Keep Twins together in same class-Which South Shore school system?? (Boston: home, rent)

[KT5]

Moving from South Boston to South Shore in near future and one of my big concerns is keeping my twin boys, now 3.5 yrs old, together in school. (Same class for at least pre-school, first grade). Which south shore towns allow keeping twins together (I have read that many principals believe twins should be seperated.) and what school systems are really good? We are thinking of Kingston, Pembroke, Hanson....Any help you can give me would be very appreciated. I want to do whats best for my boys.

Thanks, KT5

[scarletfire]

It's very common in school districts to separate twins nowadays. But you're the parent and really I think you should have some say in this decision. I say, find a school district that seems to suit your needs and talk with the principal and see if they're open-minded and accomodating. I think the choice to separate should depend on the individuals involved, not a blanket policy. I'm a twin and my sister and I were separated in kindergarden. At the time we were upset about it but it probably was a good idea, as we were both quite shy and being separated were sort of forced to reach out and make our own friends. There's another set of twins in my family though who were separated and it was really hard for them and I think they still haven't adjusted and it might not have been the best idea for them.

Incidentally, have you read that new book "Identical Strangers"? An interesting read, particularly for twins or parents of twins. It's a true story about twins who were intentionally separated at birth and adopted by different families as part of a nature/nurture study. I find this very disturbing but it was very touching to follow their reunion after 38 years.

Sorry I can't comment on the particular school districts you mentioned but I'm sure someone else on the forum will share their two cents! :-)

[findingmesomeday]

A bit off topic but thanks for the recommended read, Scarletfire. My mother was a twin and her death was very hard on my uncle. Even as adults, they had this weird language or words they used to talk to eachother.

Back on topic, my uncle says they were together in grade school (Brooklyn NY) and separated after that.

[smarty]

I have no idea why school system separate them in different classes. I'm sure there is a good reason. I speculate about being independent... do homework individually instead of copying from the other. I suggest talking to a school principal.

[KT5]

Thanks so much for your replys. I think it would probably be a good idea to seperate my twins maybe by 1st grade but for now I think emotionally they need each other. I will have to start calling different principals of the towns we are interested in moving to.

[noniwilli]

Hi,

I am also a mom of twins. Mine are currently in the first grade, and I have a singleton who is in the 4th grade....in preschool, the twins were seperated because there were openings in two different classes...and when it came to registering them the next year, I offered them to be placed together, but they didn't want to, so I seperated them again. In Kindergarten, I put them together, and plan to keep them together, until they can do their homework and projects independently. Personally, I am so SWAMPED with homework, that if I had two different classes for the boys & then my older child, I would never get anything else done! I have found that the school system is fine with what I want...and personally, I wouldn't care if they weren't.....I am their mother, and I know what is best for them. As a sidenote, my twins are not the types to only hang around each other. In fact, they each have their own group of friends, and their teachers say that they barely even talk with one another! I live in Hanover, by the way, but we just moved here from the north shore.

Good Luck!