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Old 04-16-2008, 12:17 PM
Location: Oklahoma is where i want to be!
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ok posted this in OK forum too but me and Kathy went to my friends house Gena in Lake Hughes and OH MY! her house is dirty it smells there is pee and poop everywhere that bathroom was so gross there were ants and crocaroches in the kitchen. she looks under nurshied her father doesnt care about her, last night i was talking to her and she was drinking a coke for dinner! her father drinks and she can't even see her mother, that is just a few things i just want to mention. i dont know how to deal with this and where to call or what to do! please help guys!!
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Old 04-16-2008, 01:20 PM
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are you and your friend school-aged? tell a counselor or teacher at the school she attends about what you witnessed, and what you think is going on in her home. these adults have a legal obligation to report suspected abuse or neglect, so they will observe her behavior and talk to her to determine if they need to act. her teachers are probably noticing things in her behavior or work performance that suggest something is wrong, and having the information you can share will help them put the pieces together.

in the meantime, you can help your friend by letting your parents know your suspicions and asking them if you can invite her for dinner at your house a few nights a week. if you have some way of sharing your lunch or lunch money with her at school, you can try to do that too. just be careful that you don't embarrass her by drawing others' attention to the fact that she isn't getting enough to eat at home. if her home life is as bad as you say, she is probably feeling very isolated, and your friendship will make a difference.

thank you for caring.
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Old 04-16-2008, 03:03 PM
Location: Salt Lake City, Utah
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Call the LA County Health Department and get the house condemned. That would solve one problem.
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Old 04-16-2008, 03:16 PM
Location: Oklahoma is where i want to be!
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thanks for all your advice..im going to call her when i get home and talk about it! thanks!
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Old 04-16-2008, 03:34 PM
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Cali_Okie_Girl. Speak with your parents if your friend is under the age of 18. Also, as mentioned, speak with a school official. Finally, if you believe there is neglect or abuse occurring, please encourage your parents or this school official to contact Child Protective Services immediately. Please let us know how this sad scenario plays out.
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Old 04-16-2008, 07:20 PM
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Yes, definitely call CPS. Whatever CPS does will be much better than her current living conditions. I'm a school teacher, so I definitely recommend for you go to to your counselor and report this. Your counselor MUST make the phone call to CPS. I'm glad you care for your friend; your friend is very lucky to have you as a friend.
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Old 04-16-2008, 07:26 PM
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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The fastest way to get your friend help is to contact the police. The older your friend is, the longer it will take CPS to get involved.
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