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View Poll Results: Do you agree with my mom or with me?
my mom 12 92.31%
me 1 7.69%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 13. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 08-23-2015, 04:40 PM
 
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hello my name is Celeste and i live in California
this is my first time on this so just go with it if it make no sense just continue reading.

ok here goes.

I am going to be 18 next year in June and will be starting my senior year in high school that August. Over this past year my mom keeps telling me that she is going to kick me out on my 18th birthday. i am a good kid who gets good grades is not in any trouble with the law ( i like helping the law) i don't do drugs i don't drink (except maybe one beer at a family event that i share with my aunt). my mom and i argue everyday more than once a day and they are really bad arguments. i am a person who likes to stand for what i believe in and i don't believe in a lot of things my mom do and people might say that this is a typical mother daughter relation ship but this one is not. So due to all of this constant arguing my mom is going to kick me out at 18. i do know that it is legal for my mom to kick me out at 18 but i guess my question is is it legal for her to kick me out at 18 but still be in high school? i would greatly appreciate if someone can let me know because i have been asking other people and they are telling a lot of different things. so i just need the correct answer.

thanks so much for taking your time.
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Old 08-23-2015, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Business ethics is an oxymoron.
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I'm sure there is a lot of missing info here and plenty that we're not being told. The bias is pretty evident so without hearing 'her' side, it's difficult to give a fair opinion.

That said however, 18 or not 18, as long as you are living under your parents roof and they are paying the bills, they pretty much get to call the shots. Sounds to me like you are trying to have it both ways -the 'freedom' of being an adult but the security of being a child at home. And it doesn't usually work that way. Not for long anyway.

You can be emancipated long before 18, so I don't think still being in HS is going to be your safety line. Sorry. But it isn't. You really only have two options: kiss and make up, shut up and listen, perhaps pony up some rent.

Or get ready to hit the bricks and fend for yourself.
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:05 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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i guess my question is is it legal for her to kick me out at 18 but still be in high school? i would greatly appreciate if someone can let me know because i have been asking other people and they are telling a lot of different things. so i just need the correct answer.

thanks so much for taking your time.
At 18 you will be an adult so you, and not you mother, will be responsible for everything you do after that point including going to school (or not). At 18 you will basically be a tenant in her house - living rent-free. But you're asking the wrong question.

Why are you giving your Mom reasons to kick you out of the house?

[house rules]
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:21 PM
 
Location: TOVCCA
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Learn to hold your tongue and act nice. It's good practice for the working world.
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:35 PM
 
Location: West Hollywood
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Stop arguing with your mom and hope she reconsiders. Being an angsty teenager who knows more than everyone else is a stereotype, not a legitimate personality.
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:38 PM
 
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Originally Posted by cecemarie16 View Post
hello my name is Celeste and i live in California
this is my first time on this so just go with it if it make no sense just continue reading.

ok here goes.

I am going to be 18 next year in June and will be starting my senior year in high school that August. Over this past year my mom keeps telling me that she is going to kick me out on my 18th birthday. i am a good kid who gets good grades is not in any trouble with the law ( i like helping the law) i don't do drugs i don't drink (except maybe one beer at a family event that i share with my aunt). my mom and i argue everyday more than once a day and they are really bad arguments. i am a person who likes to stand for what i believe in and i don't believe in a lot of things my mom do and people might say that this is a typical mother daughter relation ship but this one is not. So due to all of this constant arguing my mom is going to kick me out at 18. i do know that it is legal for my mom to kick me out at 18 but i guess my question is is it legal for her to kick me out at 18 but still be in high school? i would greatly appreciate if someone can let me know because i have been asking other people and they are telling a lot of different things. so i just need the correct answer.

thanks so much for taking your time.
Parents should love their children at all times. I have two of my own and a grandchild. As parents we have latent issues that we do not share with all people. Ask GOD to help your Mom and to give you something to help both of you to reach a family agreement that will bring harmony in your home.
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:49 PM
 
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In this life we don't always understand what is going on. I can tell you that all of my major choices in life was given to the Lord and he directed my paths. As humans, we need more than our natural ability to sift through this maze of life. don't try to do it all by yourself. Always remember you have divine help if you use it, TALK TO GOD!!!
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:52 PM
 
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I believe even if one turns 18 but is a senior in high school, legally parents have to continue to provide for said child until they graduate
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Old 08-23-2015, 05:55 PM
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I have met a lot of people that say they are "a person who likes to stand for what i believe in" but they are generally just argumentative. It is likely you are not always right but too thick to accept other opinions or points of view.

I think your question embedded in this is whether it is legal for your mom to kick you out at 18 if you are in high school? Without knowing the background, I will say whether or not you are in high school has no bearing. Being 18 has a bearing.

Your best action is either make amends or alternative living arrangements. Sometimes the social justice warrior loses.
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Old 08-23-2015, 06:37 PM
 
Location: california
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There are a number of homes this is the rule due to several factors .
Mothers on welfare or receiving child support are cut off when the child becomes an adult .
Feeding another mouth , especially an antagnognistc one makes parenting all the more difficult.
My parents let me learn to fend for my self and get a job and work around the place to be a productive member of the house hold and society.
I did the same for my son ,and he does very well .
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