A Date in Los Angeles (Santa Monica, Nice: school, college, restaurant)

[Hungry For Cheese]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

There is a distinct difference betwen going on an inxpensive date because the guy has a low income and going on an inexpensive date because the guy is being a jerk and doesn't want to spend any money in case he doesn't "hit it". When I met my ex-husband, we were both riding the bus, when I married him we still didn't have any money. But he treated me like I was important to him. And that's why I married him and why even though we are no longer married, we are still friends.

It's starting to sound more and more like you want a "sex guarantee" before you'll decide to spend your precious money on a woman. There are women for guys who think like that...they're called prostitutes and that's why I think prostitution should be legal: so the jerks who only want sex can go pay for it and women who are looking for a relationship have better chance of finding a real man instead of a sex hound. Another reason I NEVER have sex during the first month. To weed out the sex hounds. I know a guy who is into me will wait and prove he wants me, not just my body.

How would you know which is which? Of course we'd play the "poor card"


Not really...if I wanted a girl...I could wait a month...meanwhile I'd be out porking other females...It's pretty easy. Then as soon as I get what I want from someone like you, I'm gone.

I haven't done this...but I know it's simple. "Oh baby it's been 1 month...love you...blah blah blah....*zip*"

[Curious Jay]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

There is a distinct difference betwen going on an inxpensive date because the guy has a low income and going on an inexpensive date because the guy is being a jerk and doesn't want to spend any money in case he doesn't "hit it". When I met my ex-husband, we were both riding the bus, when I married him we still didn't have any money. But he treated me like I was important to him. And that's why I married him and why even though we are no longer married, we are still friends.

It's starting to sound more and more like you want a "sex guarantee" before you'll decide to spend your precious money on a woman. There are women for guys who think like that...they're called prostitutes and that's why I think prostitution should be legal: so the jerks who only want sex can go pay for it and women who are looking for a relationship have better chance of finding a real man instead of a sex hound. Another reason I NEVER have sex during the first month. To weed out the sex hounds. I know a guy who is into me will wait and prove he wants me, not just my body.

Your post is just flat out dishonest. And what man or woman goes into a relationship with NO expectations for physical intimacy? What hogwash! We live in a society that shames women for being sexual, and your way of thinking is a by-product of that paradigm. I enjoy sex for what it is - something beautiful and pleasurable, and I don't think you're being totally honest with yourself when it comes to sex and relationships.

[LuckyGem]

Originally Posted by Curious Jay

What if you don't hit it off? I don't want to flush 50-100 on a girl I won't want to see again! Maybe a walk on the beach and a simple fast food dinner like IN N OUT would be a light, low pressure date - sometimes I get carried away with the theatrics.

Wow, In&Out, don't splurge too much there Chipper, we wouldn't want her to think you actually gave a rip about the "first date".

[Hungry For Cheese]

haha more and more we see how much money plays a factor to women...What would you like? Filet Mignon on the first date? Wine? Stick to the movies for that fairytale baby.
Every first date I've been on, the woman has been so nervous she can't eat. I had dinner once with a gal that was 28 when I was 21...she was so nervous. She ordered an expensive meal, 2 desserts for herself(one for there and one for home) and I thought this girl is out her mind. She ended up not eating anything and paid for it all. Like $80, which is a lot to me for Claimjumpers(her choice).

Stick to the smaller cheaper meals..In N Out, Carls Jr., Subway etc.
If she is anything like Luckygem, or UnluckyGem or these other females, you'll be glad you spent under $20 for food and $20 for liquor. If she is anything like most women, her self-esteem will be so bad that she will overlook the "cheapo" factor and end up spending the night with you anyways. Most women who complain about cheap men are the ones sitting around Friday night with big ben the pleasure toy or sipping $10 wine watching the oxygen channel or something. Either that or married, and they don't count anyways, because you never spend money on a marry woman, only a lil "protection" investment at Target on the way over.

[Cubancoffee]

I'm not going to add to the hijacking of this thread: i.e. an analysis of the OP's dating philosophy. I frankly have no idea what the dating scene is like these days so who am I to judge.

I also would endorse Griffith Park as a cheap first-date locale. Make it an afternoon. The observatory is free and the view from the grounds on a clear day are boffo. Zoo admission is $10 (maybe she'll go dutch).

[Hungry For Cheese]

Dutch? like no panties? Or is that French?

Anyways...last I checked, the Observatory was a pain to attend due to it being re-opened, and there was a waiting list and a fee I think. Plus parking was a pain.
I say walk the beach, end up on the Santa Monica Pier, find a nice place to talk...play a game, ride the wheel and see what happens.

[MissCC]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

There is a distinct difference betwen going on an inxpensive date because the guy has a low income and going on an inexpensive date because the guy is being a jerk and doesn't want to spend any money in case he doesn't "hit it". When I met my ex-husband, we were both riding the bus, when I married him we still didn't have any money. But he treated me like I was important to him. And that's why I married him and why even though we are no longer married, we are still friends.

It's starting to sound more and more like you want a "sex guarantee" before you'll decide to spend your precious money on a woman. There are women for guys who think like that...they're called prostitutes and that's why I think prostitution should be legal: so the jerks who only want sex can go pay for it and women who are looking for a relationship have better chance of finding a real man instead of a sex hound. Another reason I NEVER have sex during the first month. To weed out the sex hounds. I know a guy who is into me will wait and prove he wants me, not just my body.

Thank you sista!


I was kinda thinking the same thing, not that I NEED to be taken out on expensive dates but your first post sounded like it haddd to be a really cheap date. Did you ever think that not only are you taking a chance on a girl, but shes taking a chance on you? It may be the 21st century but I can assure you that most women will like and expect to be courted when they first meet a man.

You can have a great date either way, cheap or not cheap. Just dont make it look that you researched the cheap way out! What you mentioned sounded nice, beach , ferris wheel. Good luck

[MissCC]

Originally Posted by Cubancoffee

I'm not going to add to the hijacking of this thread: i.e. an analysis of the OP's dating philosophy. I frankly have no idea what the dating scene is like these days so who am I to judge.

I also would endorse Griffith Park as a cheap first-date locale. Make it an afternoon. The observatory is free and the view from the grounds on a clear day are boffo. Zoo admission is $10 (maybe she'll go dutch).

better idea! i love animals and most girls are suckers for furry cute things. But it might be very smelly!

[Cubancoffee]

French? Ha-ha. That's pretty funny.

Your observatory information is out of date. There's no admission, there's no waiting list and the parking area has been reopened. And BTW, a walk on the beach is fine, just fine. Don't forget you'll pay to park there, too.

[CESpeed]

Believe it or not, we can actually can tell the difference between a guy who is genuinely broke and one who is playing broke. There are things one can do to test the theory. Those game you are talking about are why I wait a month. But it's nice to have it confirmed that there are sleazy guys who warrant my arm's length approach.