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Old 05-06-2010, 09:57 AM
 
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Yes, I know it's a morbid question and something none of like to focus on, but I am experiencing a family member with a terminal illness. I have googled and searched and am getting a general idea - but the main thing that keeps coming up is not to make major decisions during a highly emotional time.

Since this is such a part of life, I was wondering if any of the posters on this site could give me an idea of the costs involved in a full funeral and burial service - specifically at St. Charles in Farmingdale.

This really is much appreciated. My hands are trembling as I type this. I think it is such a hard subject to address. Thanks.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:11 AM
 
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I can only tell you of my experience. The last three funerals I planned cost from $8,000 to $11,000. The $8,000 was for a two day viewing with cremation afterward and internment in a family plot. Two funerals cost me approx $11,000 and those two also were buried in family plots.

Average funeral probably is going for $10,000 (give or take..depends on casket price ). Cost of the grave is additional.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:13 AM
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I know how hard it is to lose a loved one but I've never had to make funeral arrangements for anyone yet. I hope things work out as best as they possibly can given the circumstances.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:15 AM
 
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Cokatie...you may want to visit a funeral home and discuss making a pre-arrangement. I did it for my uncle who was in a nursing home. It makes it a lot easier when their time comes.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:18 AM
 
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You can lower the costs by not selecting a high end copper clad casket. You'd be surprised what they try to sell you in a "kind and compassionate" funeral home.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:21 AM
 
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Cokatie...you may want to visit a funeral home and discuss making a pre-arrangement. I did it for my uncle who was in a nursing home. It makes it a lot easier when their time comes.
The Irish in me forebodes that (silly supersistions!). Gpsma, thanks so much for the information on the funeral costs. I had NO idea that that price would not include the burial plot. Can you give an estimate on that if you are comfortable? I would rather bite the bullet on this when the time comes and look for a plot that could accomodate four people.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:32 AM
 
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I have no idea what a grave plot costs because I never had to purchase one for the relatives I buried. The plots were either at National Cemetaries (which are free for vets) or had been purchased years earlier.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:34 AM
 
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It cost my parents almost 20k to bury my brother. Two day viewing, church, I know they spent much more than they had to on the casket and they bought two plots.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:45 AM
 
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Both of my parents went in '04 - both funerals at A. L. Jacobsen's in Huntington Station (that's what they wanted). The funeral for my dad lasted 2 days including a fireman's service the night before the actual funeral - it came to roughly $11,000. My mom's was one day, and that one was actually higher in cost (something to do with the cemetary) -around $12,000. They bought their burial plots way before 2004 and they never told me what they cost.

Jacobsen's is non-denominational and will let you hold whatever kind of service you want; just general info, I know you have a church selected in Farmingdale.

Any chance your relative actually bought a plot for themselves? It's amazing what people forget to tell you -

Good luck with everything. It's an awful time for you filled with pressure, stress, and sadness. Maybe when the time comes you ought to buy a little book called Grief Therapy by Karen Katafiasz from Abbey Press - it's very short and to the point. Eventually everything will get back to "normal" even though at this point in time it doesn't feel that way.
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Old 05-06-2010, 10:59 AM
 
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They use to, AndreaII, at Calvary in Queens - but due to a family emergency in the 80's, they gave the plot away to the family member's wife.

Thanks so much to all of you for the good information. I was trying to establish a baseline so that I can ensure the money is there when it becomes necessary.
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