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But does it really cost $450 to have the AC on for an hour and have the lights on? I don't think so. The deacon said to try to give at least something to the church, which we are, but I don't see why they need $450 for an hour. Remember, our parents aren't helping at all. We paid for everything, and our pockets are so close to being empty at this point. For someone to say we owe $700 a week and a half before the wedding is a pretty big shock to us. Especially when we were never told this in advance. At least someone at the church is understanding. The church needs to be understanding of people's situations, that's what they do. To expect a certain amount isn't really right. What about people who make minimum wage and want to get married in a church? They'd be out of luck because they wouldn't be able to afford it.
The church is open for several hours in anticipation of the wedding. They don't throw open the doors at the first strains of the Wedding March.
You're in the final stretch and it can be VERY stressful --been there, done that -- take a deep breath. If this is the only 'hitch' before the big day, consider yourself lucky!
I realize it is a shock and a surprise to learn of this 'fee' 'donation' so close to the wedding. Your finances with the house, wedding, etc are tight, but your loving family and generous friends will be bringing more than toasters to the wedding...you'll have received the money in the form of gifts. And as someone else mentioned, you should be able to write off the 'donation' on your first joint tax return.
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The church is open for several hours in anticipation of the wedding. They don't throw open the doors at the first strains of the Wedding March.
You're in the final stretch and it can be VERY stressful --been there, done that -- take a deep breath. If this is the only 'hitch' before the big day, consider yourself lucky!
I realize it is a shock and a surprise to learn of this 'fee' 'donation' so close to the wedding. Your finances with the house, wedding, etc are tight, but your loving family and generous friends will be bringing more than toasters to the wedding...you'll have received the money in the form of gifts. And as someone else mentioned, you should be able to write off the 'donation' on your first joint tax return.
Best wishes to the soon-to-be newlyweds!
I was just talking to my dad and all he did was yell at me about how I shouldn't be complaining about money, and said don't look to him for help for anything. Nice dad, huh?
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Yeah, and it doesnt help that 80% of the people didn't even bother to rsvp saying no to the bridal shower and wedding. I've been crying over it a lot today. The people who i thought were good friends can't even bother to tell me no. It's times like these you realize who your true friends are.
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This is really my beef with The Church these days. Operating primarily as a business first, a place of worship second.
This is also why I got married by a judge instead of a priest.
Good point.
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