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Old 04-16-2012, 10:32 PM
 
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I have to say I completely agree with the Boston story. Dating in the North east and mid west suck if you're a female. I spent 4 miserable years in Chicago. Guys have the upper hand there. I can't figure it out... might be because of the shrinking straight male population. Lots of guys on the "DL" in Chicago plus boys town make the picking very slim! If you do find a decent man, expect to do stuff you would never be expected to do elsewhere: pay his bills, stroke his ego, lots of freakin' extras.

So I moved to LA. I looooooove it here. The ppl are beautiful. Men are gentle, respectful, eager, committed, and all around sweet. It is 180 degrees difference and I am not exaggerating.
Thats funny. I'm a guy from the Chicago suburbs who recently moved to LA only a few months ago and I also have the same experience (but as a straight guy dating girls that is).

The issue I had with Chicago, is unless you lived in a few select neighborhoods on the north side (a la Lincoln Park, Lakeview, etc.) dating SUCKS. Even when I lived in Oak Park, which has more young adults than most other suburbs were still mostly couples. Outside of the popular downtown and north side, the rest of Chicagoland is very culturally midwestern, which means that people get married younger than here in California, and by the time you are in your late 20s/early 30s the pickins are very slim.

Here in greater LA, there is no designated "singles" neighborhood, there are single people in their 20s and 30s all over. You are less self-conscious about still working out the tweaks in your career in your late 20s. Because out here is it ok to dream a little, and experiment with different career paths. Back home I felt the pressure to have settled down and bought a house by the time you were 28 or so. Not so in Southern California.

Plus the social activities in those "designated singles" neighborhoods generally revolved around going to Cubs and Sox games, drinking, and going to festival after festival. For a city that on the surface should have every walk of life, for me at least, it was basically SSDD (same crap different day). I don't really follow sports much, and when girls owned more sports gear than I do (practically none), its like women finding men who spend more time on grooming, and more knowledgeable about fashion, is a little of a turnoff.

Here in LA, the women are fashionable and feminine, and have unique career goals. And there are a MILLION date ideas. And many of them are free or cheap.
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Old 04-17-2012, 09:04 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA (South Central)
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It is a..complicated thing to answer.

L.A. can be the absolute greatest place in the World for "dating" and even serious relationships, or the absolute worst...all depending on who you ask...and both extreme sides could be extremely vaild.

It depends on....gender, ethnicity, how you look, where you live, if you're from L.A. and what part of L.A. you're from, your education, your career goals, how you look, where you like to go and hang out, who you know, how you look, etc etc etc etc etc etc. Ok...even though I emphasize "how you look"...that doesn't mean you have to "look great" or be a model...I'd say folks here do have higher standards than in other places, but it makes sense because the bar is raised. You can go to healthy "Beach" cities like Manhattan and barely see anybody who's out of shape or horrid looking.

The surprising thing...you'll find very attractive women who claim to have problems with dating here, and then find those who are very normal or even below average that have GREAT success....so it's actually not ALL about looks.

But I do agree with some statements here. People get married LATE, especially compared to the South. I have seen literally 8-10 of my FB friends from Florida/The South get engaged and married in the last month, all aged 23-28, and only 1 of my L.A. friends, and he's 31.
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Old 04-18-2012, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Boulder Creek, CA
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People get married LATE, especially compared to the South.
It's not only a family/peer/community pressure thing to settle down quickly there. There's often not much else to do.
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Old 04-19-2012, 02:45 AM
 
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Thats funny. I'm a guy from the Chicago suburbs who recently moved to LA only a few months ago and I also have the same experience (but as a straight guy dating girls that is).

The issue I had with Chicago, is unless you lived in a few select neighborhoods on the north side (a la Lincoln Park, Lakeview, etc.) dating SUCKS. Even when I lived in Oak Park, which has more young adults than most other suburbs were still mostly couples. Outside of the popular downtown and north side, the rest of Chicagoland is very culturally midwestern, which means that people get married younger than here in California, and by the time you are in your late 20s/early 30s the pickins are very slim.

Here in greater LA, there is no designated "singles" neighborhood, there are single people in their 20s and 30s all over. You are less self-conscious about still working out the tweaks in your career in your late 20s. Because out here is it ok to dream a little, and experiment with different career paths. Back home I felt the pressure to have settled down and bought a house by the time you were 28 or so. Not so in Southern California.

Plus the social activities in those "designated singles" neighborhoods generally revolved around going to Cubs and Sox games, drinking, and going to festival after festival. For a city that on the surface should have every walk of life, for me at least, it was basically SSDD (same crap different day). I don't really follow sports much, and when girls owned more sports gear than I do (practically none), its like women finding men who spend more time on grooming, and more knowledgeable about fashion, is a little of a turnoff.

Here in LA, the women are fashionable and feminine, and have unique career goals. And there are a MILLION date ideas. And many of them are free or cheap.
Had a great time reading that.

How is the live music scene in LA? Decent clubs with Blues etc?
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Old 04-19-2012, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA (South Central)
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It's not only a family/peer/community pressure thing to settle down quickly there. There's often not much else to do.
Ehh...well it all depends on who you're talking about.

I'm really just talking about the folks I went to college with. I was at Florida A&M, and a lot of folks end up in Atlanta, Miami, Houston, and other big cities, and they still get married as if it's just in their culture. I can see it being "nothing to do" in towns like Quincy, Florida, where my mom is from, though.
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Old 04-19-2012, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Downtown Toronto, Ontario
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I just kind of stumbled into this discussion but I have noticed this almost everywhere. Being gay, and having less than 2% of the population that is gay and out also, it makes the choices next to impossible, because it takes more than just being gay to match two people up. Most of us wait years and years only to end up with nothing.

But it's ironic - while it's never been easier to find potential matches thanks to the internet, it appears that fewer and fewer people are finding relationships that are going anywhere. I do think that this next generation of adults, whose socialization skills are stunted because so much of their time has been spent in chat rooms, will have a very tough time finding lasting relationships. You have to have those real life people skills. Those starter relationships. Some kind of experience relating to other people. You can't just read about it online. The other thing is, because so much of our time is spent online, we see images of beautiful people to the point where there's this obsession with porn, or there's an unrealistic expectation that 'I won't go out with anyone unless he/she looks like one of those models'. Their 'list' is completely warped because they haven't figured out what makes a relationship last, if you base it all on looks, education and money, then get ready for a quick breakup once that starts to get old.

I think a lot of people are just finding it's easier to go through this life journey by themselves these days.
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Old 04-19-2012, 04:02 PM
 
Location: Boulder Creek, CA
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You can't just read about it online.
You mean, like we're doing right now?
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Old 04-19-2012, 04:13 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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I think a lot of people are just finding it's easier to go through this life journey by themselves these days.
I agree 100%.
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Old 04-20-2012, 01:40 AM
 
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Being gay, and having less than 2% of the population that is gay and out also, it makes the choices next to impossible, because it takes more than just being gay to match two people up. .
It really shouldn't but that made me laugh so hard. Well said.
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Old 09-03-2014, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Armsanta Sorad
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Maybe for casual encounters. Dating and relationships, no.
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