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Old 10-10-2008, 07:16 PM
 
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Default Appropriate LI Wedding gift

Hi all, just wondering what an appropriate amount is these days for a wedding gift. The groom is a friend from work whom I've known for about a year. Wife and I are going. Standard wedding at a reception hall..

Is something like $150 a good number? is that too little?

Haven't been to a wedding in some time so just wondering what the going rates are
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Old 10-10-2008, 07:42 PM
 
Location: Sound Beach
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My wife says $75 to $100. I used to be a caterer...and a general rule of thumb was give a gift equal to about what the reception cost per person. That may be hard to pin down a number...but if you think it's about $50 a person then it's in the ballpark. At $75...then your $150 is better.

Theres a lot of variation here...and not much of a standard.
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Old 10-10-2008, 08:41 PM
 
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Hi all, just wondering what an appropriate amount is these days for a wedding gift. The groom is a friend from work whom I've known for about a year. Wife and I are going. Standard wedding at a reception hall..

Is something like $150 a good number? is that too little?

Haven't been to a wedding in some time so just wondering what the going rates are
No less than a buck a head to cover your plate...250 if you want to add a little.

LI weddings aint cheap.


crooks
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Old 10-10-2008, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Long Island
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No less than a buck a head to cover your plate...250 if you want to add a little.

LI weddings aint cheap.


crooks

That why I am getting married in the Virgin Islands. May 09
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Old 10-11-2008, 07:11 AM
 
Location: Eastern Long Island
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I don't believe in "covering my plate", a gift is a gift IMO. An invitation to a wedding should not be equated as me paying my own way.
I know too many young people that choose to have their reception at a hall that's over $200 a head. The luxuriousness of their event does not mean I know them better or feel they deserve more than a closer friend or relative that decided to have a budget conscience reception. I think $200 for a couple attend a wedding of a co-worker is VERY generous. Family & close friends are different.
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Old 10-11-2008, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Suffolk County ,Ny
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I think $100 is enough to give, alot of weddings these days, its easier to just buy something from the registry list(and usually cheaper than giving money) well depending on what store they use to register, IMO (attending is a gift in itself ) lol no really give what you can afford(have a fun time at the wedding)
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Old 10-11-2008, 06:12 PM
 
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You should give what you feel comfortable with.

That said, this time of year on LI, $100-110/head just for the catering facility is probably close to the average, though there is a large range of places (and prices).

You could probably get more guidance if you give the name of the place the wedding is being held and the night of the week.
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Old 10-11-2008, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Dix Hills
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$100 if you hardly see them or dont plan on inviting them to any of your functions.
$150-200 if you see him everyday but they understand WE ALL GOT BILLS
$200-250 close freinds that will be sharing every event for your entire life
$300- +++ ? FAMILY
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Old 10-11-2008, 10:35 PM
 
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If someone decides to have their wedding at a more expensive catering hall or decides to add extravagant extras like a martini bar, sushi bar etc. Why should you have to pay them more. It wasn't your decision to make it so expensive so why should you give them more than the people having it in their backyard? That pay per plate rule is ridiculous and LI weddings are out of control.
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Old 10-11-2008, 11:41 PM
 
Location: Mastic Beach
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If someone decides to have their wedding at a more expensive catering hall or decides to add extravagant extras like a martini bar, sushi bar etc. Why should you have to pay them more. It wasn't your decision to make it so expensive so why should you give them more than the people having it in their backyard? That pay per plate rule is ridiculous and LI weddings are out of control.
an entire waterford crystal set should do it....
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