Single and 37 looking for a move! (San Diego, Santa Monica: 2009, daycare, wedding)

[workplay37]

Can anyone give me insight as to where a 37 yr. old (about to be 38)single female should live in Southern California? I currently live near Santa Monica CA, but am considering a move to San Diego.

I have a career that could easily relocate (self Employed) and lived the big city lifestyle in chicago in my 20's and mid 30's. Have been in LA three years and live on the beach, but am NOT a surfer chic. Not into dealing with all the homeless in Santa Monica or the hippies in Venice. I am an educated, successful Career women that is still interseted in finding Mr. right and am not into the creative, uneducated, grungy, tattooed people in L.A. Plus, I find the people on LA more rude than in New York. In New York or Chicago, at least people will tell you like it is, but in L.A. the flakiness of the just blowing you off without any call or reason (this is girls and guys), is absolutely the most rude form of behavior I have ever experienced. I'm sick of the flakes...

I'm looking to continue my self employed business (need a city), hopefully find an educated guy with ambition, normal girls to have as friends, and eventually buy a property. I like to hike, ride my bike on the beach. run outside or gym, like restaurants, a cocktail night out with the gilrs, etc... Over the clubs and bar scene overall, but still would like some cool jazz club or mellow live band, comedy club, etc..

Where would you suggest a single girl in her late 30's move too in the San Diego area ?... No young college towns or 20 something yr. old areas. Been there, done that. Where do the single 40 yr old+ guys live? If there is such a place.

Thanks for any help you can provide.

[LaoTzuMindFu]

I think you should have the mods move this to the San Diego threads.

[Fontucky]

Originally Posted by workplay37

I am an educated, successful Career women that is still interseted in finding Mr. right and am not into the creative, uneducated, grungy, tattooed people in L.A.

Then stop associating with the creative, uneducated, grungy, tattooed people in L.A.

[greggd]

Originally Posted by workplay37

Can anyone give me insight as to where a 37 yr. old (about to be 38)single female should live in Southern California? I currently live near Santa Monica CA, but am considering a move to San Diego.

I have a career that could easily relocate (self Employed) and lived the big city lifestyle in chicago in my 20's and mid 30's. Have been in LA three years and live on the beach, but am NOT a surfer chic. Not into dealing with all the homeless in Santa Monica or the hippies in Venice. I am an educated, successful Career women that is still interseted in finding Mr. right and am not into the creative, uneducated, grungy, tattooed people in L.A. Plus, I find the people on LA more rude than in New York. In New York or Chicago, at least people will tell you like it is, but in L.A. the flakiness of the just blowing you off without any call or reason (this is girls and guys), is absolutely the most rude form of behavior I have ever experienced. I'm sick of the flakes...

I'm looking to continue my self employed business (need a city), hopefully find an educated guy with ambition, normal girls to have as friends, and eventually buy a property. I like to hike, ride my bike on the beach. run outside or gym, like restaurants, a cocktail night out with the gilrs, etc... Over the clubs and bar scene overall, but still would like some cool jazz club or mellow live band, comedy club, etc..

Where would you suggest a single girl in her late 30's move too in the San Diego area ?... No young college towns or 20 something yr. old areas. Been there, done that. Where do the single 40 yr old+ guys live? If there is such a place.

Thanks for any help you can provide.

Have you been to san diego lately? Take a trip down to la jolla, pacific beach, mission beach etc and I think you will find a pretty happening, young crowd mid 20s-early 30s, hanging out and having a good time, A serious bar scene for a city that is very beach orientated. I'm down there quite a bit and its generally a pretty big party.. at least for me..

It doesnt sound like that's what your looking for though.

I think you should avoid the tourist areas and go to more local places..
my point is that you may need to re-focus on where you go and what you do rather than where you live. There are a lot of people in LA with the same situation your experiencing. Your best bet in LA is to participate in group activities that will draw similar interests together because this place is too big and busy to keep running into the same people.

Santa monica homeless are congregated in specific areas.. along the park on ocean ave near the pier and down south of colorado around the homeless center. I don't see very many homeless because I don't go to these specific areas. You should try that.

Venice has a bohemian mix but the hippies in venice are generally in great numbers along the boardwalk.. selling junk to tourists. I have been along the boardwalk about 5 times in the past 10 years & most likely the last time. You should check main street. It is a different vibe.

Several years ago, I noticed a wave of tattooed people in hawaii growing and growing, mostly of asian background... then the fad hit the U.S. big time.

If all else fails, try Switzerland. Seriously.

[ZenMaster2008]

Originally Posted by Fontucky

Then stop associating with the creative, uneducated, grungy, tattooed people in L.A.

x2

don't blame us because you hang with the wrong crowd.
please do move to san diego, i highly doubt theres any uneducated grungy tattooed people there

[Charles]

Originally Posted by workplay37

Can anyone give me insight as to where a 37 yr. old (about to be 38)single female should live in Southern California?

I am an educated, successful Career women that is still interseted in finding Mr. right ....hopefully find an educated guy with ambition, normal girls to have as friends, and eventually buy a property.


...Over the clubs and bar scene overall, but still would like some cool jazz club or mellow live band, comedy club, etc..

If everything else was acceptable, would you marry a 40 year old guy who made $60K/year?

So you meet Mr. Right, then what? You get married, you have kids(s), you keep working? Daycare?

What type of property? Suburban Residential? Hip, trendy with clubs?

Let's say you meet Mr. Right tomorrow and the wedding is Summer 2009. What do you envision your life like (assume you have two kids) in five years? In Southern California? Where?

[gypsy456]

Originally Posted by workplay37

Can anyone give me insight as to where a 37 yr. old (about to be 38)single female should live in Southern California? I currently live near Santa Monica CA, but am considering a move to San Diego.

I have a career that could easily relocate (self Employed) and lived the big city lifestyle in chicago in my 20's and mid 30's. Have been in LA three years and live on the beach, but am NOT a surfer chic. Not into dealing with all the homeless in Santa Monica or the hippies in Venice. I am an educated, successful Career women that is still interseted in finding Mr. right and am not into the creative, uneducated, grungy, tattooed people in L.A. Plus, I find the people on LA more rude than in New York. In New York or Chicago, at least people will tell you like it is, but in L.A. the flakiness of the just blowing you off without any call or reason (this is girls and guys), is absolutely the most rude form of behavior I have ever experienced. I'm sick of the flakes...

I'm looking to continue my self employed business (need a city), hopefully find an educated guy with ambition, normal girls to have as friends, and eventually buy a property. I like to hike, ride my bike on the beach. run outside or gym, like restaurants, a cocktail night out with the gilrs, etc... Over the clubs and bar scene overall, but still would like some cool jazz club or mellow live band, comedy club, etc..

Where would you suggest a single girl in her late 30's move too in the San Diego area ?... No young college towns or 20 something yr. old areas. Been there, done that. Where do the single 40 yr old+ guys live? If there is such a place.

Thanks for any help you can provide.

Interesting to read the word "flakiness" where you seem to have such a judgement yourself against creative people.

I suggest: move out, a.s.a.p. to San Diego.
That's the place for you by the sound of it.