Poor kid in a rich district.....

[S.I.B.]

Originally Posted by AndreaII

Have to say that I agree overall with OhBeeHave - my kids grew up in TVCSD, had friends stretching from one end of the district to the other; all the kids were very supportive of each other. Sounds too good to be true, but that was our experience. We still are very good friends with many of the parents even though our kids have all graduated from HS. Luckily my kids had the sense to not hang around with a bad crowd either - that's when trouble can begin, I would think. We've been very lucky in that regard.

Three Village is mostly middle and upper middle class. Old Field is actually a small area, and not everyone who lives there can actually afford it, so there really aren't that many very wealthy kids in the school district overall.

My kids went to Murphy, certainly didn't suffer for it, took advantage of the programs offered throughout the district, and came out well - one graduated from an Ivy, and the other is in a very highly rate college. Overall, the district did well for my kids - nothing is perfect, some teachers we better than others, but have to say that the upper track well prepared my kids for college academia.

And OhBeeHave, I wouldn't waste my energy trying to convince posters on this thread what the truth is. They know what they know, they believe what they believe. But you and I at least know what the truth is.

Another person who cites their OWN kids/experience as Exhibit A and then thinks that's the end of the story. lol...

[DeadPool1998]

Originally Posted by StephM

Some friends were discussing this. With the market tanking, many people can now afford to be in top districts. One concern many of us had is our children being the poor kid in a rich district, and never being able to keep up with their peers.

Some of us felt it was better to have the top district, and the child would learn that its just life to have someone richer, prettier, smarter, etc. than you. Others felt that being the poor kid could have a severe negative impact on the child.

So, what do you think?

Seems most expressions of concern focus on poor student feeling/realizing s/he can't keep up. There also seems to be the assertion that this feeling is made more profound by an larger gap in income.

I know of no support for either claim. I was a poor student at a very rich private school. A boy I went to high school with had his father featured on "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous" (owner of Waste Management). I did just fine because I was parented well.

If you teach your kids that they are entitled to things, they will have trouble. If you teach your kids to be jealous, they will have trouble. Still, I found that the most level headed and drug free kids came out of the poorer population at school - they didn't have the money for drugs, nor the time. They had better work ethics. And, yet, they dated across SES status, and played on teams together.

[Crookhaven]

Originally Posted by DeadPool1998

Seems most expressions of concern focus on poor student feeling/realizing s/he can't keep up. There also seems to be the assertion that this feeling is made more profound by an larger gap in income.

I know of no support for either claim. I was a poor student at a very rich private school. A boy I went to high school with had his father featured on "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous" (owner of Waste Management). I did just fine because I was parented well.

If you teach your kids that they are entitled to things, they will have trouble. If you teach your kids to be jealous, they will have trouble. Still, I found that the most level headed and drug free kids came out of the poorer population at school - they didn't have the money for drugs, nor the time. They had better work ethics. And, yet, they dated across SES status, and played on teams together.

I tell ya, all my 3V loser Murphy dirtbag smoke shed friends turned out fine,the Gelinas kids were the ones who wound up in rehab, prison or worse.

My 20th was a real eyeopener.

Crooks

[atypicalLIer]

This thread could have been useful. Lots of fingerpointing and few real answers.