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Old 10-01-2013, 11:30 AM
 
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Hmm... what to do when you want to move and your spouse is reluctant? I understand his reluctance - we have a big family to support and in a bad economy moving 6 hours north may not be the *best* option, especially since he has a secure job, as do I (but I work from home and can work anywhere). He is in the IT industry. Don't know if that's any better than any other industry trying to find work up there.

All I know is crime here in our small town is rising, we are sandwiched between MAJOR cities that *could* be potential terror**st locales. We've gone up there for 15 years now. How long do I put off really going for it? We can barely keep our heads above water as it is here in the mid-atlantic area. We are renting so selling a house isn't an issue.
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Old 10-01-2013, 11:41 AM
 
Location: Central Maine
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DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!! He will make your life miserable and never be happy here.
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Old 10-01-2013, 11:46 AM
 
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DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!! He will make your life miserable and never be happy here.
And you know this how?
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Old 10-01-2013, 11:50 AM
 
Location: Central Maine
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And you know this how?
Oh, did I give that away? hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
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Old 10-01-2013, 11:54 AM
 
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Um, whatever. Does anybody with real advice want to comment?
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Old 10-01-2013, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Maine's garden spot
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Um, whatever. Does anybody with real advice want to comment?
There aren't that many IT jobs here. You both have jobs. Why screw up your lives right now with the hope for one of you that it will be better.
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Old 10-01-2013, 12:21 PM
 
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I suppose you are right. Guess I will have to live with being stuck.
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Old 10-01-2013, 12:39 PM
 
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ACTUALLY, there is one kind of IT job. The guy who knows how to fix any computer, and who also knows how to have training sessions for Apple, Windows, and Linux. Whenever somebody's PC breaks down here, the nearest place is in Bucksport. There is one in Ellsworth, but you have a 50/50 chance that they can help you or are not backlogged for a month.
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Old 10-01-2013, 01:34 PM
 
Location: South Portland, Maine
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Hmm... what to do when you want to move and your spouse is reluctant? I understand his reluctance - we have a big family to support and in a bad economy moving 6 hours north may not be the *best* option, especially since he has a secure job, as do I (but I work from home and can work anywhere). He is in the IT industry. Don't know if that's any better than any other industry trying to find work up there.

All I know is crime here in our small town is rising, we are sandwiched between MAJOR cities that *could* be potential terror**st locales. We've gone up there for 15 years now. How long do I put off really going for it? We can barely keep our heads above water as it is here in the mid-atlantic area. We are renting so selling a house isn't an issue.
I wouldn't move unless it was a unanimous decision. Not to mention that reading your post it "sounds" to me like your fleeing rather than coming?? Grass is greener??

Anyways IMO your better off fixing the problems you have where you are and then when your on solid ground make a choice of where your next step is.. Financial problems won't go away coming to MAINE! And as far as crime is concerned I find that people are effected about the same with ref to crime no matter where they live... seeing it on the nightly news can be depressing and concerning but idk how it affects you unless you live in the crime ridden neighborhoods

good luck!
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Old 10-01-2013, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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So sorry to hear that you're in this same boat, Kelly. I even think we must live in the same town, by your description. Just kidding of course, but some things to consider (I've done my homework). With the economy the way it is, whether you're employable or not seems of less importance these days than the fact that you and your family would be yet another, and possibly unwelcome, addition to the population. Most Mainers are tremendously friendly. Most Mainers, on the other hand, aren't the small-town politicians and government or quasi-government (i.e., education) officials who'd probably be as entrenched and protective of "their own" as folks six hours south, sandwiched between two cities possibly the target of attacks. All I'm trying to say is that I'm on the verge of making the move, actually making it after lots of planning. I never had a pie-in-the-sky attitude; I just honestly want to escape the summers that are getting hotter than h*ll everywhere but Maine and possibly the thumb of Michigan.

The most important thing to keep in mind in the twenty-first century is that area natives do not want ANYONE moving into their area. Population growth at this point in American history is the number one negative. And if you don't believe this, make online penpal friends with someone in, say, Aroostook County, and see how eager they are to have the patter of other feet on their pristine wilderness.
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