Why Long Island Sucks (Manhasset, Floyd: new house, refrigerator, good schools)

[Check123]

Your friends in Sands Point are beautiful and courtious people? Yet you seem to lack those same character traits. I don't think your friends need your sympathy, nor do I think anyone would want it. My question to you is "So What?" Why should it matter to you what they own and what they can or cannot afford? I'm amazed at the bitterness on this board. Focus on your own business, and leave others to live their lives they way they want to. Don't like it, find somewhere else to live.

[GypsySoul22]

Check123,
I am the least insecure person in the world. I don't care what other people own. I am a genuine person who enjoys simple things--my son and husband and I go to the park or to the library and have a fine time. I am very friendly and apart from living here (I've lived in several other places in my life) I have always had lots of friends.

People here are either 1) too busy to get to know you or 2) snobs. Of course not EVERYONE is like this. There are genuine people out there but they are hard to find.

I personally don't care what Joe Smith pays for his boat (though he will be sure to insert it into the conversation with total strangers in two minutes), or how Mary Jones has to spend her day running Johnny and Brittany to piano lessons, sports practice and so on. (Again it is competitive...how many things is your son in compared to mine??).

I feel a lot of these women my age have low self esteem--they are the insecure ones who have no life of their own or interests apart from the popularity of their kids.

Hey, in general Long Island would be an okay place to live in but the bottom line is a lot of us HAVE to move. I don't see why this is even open for discussion. I think a lot of people just feel that it's tough **** for anyone else who 'can't make it.'

[Check123]

Gypsy, if you can't handle a stranger telling you about his kids then perhaps you are insecure. Simply smile and at the end of the conversation get on with your life. While you may not care what others pay for their home, boat, etc... it would appear that others on the board do. At least indirectly via their own insecurities. And if you think that others judge you based on what you own then you are insecure in that respect as well.

If others are competitive, then so what. Many others are loafers, and a vast majority of others are somewhere in between. Why some are so concerned with other people is beyond understanding. Perhaps more focus on their own lives would help to alleviate some of the bitterness. And not for nothing, but there isn't a parent alive who doesn't live vicariously though thier children. No matter what they do, they are proud and always pointing out their children's accomplishments, from their first step to their graduation from Medical School. Again, just smile and move on.

As far as others not making it and having to move... who cares. People move all the time, some in, some out. I don't care why they have to move. My only concern is with people who feel the need to bad mouth a certain place simply because they didn't like it. It's all sour grapes.

[NickL28]

Originally Posted by GypsySoul22

Check123,
I am the least insecure person in the world. I don't care what other people own. I am a genuine person who enjoys simple things--my son and husband and I go to the park or to the library and have a fine time. I am very friendly and apart from living here (I've lived in several other places in my life) I have always had lots of friends.

People here are either 1) too busy to get to know you or 2) snobs. Of course not EVERYONE is like this. There are genuine people out there but they are hard to find.

I personally don't care what Joe Smith pays for his boat (though he will be sure to insert it into the conversation with total strangers in two minutes), or how Mary Jones has to spend her day running Johnny and Brittany to piano lessons, sports practice and so on. (Again it is competitive...how many things is your son in compared to mine??).

I feel a lot of these women my age have low self esteem--they are the insecure ones who have no life of their own or interests apart from the popularity of their kids.

Hey, in general Long Island would be an okay place to live in but the bottom line is a lot of us HAVE to move. I don't see why this is even open for discussion. I think a lot of people just feel that it's tough **** for anyone else who 'can't make it.'

Yes, 1 & 2 are valid points especially if you are talking about Long Island where people love to make snap judgments about others based on what they are wearing & what they are driving. It is not a place to move or live if you don't have unlimited means and you value other things in life besides shopping & spending money and making it the centerpiece of every conversation.

[NickL28]

Originally Posted by Check123

I have nothing against people who earn minimum wage. But get serious, you can't expect them to be able to afford a house and raise a family on it. Most people plan their lives in advance. It has nothing to do with being snooty and everything to do with being responsible.

People in general on Long Island don't judge you by what you own. That's called being insecure.

You can't afford a house on minimum wage?? True, but these days it is getting harder & harder to afford to buy a house (or even rent an apartment) on less than a six figure salary.

[Check123]

You think that others are judging you. They're not, you're judging yourself. Perfect example of someone with a chip on their shoulder.

Originally Posted by NickL28

Yes, 1 & 2 are valid points especially if you are talking about Long Island where people love to make snap judgments about others based on what they are wearing & what they are driving. It is not a place to move or live if you don't have unlimited means and you value other things in life besides shopping & spending money and making it the centerpiece of every conversation.

[lifetimeliguy]

stop being so judgemental about the people and attitudes of Long Islanders. It's no different here than other middle/upper middle class suburban areas of any large city. Visit the suburbs of Los Angeles, San Francisco, or Boston.
Probably not much better in small town America. A good friend of mine from a small town in middle Tennessee once told me "If I walk down the driveway in the morning with curlers in my hair (to get the newspaper), the whole town knows about it by noon" .
Go figure.

[Check123]

Well said.

Originally Posted by lifetimeliguy

stop being so judgemental about the people and attitudes of Long Islanders. It's no different here than other middle/upper middle class suburban areas of any large city. Visit the suburbs of Los Angeles, San Francisco, or Boston.
Probably not much better in small town America. A good friend of mine from a small town in middle Tennessee once told me "If I walk down the driveway in the morning with curlers in my hair (to get the newspaper), the whole town knows about it by noon" .
Go figure.

[nutmuffin]

Good for you !dont blame you for leaving.. i would be right there also if i didnt have my parents to take care of..
Tel me.. what is the reaction of native North Carolina people to all the New Yorkers moving in ?

[nutmuffin]

Originally Posted by Check123

Your friends in Sands Point are beautiful and courtious people? Yet you seem to lack those same character traits. I don't think your friends need your sympathy, nor do I think anyone would want it. My question to you is "So What?" Why should it matter to you what they own and what they can or cannot afford? I'm amazed at the bitterness on this board. Focus on your own business, and leave others to live their lives they way they want to. Don't like it, find somewhere else to live.

Ohh ,so its ok for people on this board to make negative comments about where others live...and thats not being elitist ?? Thats not being rude ?

Arent we discussing the price of homes and their value ? I made the valid point that even though a couple buys a home for 400,00 that doesnt mean that they can afford to keep it . I was making the point that many people live above their means... I am perfectly happy to let people make their own mistakes... they have to learn for themselves.. I really dont care. Just taking part in the discussion .. I guess I hit a YUPPY nerve here . sorry.!
If you dont like it, just get in your Lexus and drive away.!