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Originally Posted by CreepyMuse
...Yes, nothing better than being honest, just I hope people understand me because I dont' want to feel stupid or a weird...
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So far as being "weird", EVERYBODY is weird in some way. Some people try to hide things they think others will not approve of. Then they are not being themselves - they are acting like someone else. Not good!
But there is nothing better in this world than being honest with another person about your "weirdness" (whatever that may be for a particular person), then that person accepts you for who you are. It is really cool to be able to open up to another person and from then on not have to put up any false fronts.
Many men do want to touch and have a physical relationship. But I do know one guy who was abused as a child and does not like to be touched. And he can go years without any physical relationship with a woman. His girlfriends have left him due to this.
But he does like living with a woman. Talking and doing things together.
Anyway if I know one guy like that, I assume there must be many more out there! And as they say, "There is someone for everyone!"
craigslist.org has free personals for every major city in the U.S. And in their personals section they have a "strictly platonic" area. You might want to check that out.
I would just advise you to be upfront and honest with anyone you meet. And if you post your own personals ad, be sure to say you don't like to be touched. And also say what you do want and do like to do.
Note with craigslist, there are computer "bots" which reply to ads. These are just trying to collect people's email addresses. To weed these out, ask anyone replying to your ad to use a certain word or phrase in the subject line. Like "No Touching". (Different from your posts real subject line.) Then reply to only those emails. Those emails will be from real humans.
And best to meet people in a public place like a restaurant.
Another possibility is that my "no touching" friend above is diagnosed with PTSD. I don't know if you could more easily find people like my friend by attending PTSD groups? And I don't know if that would be a good idea or not? Might want to discuss what I have said with your psychologist. Maybe he/she would have some ideas?
And that is a good step toward being honest with people including your psychologist and friends. Discuss with them the advice other people have given you and see what they think!