Posted by Just Peachy

I just moved back to LI from NC. The job situation was terrible, the pay was terrible, I had the neighbors from he!!, the police don't do anything to protect you, in my neighborhood all the people were small minded and had only half a brain! I made some nice friends from NY there, and the weather is always sunny and extrememly hot in the summer but overall I loved the weather. Oh businesses never call you back even when you are talking about an $11,000 job for your house, they don't like northerners there, food costs the same if not more in NC, home depot and the like is the same price as NY, the beach was like 5/6 hours away, NCer's can't drive..especially in the rain! I've come to the conclusion there is no perfect place to live but LI is what I know and love and you can come home...without saving all your house profits...as I am proof!!

Where were you in NC?
The thing I noticed about areas that were of interest to me like Buncombe Country (Asheville area) was that even though it was/is a pretty left leaning city the "locals" seem to be still living in the days of the Civil War. I suppose one of the thing they don't like is how the mtns are becoming conjested with an influx of houses and gated communities. All that brings their taxes up as well. Can't blame them I suppose but it's ineveitable anywhere you go.
I think if you know who you are and you're pretty sure of what you want then you'll be OK where ever you go. It's when you expect life to walk into you so to speak...where you run into trouble. That's just taking one giant chance. To me you should be walking into life not the other way around if you know what I mean. If you're a grounded person and know your boundries and your interests...and do your homework you should be good to go...where ever.

I don't think you can just uproot and plant yourself anywhere with out investigating it like your life depended on it...cause it kinda does.

And going anywhere with little money and no work is simply just asking for trouble. That's not taking a risk..that's just dumb and I'm not directing that at anyone in general....just sayin'.

Its also about your expectations and how realistic a person is.
LI/NY is one of the most diverse places in the world. Down south is a whole other world so you better know whatcha getting into.
Don't expect to move to another country and not know the language

[NYC2RDU]

Originally Posted by andybuildz

..... Its also about your expectations and how realistic a person is. LI/NY is one of the most diverse places in the world. Down south is a whole other world so you better know whatcha getting into.
Don't expect to move to another country and not know the language

Long Island is diverse if you're a pollster. If you live in a North Shore community the only diversity is that between the uber-wealthy, the upper class and the upper-middle class. My kids didn't have any one who was black or Latino in their grade. There were two religions represented in our neighborhood and there was virtually nobody who lived in an apartment let alone a place their family didn't own.

They now have friends of all races, religions and economic standing. They now understand that all because someone is in a different economic tier than us it doesn't dictate who they are.

And the blend of society that exists here in Raleigh is far superior than what I knew on Long Island. For the sake of perspective I'll share that I grew up in a working class neighborhood in Queens which was somewhat diverse and Raleigh is more like where I grew up than the North Shore town I moved from.

[slynn41072]

Originally Posted by NYC2RDU

Long Island is diverse if you're a pollster. If you live in a North Shore community the only diversity is that between the uber-wealthy, the upper class and the upper-middle class. My kids didn't have any one who was black or Latino in their grade. There were two religions represented in our neighborhood and there was virtually nobody who lived in an apartment let alone a place their family didn't own.

They now have friends of all races, religions and economic standing. They now understand that all because someone is in a different economic tier than us it doesn't dictate who they are.

And the blend of society that exists here in Raleigh is far superior than what I knew on Long Island. For the sake of perspective I'll share that I grew up in a working class neighborhood in Queens which was somewhat diverse and Raleigh is more like where I grew up than the North Shore town I moved from.

I agree 100%.

[threesons]

Originally Posted by slynn41072

I agree 100%.

Everyone forgets about the slums in Long Island (gangsters and hoodlums and drugs). There were neighborhoods I would not want to be caught in alone. dont forget to lock the car door and don't stop at the red light. Long Island and NY are not represented only by the Upper class neighborhoods. Just like the South is not represented by only the hill billy rural areas.
Where I moved (south of Charlotte) there are Targets, Best Buy, Marshalls, Cold Stone, a million Star bucks, banks, doctors, dentist, pet smart, home depot, lowes etc ... all in a 5 mile radius. Beutiful homes and schools. So no I don't live in the South as you see it.

[andybuildz]

Depends too how you look at an area. Depends how old you are and the people in your family. If schools are the number one thing then I suppose you have to look at per school district b/c each district is different.
I live in the Huntington area and there are many school districts within this area....some a LOT more diverse then others. I don't know if you consider Huntington the North Shore or not....I do and I consider the Huntington area VERY diverse. Cold Spring Harbor is most certainly not but CSH is literally five minutes away from the town of Huntington...walking.
I grew up on the south shore and when I grew up there it wasn't all that diverse. I went to Elmont HS and there wasn't one black kid in the entire school which really bothered me being we moved there from Corona Queens. I was a city kid. I think one can't generalize between the north and south shore. Be more specific in your words and thoughts. Elmont has done an about face since I lived there but i'm sure you can look at race or religion and find areas of the south shore that aren't as mixed as some might want.
This appears to be the same concensus when speaking about southern states.

[NYC2RDU]

Originally Posted by threesons

Everyone forgets about the slums in Long Island (gangsters and hoodlums and drugs). There were neighborhoods I would not want to be caught in alone. dont forget to lock the car door and don't stop at the red light. Long Island and NY are not represented only by the Upper class neighborhoods. Just like the South is not represented by only the hill billy rural areas.

Originally Posted by andybuildz

I live in the Huntington area and there are many school districts within this area....some a LOT more diverse then others. I don't know if you consider Huntington the North Shore or not....I do and I consider the Huntington area VERY diverse. Cold Spring Harbor is most certainly not but CSH is literally five minutes away from the town of Huntington...walking.

In regards to both posts, I agree that Long Island has areas that are diverse and also less than desirable (though not necessarily one and the same). Ironically I was tattooed recently for posting something to that effect in another thread. However the truth remains that the majority of people who live on Long Island or who want to don't aspire to such neighborhoods. You never here someone talking about how they got a great deal in New Cassel or Wyandanch and the schools there are just wonderful.

My children are exposed to diversity while living in a great neighborhood and that, in my opinion, is an advantage.

Also, Huntington is not diverse unless you're looking to attach Huntington Station to it; then it's diverse.

[threesons]

[However the truth remains that the majority of people who live on Long Island or who want to don't aspire to such neighborhoods.

That is my point. That holds true for any state. People live in bubbles and only know what they have grown with. North Carolina has great places to live that are just as good as the great places in LI. People are quick to put down what they do not know, it is intimidating. I was guilty of it myself when my friend moved to CAry. I did not want to believe there could be a better place to live. And am I sold that NC is a better place to live, not sure. I am only here 11 months. I love it so far, sure it gets tough at times and lonely. But I was lonely and stressed at times in NY too.

[nbres]

Originally Posted by NYC2RDU

Long Island is diverse if you're a pollster. If you live in a North Shore community the only diversity is that between the uber-wealthy, the upper class and the upper-middle class. My kids didn't have any one who was black or Latino in their grade. There were two religions represented in our neighborhood and there was virtually nobody who lived in an apartment let alone a place their family didn't own.

They now have friends of all races, religions and economic standing. They now understand that all because someone is in a different economic tier than us it doesn't dictate who they are.

And the blend of society that exists here in Raleigh is far superior than what I knew on Long Island. For the sake of perspective I'll share that I grew up in a working class neighborhood in Queens which was somewhat diverse and Raleigh is more like where I grew up than the North Shore town I moved from.

I suppose there are still a few areas that are mostly white, but Long Island as a whole is more diverse than ever.

What is true though is that Long Island is more divided by class than ever before. Most Long Islanders are members of the Working-Middle Class and live in a completely different and separate world away, but in reality a mere few miles often, from the wealthy.

Thus, what develops is that snob attitude some Long Islanders are unfortunately known for. In reality snobish behaviour is really just classism. And classism is rampant on Long Island. It is displayed constantly on this site.