Poor kid in a rich district..... (Laurel, Poquott: transplants, rentals, house)
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We were talking about district like HHH, 3v, Smithtown.
One of my friend's husbands went to 3V and lived in "South Setauket". He said there was a huge difference in attitude between the kids, and kids that lived south of 25a were "poor". He felt like an outcast and would have rather lived in a district where everyone was on the same level.
I went to Longwood, so I don't really have much insight on the rich kid/poor kid dynamic of upper middle class districts. I really did enjoy my years in high school, and I never felt less than anybody.
We were talking about district like HHH, 3v, Smithtown.
One of my friend's husbands went to 3V and lived in "South Setauket". He said there was a huge difference in attitude between the kids, and kids that lived south of 25a were "poor". He felt like an outcast and would have rather lived in a district where everyone was on the same level.
I went to Longwood, so I don't really have much insight on the rich kid/poor kid dynamic of upper middle class districts. I really did enjoy my years in high school, and I never felt less than anybody.
Huge ans painful difference between the Murphy and Gelinas kids in 3V.
We were talking about district like HHH, 3v, Smithtown.
One of my friend's husbands went to 3V and lived in "South Setauket". He said there was a huge difference in attitude between the kids, and kids that lived south of 25a were "poor". He felt like an outcast and would have rather lived in a district where everyone was on the same level.
I went to Longwood, so I don't really have much insight on the rich kid/poor kid dynamic of upper middle class districts. I really did enjoy my years in high school, and I never felt less than anybody.
With all of the distractions there are today, MORE than just a small time ago, it comes down to being self-centered, and generally BORED. Overexposure is just tooo mind-numbing.
One would think, there was not enough TIME, to do ALL to what's available out there, but No. They just want MORE.
the "rich" are not affected by the current recession.
Really? All those people who lost half their investments, the ones whose jobs are connected to the finance industry... Read the Times sometime, the rich are hurting. And crying about it. They had a party for 15 years and now the bill is due.
Also, not everyone in those "rich" districts really is rich. Some, like 3V, HHH, Woodbury, etc are upper middle class and have a lot of families who stretched to buy in a crazy real estate market. A lot of people on LI were living beyond their means. The McMansion has a mortgage, the BMW is leased.
Kids reflect parents' attitudes - so if you drum into them they're inferior due to your own financial circumstances, they'll probably be miserable. But if you don't, they'll be fine.
My kids went through a school district that had quite a number of rich, spoiled kids. But not all the kids in the district were from well-off backgrounds like that; in fact I'd say that there were more middle class kids in the district overall. My kids certainly never suffered from envy, they had many friends, some very well off with many material advantages, and yet they never begged for things.
It really has more to do with the attitude of the family than anything else (and how materialistic the family is).
Very true!
My children are some years behind yours, but the same still applies here.
Their friends are from all ends of the district and we haven't had any problems with not being able to have what the wealthy families have.
My children have a solid family unit, 2 loving and involved parents and a modest home where everyone sits down together for dinner every night. They've seen us budget and plan, they've seen us buckle down when need be, they've seen us celebrate when things go very well.
If a family's priorities are in order, being on the middle to lower end of the economic totem pole in a wealthy area is not an issue.
We were talking about district like HHH, 3v, Smithtown.
One of my friend's husbands went to 3V and lived in "South Setauket". He said there was a huge difference in attitude between the kids, and kids that lived south of 25a were "poor". He felt like an outcast and would have rather lived in a district where everyone was on the same level.
I went to Longwood, so I don't really have much insight on the rich kid/poor kid dynamic of upper middle class districts. I really did enjoy my years in high school, and I never felt less than anybody.
I'm N25A in Stony Brook. We are far from 'rich'. My childrens' friends live all over the district -- South Setauket, Strathmore, newer developments off Pond Path, Strongs Neck, Poquott, Old Field, in the historic districts -- you name it.
As is the case ANYWHERE -- there are snotty brats. Sheesh -- they existed back when I went to Plainedge -- which was not a wealthy district by any means.
AndreaII wrote, "Kids reflect parents' attitudes - so if you drum into them they're inferior due to your own financial circumstances, they'll probably be miserable. But if you don't, they'll be fine." That's very true.
There are children who have missed out on being friends with others because their parents felt the other child/child's family was 'beneath' them. Who is the big loser in that case? The one parent who did that with her child and one of my children has a child who is now in therapy, while the phone rings off the hook for my child.
What I have found is that my children have made friends with other children who share common interests with them. They are a real mixed bag socioeconomically, but they are the best of friends. There have been sleepovers in mansions, development houses, beach cottages -- you name it. They've driven in high end luxury cars and beaters. They share CD's, clothes, form study groups at one another's homes, gone on vacations and camping trips. They are happy to be amongst each other.
One friend had a family which couldn't afford to buy her a computer for school work. The 'gang' took up a collection of $20-$25 each and bought her a laptop for her 16th birthday. Some children, like my oldest, worked to earn that money while others hit up their parents. How they came upon the money isn't as significant as they fact that they take care of each other rich, middle, or poor.
Really? All those people who lost half their investments, the ones whose jobs are connected to the finance industry... Read the Times sometime, the rich are hurting. And crying about it. They had a party for 15 years and now the bill is due.
Also, not everyone in those "rich" districts really is rich. Some, like 3V, HHH, Woodbury, etc are upper middle class and have a lot of families who stretched to buy in a crazy real estate market. A lot of people on LI were living beyond their means. The McMansion has a mortgage, the BMW is leased.
i am not talking about 3v hhh, i dont consider most of those areas rich. upper middle class imo. Dont get me started about the rich hurting. i work in the upper class areas, and there is so much construction and such going on. down in hewlett harbor, 3 homes were having elevators put in.Hurting? i dont think so. the middle class is getting f%$ked! all these ceo's still getting bonuses while workers are getting laid off? gimmie a break.
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