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Some boasting and some whining and the rest yada yada yada. Some people can't just leave and be happy. They have to throw one last jab before closing the door.
But we're actually still going to be living here part of the year…lol. Also it's not boasting, simply b/c you MAY view my life as more comfortable than yours or whatever. If boasting was my 'thing,' I'd stay in LA. Materialism, cars, clothes, status, etc…not really important to us. It's just 'stuff.' Family, peace, health, those things matter. I love LA in some ways. I wouldn't have met my husband, have my dream career, the friends I've met and made etc…LA is a huge part of my life, and where I've spent all of my adult years. So, I apologize if it came off that I don't like it. I'm just a different stage in life with my family and really don't do earthquakes, AT ALL. lol. Ironically all of my closest LA friends are natives and they're wonderful. As are many folks. We look forward to visiting LA for work and leaving for home.
I think you are making a good move. I am sorry your experiences with your landlords were so bad. At that price point, single family home rentals are generally from people that could not sell earlier. Very few investors buy houses at that level in the Los Angeles area for rentals. There just isn't money in it. So, you got landlords that were losing money and wanted out. I am glad you are finally escaping that.
As far as Los Angeles, it seems a fresh start in a new city sounds good. I think you should look forward to your new adventures. If it doesn't work out, you can always return. That is better than never have tried something new.
Thank you for this. Seriously. Kind/balanced words from a level headed fellow human. I truly appreciate it. And you are completely right about the SFH we have been renting. He couldn't sell before, refinanced, lost money and is definitely under water. He'll probably try to sell after we move and may even get 1.7 for it…
I wish you the best and you are completely right. We can always come back etc…but I wouldn't forgive myself for not trying what we think is ultimately best for our family, out of fear of change etc.
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I actually enjoyed this thread. Way more complex than my pay grade. but I did enjoy reading about the op's thought and insecurities. Gives me different perspectives.
I do believe they will miss. LA as Denver is a very different life. But maybe with a family its the next stage for them.
I totally get the insecurities and second guessing. I made a big change after living in Ca all my life and at 58 years old moved to Atlanta not knowing anyone. Everyday I am excited looking forward but also wondering if i made the right move.
But I it's done so I'm going to give it a chance.
I wish the best of luck to the op and hopes she finds happiness and security with their decision.
LA isn't for everyone, everything isn't for everyone either. Like, living on city-data isn't for me per se, as it is for many of the older, middle aged moody men I've encountered on here. Where are the women? I expect the snark from females at times, which hasn't happened, I guess females tend to gravitate to FB, instagram, twitter where you actually have to have a visible identity, vs the weird anonymity of this website where ppl feel comfortable to be complete d*cks behind a screen. But I digress.
if you dont like la, then leave. i dont exactly understand the point of this entire thread that youve posted? are you seeking attention from others? your original post can be best described by another member as "Some boasting and some whining and the rest yada yada yada."
you may not have many posts, but when you claim others are "moody, snarky, d*cks', those same words can be used to describe your own posts, how about post number 23 in this thread?
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It's funny, you mentioned 'successful people enjoy it here' and yet everyone we know, who you would know off of name in the business has a home here, but has homes in a multitude of states where they escape to spend their time. (Kidman is just one example.) Once the taxes got insane on people grossing into the millions, many of our friends jumped ship and bought out of state.
by 'the business' you mean entertainment? you realize theres a whole world outside of that in los angeles right? the business owner who owns 5 burger kings, the doctor who owns a successful med spa, or the lawyer who does immigration law, etc. this city is much bigger than some actors, and once you open up your eyes youll see that most of the people living in the expensive houses are actually average people who just happen to have lots of money.
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As for NYC compared to LA, last time I checked, there's an entire country and endless cities beyond those two. Is LA the most expensive place in the entire world? No, but I was TRYING to keep it in perspective. Apparently that was a failed attempt. lol.
nyc compared to la is an example, an example how you can pay a lot more for a lot less. you kept going on and on about how ridiculously high the cost of living in LA is, and how you dont think its worth living here. which is amusing since when compared to other cities los angeles isnt even that expensive. perception is subjective, my experience is my perception and ive come to the conclusion that los angeles isnt as expensive as other people make it out to be.
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What is it you do for a living? How much do you make a year? Would you mind posting a photo of your 'lifestyle'? I love to see actual images of the lives of people who say how wonderful/affordable LA is. What part do you live in?
How much is your home? Your monthly mortgage? What private school do you send your kids to and how much does it cost? Maybe you make more than my husband and I I'd love to see your life in REAL life. Forget all of this typing, lets put it all on the frontline. That's the best way to learn about someone, not typing on the internet.
i find it hilarious that you would call out any member, especially myself. you have made countless posts about your wealth, fame, status, your abilities to live all over the world and no one has called you out, thats because no one cares. you seem so absolutely hell bent on perception and the fear of how other will perceive you that you get so detailed into inconsequential things that its hilarious. your original post has so much unecessary information, no one cares that you were paying $7,000 in rent. you remind me of people from out of state who act the way they think people in LA should act, they start talking about their $500 sunglasses, while someone at the table is wearing a $50,000 watch and you wouldnt know it if it hit you in the head.
if you dont like la, then leave. i dont exactly understand the point of this entire thread that youve posted? are you seeking attention from others? your original post can be best described by another member as "Some boasting and some whining and the rest yada yada yada."
you may not have many posts, but when you claim others are "moody, snarky, d*cks', those same words can be used to describe your own posts, how about post number 23 in this thread?
by 'the business' you mean entertainment? you realize theres a whole world outside of that in los angeles right? the business owner who owns 5 burger kings, the doctor who owns a successful med spa, or the lawyer who does immigration law, etc. this city is much bigger than some actors, and once you open up your eyes youll see that most of the people living in the expensive houses are actually average people who just happen to have lots of money.
nyc compared to la is an example, an example how you can pay a lot more for a lot less. you kept going on and on about how ridiculously high the cost of living in LA is, and how you dont think its worth living here. which is amusing since when compared to other cities los angeles isnt even that expensive. perception is subjective, my experience is my perception and ive come to the conclusion that los angeles isnt as expensive as other people make it out to be.
i find it hilarious that you would call out any member, especially myself. you have made countless posts about your wealth, fame, status, your abilities to live all over the world and no one has called you out, thats because no one cares. you seem so absolutely hell bent on perception and the fear of how other will perceive you that you get so detailed into inconsequential things that its hilarious. your original post has so much unecessary information, no one cares that you were paying $7,000 in rent. you remind me of people from out of state who act the way they think people in LA should act, they start talking about their $500 sunglasses, while someone at the table is wearing a $50,000 watch and you wouldnt know it if it hit you in the head.
ummm…city data actually asks to provide specific info, (budget, costs, etc) when asking for input so members can give their opinions based off of facts. If I was homeless and used the library computer, and talked about how I don't have anything, would you consider THAT bragging? Or would that be okay, b/c it wouldn't make YOU feel insecure b/c it's someone who has LESS than you do? Who 'brags' that's older than 10? lol. My God, man. Bragging about sunglasses, or anything sounds ridiculous. I was COMPLAINING about paying/wasting $7000/month, hence why we are moving, NOT bragging about how f*cking cool it is and how we are 'balling' out of control on our over priced rent. Again, you are absolutely ridiculous. So I'm supposed to not include our facts/background/situation, for fear that people like you, who have less, will be offended? What world do you live in? The point was to SAVE MONEY and not get raped by the cost of living with very little to show for it. So b/c NYC is more expensive or Miami, I should be happy to pay insane rent/mortgage on a house I hate or need to gut? Do you even own a house here? Do you even live without roommates? Where do you live? What do you do? I doubt it's much.
there's also the porn industry, burger industry, car industry, etc in LA, there are a host of other careers, but OUR careers happen to be IN ENTERTAINMENT. smh. How dense are you? I'm speaking on my reality. And you, weirdly, are speaking on what YOU THINK, my reality is.
Here's an idea. What's your reality? What do you do for a living? How much do you make? Where do you live? What do you pay? What accomplishments/failures/fears/ do you have? Would you like to invite me into your life, or do you function better judging someone else's so as to not have to deal with your own?
Only an insecure person who actually places value on a person's 'job' would label any person 'regular' compared to a damn actor. EVERY PERSON IS REGULAR. From Tom Cruise, to the homeless guy on the street. Again, your issues are YOUR ISSUES. Not mine.
My post has unnecessary info, and yet YOU READ IT, ARE STILL READING IT ANDDDDDDDDDD commenting on it, like some prepubescent little girl. This thread, is MY world, MY thoughts…I didn't actively seek you out, inquire on your opinion or invite you in…and yet here you are, obsessed and spending your tuesday evening trolling. Where's your girlfriend bro'? Anyone, someone to get you OFF of city data, commenting on sh*t you don't even like, to people you can't stand that you've never met? Very masochistic and sad. I don't deal with things I DON'T like. I don't comment on threads I have no interest in, I don't interact with people I don't respect/or want to exchange info with and I definitely don't troll places just to troll. I do have an actual life. lol.
I posted b/c I WANTED TO POST. I do what I want, how I want, when I want. This is the internet, psycho. Ask yourself, why YOU are wasting your time commenting and stalking a page/thread/person that has no bearing on you, your beliefs, your life or well being? I'm not trolling all of your posts, b/c YOU.DON'T.INTEREST.ME. ughhhh.
Again, GET OFF OF CITY - DATA and into the real world. it's too easy on here to actually develop a God complex, which at best, will turn you into an internet lunatic, and at worst, confuse you into thinking you're more powerful/influential than you think, and get your a$$ kicked in real life. lol. Then again, people like you only say/do sh*t like this ON the internet, hence why you can post thousands upon thousands of things and read millions upon millions of posts…b/c your anonymity brings you security.
Anytime you want to compare lives, meet up, come into my world, my husband's…and show us yours, almighty one. The invitation is there. I don't live in the online SIMS world of fakery and bullish*t. My mouth writes checks my a$$ can cash. (and that's NOT relating to money, just in case you're too square to comprehend the metaphor.)
And if you think for a second that I'm going to let some random loser on line, talk or type to me like he's lost his got d*mn mind, you obviously don't comprehend who I am lol. I verbally drag people like you b/c you need it and if you actually go around saying the dumb snarky catty sh*t you do to random strangers, you need a swift kick in your proverbial a$$. which is what you have gotten and will continue to get on here from me, until you either disappear, or run to the moderator to flag my responses; upon which you will get blocked.
After reading these responses, I wonder why I posted it as well. lmao!!! this sh*t is pure comedy. My point was moreso of being a first time home buyer and super frugal in general. Also that though I've never pictured living in LA longterm, the fact that I'm actually moving (sort of), is still amazing/shocking b/c as I stated I'm a creature of habit.
I guess I'm one of those odd souls, who when faced with a major life change, regardless of how wonderful it is, still has doubts, excitement, questions, insecurities of the 'unknown/change' that is impending. I admire all of you city data pros. You guys really have it all figured out.
Yes, you stated you were feeling fearful because you're a first-time home buyer, yet when you mentioned the problem, you said you didn't know what it was. Consider me confused.
I didn't question you why posted this thread, I questioned why you posted it here in the Los Angeles forum. You're moving out of Los Angeles to Denver. Seems this should have gone to the Denver forum, where Denver citizens would have most likely consoled you. But you decided to post in the the forum of the city you're leaving, and on top of that, saying negative things about it (Los Angeles). It doesn't make sense to me, unless you had intentions of ruffling up feathers.
Yes, you stated you were feeling fearful because you're a first-time home buyer, yet when you mentioned the problem, you said you didn't know what it was. Consider me confused.
I didn't question you why posted this thread, I questioned why you posted it here in the Los Angeles forum. You're moving out of Los Angeles to Denver. Seems this should have gone to the Denver forum, where Denver citizens would have most likely consoled you. But you decided to post in the the forum of the city you're leaving, and on top of that, saying negative things about it (Los Angeles). It doesn't make sense to me, unless you had intentions of ruffling up feathers.
^^^^^ this. I can't be bothered to read the novel, but why post on the city board you're leaving about your nerves? You're moving to Denver, post over there.
Kind of like asking your old coworkers about your new job that you have been at for the last 3 months about the office politics of the new place. How the hell would they know, they don't work there.
theraven24 is spot on, post on the Denver board. They can help ease your fears.
Sure smells like a "let's bash LA and stir the pot" agenda to me. Because normally on CD you see people asking concerns and questions about the place they're going to. Not the place they're leaving.
But we're actually still going to be living here part of the year…lol. Also it's not boasting, simply b/c you MAY view my life as more comfortable than yours or whatever. If boasting was my 'thing,' I'd stay in LA. Materialism, cars, clothes, status, etc…not really important to us. It's just 'stuff.' Family, peace, health, those things matter. I love LA in some ways. I wouldn't have met my husband, have my dream career, the friends I've met and made etc…LA is a huge part of my life, and where I've spent all of my adult years. So, I apologize if it came off that I don't like it. I'm just a different stage in life with my family and really don't do earthquakes, AT ALL. lol. Ironically all of my closest LA friends are natives and they're wonderful. As are many folks. We look forward to visiting LA for work and leaving for home.
Sorry, I don't view your life as being more comfortable than mine nor did that thought even crossed my mind. The fact that that came to your mind epitomizes your boasting (especially when you know nothing about me). When you state that $xxx,xxx is "welllll" below your budget, that is boasting. You should go back and read some of the unnecessary info you posted. You're a writer. You should know how certain phrases or words come across.
Good luck to you and your family in Colorado. Be happy that you are leaving LA. Just don't try to bash LA to justify your decision, especially on the LA forum. Remember, home is more than a house with a certain amount of square footage. It is surrounding yourself with good friends and family. Godspeed.
^^^^^ this. I can't be bothered to read the novel, but why post on the city board you're leaving about your nerves? You're moving to Denver, post over there.
Kind of like asking your old coworkers about your new job that you have been at for the last 3 months about the office politics of the new place. How the hell would they know, they don't work there.
theraven24 is spot on, post on the Denver board. They can help ease your fears.
Sure smells like a "let's bash LA and stir the pot" agenda to me. Because normally on CD you see people asking concerns and questions about the place they're going to. Not the place they're leaving.
Definitely seems like a "stir the pot" post to me as well.
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Materialism, cars, clothes, status, etc…not really important to us. It's just 'stuff.' Family, peace, health, those things matter. I love LA in some ways. I wouldn't have met my husband, have my dream career, the friends I've met and made etc…LA is a huge part of my life, and where I've spent all of my adult years. So, I apologize if it came off that I don't like it. I'm just a different stage in life with my family and really don't do earthquakes, AT ALL. lol. Ironically all of my closest LA friends are natives and they're wonderful. As are many folks. We look forward to visiting LA for work and leaving for home.
