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OP seems more concerned with what people think of them as a couple looks-wise than racial-wise.
No one cares. Have you ever heard of NY referred to as the "great melting pot"?
well, the truth is that society cares a lot about looks and if a woman that is unattractive or fat goes interracial, people won't really care that much
on the other hand if a woman is attractive and white and gets with a guy that is non-white and looks foreign, society will start to show some of its animosity.
I do know of a few interracial couples on LI with an Indian male and white female. My husband and I are interracial (he's Asian - Chinese - I'm white). I lived in Manhattan until relocating to LI when I married my husband, and truth be told, I did see more racism in parts of LI than the city. For instance, I now have a Chinese last name, and I'm often asked if I was adopted (rather than assuming I would marry a Asian man first); I've had people ask me if he "forced" me to change my name. He's been called "Oriental" more times than I'd like to remember. So yes, you and your wife might have to address questions that will make you wonder if people just realized interracial marriages are legal.
But then again, I'm comparing LI to a comparatively tolerant and progressive city, so I don't know if I'm giving it a fair shake. Point is, there is a vibrant - and growing! - Indian community on LI. It might not be as progressive as I - or you - would like it to be, but you won't be out of place, and you won't be chased out of town with pitchforks.
I feel like the struggles interracial relationships involving white women with Asian and Indian men face are unique. For years, white women have been dating black men so no one really cares as much about those couples since they're very common. Also, with Asians and Indians, people find it okay to be openly racist towards them since there is nothing really as wrong with making an Asian joke as opposed to a black joke.
The problems you encountered don't seem that bad from what I hear. Another reason I was concerned is because I knew a Mexican guy (who could easily pass for Indian) that moved from Pennsylvania and he was married to this blonde from Germany, he said people were very confrontational towards him there. Some guys would openly challenge him to fights in public and shout at the couple saying to the woman "you don't belong with him".
CNN's latino in America did do a piece about a latino immigrant who was beaten to death in Pennsylvania for being with a white woman. I just always had this impression that the northeast is not as tolerant and accepting towards interracial relationships as other regions of the country.
I feel like the struggles interracial relationships involving white women with Asian and Indian men face are unique. For years, white women have been dating black men so no one really cares as much about those couples since they're very common. Also, with Asians and Indians, people find it okay to be openly racist towards them since there is nothing really as wrong with making an Asian joke as opposed to a black joke.
The problems you encountered don't seem that bad from what I hear. Another reason I was concerned is because I knew a Mexican guy (who could easily pass for Indian) that moved from Pennsylvania and he was married to this blonde from Germany, he said people were very confrontational towards him there. Some guys would openly challenge him to fights in public and shout at the couple saying to the woman "you don't belong with him".
CNN's latino in America did do a piece about a latino immigrant who was beaten to death in Pennsylvania for being with a white woman. I just always had this impression that the northeast is not as tolerant and accepting towards interracial relationships as other regions of the country.
I can't speak for PA (although keep in mind PA varies a lot by region, and the incident you speak of is from 7 years ago) but here on Long Island, not many people would have a problem with a Latino guy dating a white women, a white guy dating a Latina woman, or any other racial combination for that matter, including the OP's.
Oriental is not a slur. Asian can be someone who is Chinese/Japanese or Indian. So term Asian does not tell you much. But oriental tells you they are from the Orient.
Oriental is not a slur. Asian can be someone who is Chinese/Japanese or Indian. So term Asian does not tell you much. But oriental tells you they are from the Orient.
Rugs are Oriental, people are Asian.
However, for a certain age demographic, this is a hard habit to break and is not meant as a slur.
Oriental is not a slur. Asian can be someone who is Chinese/Japanese or Indian. So term Asian does not tell you much. But oriental tells you they are from the Orient.
I know a man from the Philipines who told me he doesn't find the term Oriental offensive at all. I think it's just one of those things where the acceptable term changes over the years. I'd like to know by whom, because all this tiresome political correctness is wearing me out.
I do know of a few interracial couples on LI with an Indian male and white female. My husband and I are interracial (he's Asian - Chinese - I'm white). I lived in Manhattan until relocating to LI when I married my husband, and truth be told, I did see more racism in parts of LI than the city. For instance, I now have a Chinese last name, and I'm often asked if I was adopted (rather than assuming I would marry a Asian man first); I've had people ask me if he "forced" me to change my name. He's been called "Oriental" more times than I'd like to remember. So yes, you and your wife might have to address questions that will make you wonder if people just realized interracial marriages are legal.
But then again, I'm comparing LI to a comparatively tolerant and progressive city, so I don't know if I'm giving it a fair shake. Point is, there is a vibrant - and growing! - Indian community on LI. It might not be as progressive as I - or you - would like it to be, but you won't be out of place, and you won't be chased out of town with pitchforks.
Totally agree. Yes, OP. You will be amazed at the stupid things people say. Move to an area where residents are educated , and the population is diverse. You will be fine.
The OP has some valid concerns, but he seems insecure. Why worry what anyone else thinks.. It seems that you yourself think that there is a problem with your relationship because your wife is white..... Maybe y ou think she is too good for you, or that everyone is envious of you.... But no one is really looking or caring for that matter. Just live your life and realize that there are all types everywhere... I know alot of interracial couples... One of them was an indian guy with a white girl.... I can tell you that he too thought too much about it, Like marrying white was some type of achievement. Its not, and no one ever cared except for him.
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