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Old 05-23-2013, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Cumberland
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Ms. Cavin,

It just depends on what you are looking for. I will be completely honest and say that if WV is a no-go for you in terms of culture and level of tolerance, Western Maryland isn't going to be a good fit. If WV is fine, except for the fact that you can't get married there, then Western Maryland is a good choice as you get marriage rights, and the small city/big town atmosphere you are looking for. It is also gorgeous out here, about 75% of our land area is mountainous forest.

Please understand that I would rather be a bit cautious in how I describe the area rather than down play some of the negatives you may find here. I can't tell by your posts whether you know anything about Western Maryland, or are simply looking at a atlas and picking the closest city to WV still inside the lines that say "Maryland" on the map and assuming that because it says 'Maryland' the people will be Northeastern types.

I am friends with many LGTB folks in Cumberland. Some out, some not, and I have never heard any of them tell me tales of discrimination, harassment, etc. Heck, one gay couple moved here FROM Baltimore and like it much better in Cumberland.

So, it is all relative. All I ask is that you don't take too much stock in what outsiders like RFP try to paint our community as and come see for yourself if you are interested. He doesn't know, and didn't take the time to do the basic research, to even get his attempted insults right. Allegany County is 31% Catholic, 27% Methodist, and only 7% Baptist. Consider the poster when you look at their opinions.
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Old 05-23-2013, 03:50 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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Isn't it amazing how people who have spent very little or no time in some place feel empowered to call the residents there names?

OP, generally speaking people in rural areas and small towns leave each other alone unless one makes a spectacle of one's self. Will they gossip? Of course, that's human nature and it's equal opportunity and happens no matter where you live.

In my experience it's the come heres that make people's lives miserable: they don't like your yard, your garden, your plants your fence, the number of cars you own, the number and types of businesses the area can support and on and on and on. Many come to rural areas looking for a reality that doesn't exist except on Hollywood sound stages and can't accept the true realities of rural and small town life.
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Old 05-23-2013, 04:38 PM
 
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You two make some really great Points! and no I'm not putting stock in what RFP says =)
yea we are in a rural small town now ,one I have grown up in. we are planning a MD visit in July. small town way of life is what we love the slow pace and sense of community. Cumberland area and MD in general really appeal to us both. climate there is much what we both love cool temps, mountains, tree's(tree's here aren't in abundance)and I'm sure there's bound to be friendly people=)
I'm not looking for something out of a Norman Rockwell painting or anything. just a new place to grow new roots and live out our golden years.=) maybe even make some new friends and LGBT friends.
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Old 05-23-2013, 06:04 PM
 
Location: North Baltimore ----> Seattle
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Might check out the Unitarian church in Cumberland. I'm sure you're aware of that faith's history of welcoming LGBT folks.
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Old 05-23-2013, 07:04 PM
 
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Thanks Handsup! will be sure to do that! been researching and we're both pretty excited at moving prospect to that area.do you know of any LGBT friendly Realtor's there?
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Old 05-24-2013, 10:31 AM
 
Location: Seattle, WA
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I'm not sure where these other statistics are coming from, but according to the Baltimore Sun, Allegany County voted 59.9% against same-sex marriage and 40.1% for it. Perhaps these numbers don't reflect the final vote count..
Maryland Question 6 gay marriage and Question 7 casino referendum map. - baltimoresun.com
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Old 05-24-2013, 01:09 PM
 
Location: MD suburbs of DC
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Frederick County is rapidly getting influenced by DC, and is part of the DC metro area. I personally don't consider most of it part of Western Maryland apart from Brunswick. Parts of it feel like Montgomery County (Urbana, and to a lesser extent, Frederick city), parts feel like Carroll County (Mt. Airy), parts feel almost exactly like South Central Pennsylvania (Emmittsburg), and parts... well, parts feel like all three (Thurmont). Apologies if I'm harping too much on this but it honestly angers me (former/current resident of Urbana - long story) that we are considered part of Western Maryland. Nothing against them but we are nothing alike. Hagerstown also has influence from the DC metro area and is in that sort of transition zone between Western MD and "downstate," as some refer to Central MD/the DC or Baltimore suburbs.

Cumberland is overall a pretty nice place, I've been there several times. It's pretty laid back and isolated - whether that's a good thing or not is purely opinion. Cumberland is quite conservative, but the younger residents within the city, as well as Frostburg, are generally quite accepting and usually lean moderate. I don't ever remember reading any instance of crime made on the basis of intolerance. It definitely has a strong community-like feeling, and many local church communities.
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Old 05-24-2013, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Cumberland
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Originally Posted by drs72 View Post
I'm not sure where these other statistics are coming from, but according to the Baltimore Sun, Allegany County voted 59.9% against same-sex marriage and 40.1% for it. Perhaps these numbers don't reflect the final vote count..
Maryland Question 6 gay marriage and Question 7 casino referendum map. - baltimoresun.com
Yeah, the Sun totals are partial returns. The full returns for Allegany County are here. Just Ctrl+F "question 6"

http://gov.allconet.org/elections/re...%20RESULTS.pdf
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Old 05-24-2013, 04:17 PM
 
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Well, I appreciate all the comments and everything..we are gonna be in wv for 2 weeks in July and just gonna take a trip over to md and visit see if it's gonna be a good fit. Please don't miss interpret my question. I wasn't meaning anything bad by asking about the tolerance or intolerance levels. I know this law is new for the state. I was just looking for a feel as to if where we as a couple would be most welcome and would hopefully have a place where we could be apart of a church and community.. here there is neither of those things. I will admit fact that it's legal to get married there also factors in. that's so much less to worry about.
I know there is a fine line between "reality" and "Hollywood sound stage" as to small town life. I love the out doors, mountain's tree's climate.. Love to do Photography, bird watch... and from researching Md has all we're looking for. yes the gossip and whispering is gonna be in there no matter where you live or who you are lol that's just human nature.

Thank you all for taking the time to answer my post. oh and westside, the fact there is actual LGBT folks in Cumberland gives me hope we'd have some Couples(both LGBT and Straight) around us and not so isolated =)
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Old 05-24-2013, 04:30 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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Tax wise you'd probably do better in PA or WVA.
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