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Thanks for taking the time to read this. A couple months back it dawned on me that I should possibly look into professional help. I would continually get chest pains so I was forced to go to the cardiologist since we thought it was heart related, well heart checked out fine. I did some research and it may be anxiety...
I typically think the worst of all situations, even though there is no rational to it. IE I hate to fly (fear of crashing), I'm always concerned about losing my job (even though I am successful and my company is doing well), and as of recently I now have a fear of dying to some extent. I get worked up over the fact that I might die tomorrow and I wasted my life working (I normally take vacations a few times a year, go out with friends, so it's not like I work 24/7). Very embarrassing to say, the whole 2012 apocalypse thing king of has me worked up, even though I know its dumb But on the other hand I'm not concerned with driving 90mph on the highway not wearing a seatbelt, so it may be a control issue more then anything
I dont think its really affecting my work or personal life, more of an annoyance than anything. Does anybody have any experience starting out or am I foolish to seek help?
when you start asking yourself, "how do I know when it is time to seek a pro", that is when you should seek a professional. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If costly, how much is your life worth?If they tell you nothing is wrong then that should be a load off your mind already.
when you start asking yourself, "how do I know when it is time to seek a pro", that is when you should seek a professional. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If costly, how much is your life worth?If they tell you nothing is wrong then that should be a load off your mind already.
The first step in recovering from any traumatic influence or event, or even overcoming anxiety, is acknowledging "I may need help with this, I can't do this on my own". Sometimes just talking out your fears to someone you trust can help, sometimes it takes a professional to say, "OK, here's what's making you afraid, and you can deal with it this way" to give you other options... or to help you to realize that your fears are not as large as you first thought. When you are trapped in a circle of "if-then" and can't get out, sometimes others can show you the way out.
I think seeking help is a good idea....sounds like you don't feel you deserve good things....hence, you focus on all the bad that can happen. Why? That's what you need to find out!
Thanks for taking the time to read this. A couple months back it dawned on me that I should possibly look into professional help. I would continually get chest pains so I was forced to go to the cardiologist since we thought it was heart related, well heart checked out fine. I did some research and it may be anxiety...
I typically think the worst of all situations, even though there is no rational to it. IE I hate to fly (fear of crashing), I'm always concerned about losing my job (even though I am successful and my company is doing well), and as of recently I now have a fear of dying to some extent. I get worked up over the fact that I might die tomorrow and I wasted my life working (I normally take vacations a few times a year, go out with friends, so it's not like I work 24/7). Very embarrassing to say, the whole 2012 apocalypse thing king of has me worked up, even though I know its dumb But on the other hand I'm not concerned with driving 90mph on the highway not wearing a seatbelt, so it may be a control issue more then anything
I dont think its really affecting my work or personal life, more of an annoyance than anything. Does anybody have any experience starting out or am I foolish to seek help?
Thanks again
The time to seek help has long since come...
There is relief just waiting for you to reach for it
I am adding this link, it is a story about a woman who attempted suicide, and failed. It is a very courageous story. And it makes me think that if someone who needed help, could read this story, and identify with this woman, prior to doing something as drastic as she did...it would be of benefit.
OP, you have some very neurotic tendencies. I actually don't think this is a bad thing as neurotic people are the nicest people I know but they can drive themselves crazy with their thoughts. One thing I read once and this has helped me is that becoming aware of the problem is a big step to fixing it. Like when you're afraid of the apocalypse, just tell yourself that at least we'll all go together or that it will go quickly and we've all got to die anyway. Works for me anyway.
Let's put it this way--did you ever see Woody Allen's Annie Hall? If you did and you understood exactly what he was going thru, then I have just successfully dx'ed my first patient over the internet LOL. If you thought it was stupid, then go get counseling b/c we've come to the limits of my psychiatrical knowledge.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. A couple months back it dawned on me that I should possibly look into professional help. I would continually get chest pains so I was forced to go to the cardiologist since we thought it was heart related, well heart checked out fine. I did some research and it may be anxiety...
I typically think the worst of all situations, even though there is no rational to it. IE I hate to fly (fear of crashing), I'm always concerned about losing my job (even though I am successful and my company is doing well), and as of recently I now have a fear of dying to some extent. I get worked up over the fact that I might die tomorrow and I wasted my life working (I normally take vacations a few times a year, go out with friends, so it's not like I work 24/7). Very embarrassing to say, the whole 2012 apocalypse thing king of has me worked up, even though I know its dumb But on the other hand I'm not concerned with driving 90mph on the highway not wearing a seatbelt, so it may be a control issue more then anything
I dont think its really affecting my work or personal life, more of an annoyance than anything. Does anybody have any experience starting out or am I foolish to seek help?
Thanks again
Yes, I have always been like you. My mind will just figure out what can go wrong and then I sit there in a state of anxiety waiting for it to happen. I did get therapy and it did help, and I also ended up having something really terrible happen where I thought I really might be facing my death in minutes, and I didn't die. As a matter of fact, I was completely in control and knew what I should do. That also helped (and it cured me of my fear of flying, oddly enough).
I still have those tendencies, but I'm aware of what it is and how to manage it. So, I vote yes, go for some therapy.
But for me, I spoke to a counselor when I felt I had used up a good deal of my resources and did everything I knew I was suppose to do. I was still functioning, my life was going well on the surface, grades still maintained, professors still treated me well, I was still maneuvering, I just wanted some insight, I wanted them to show me something I wasn't seeing.
In terms of that 2012 thing, I know I use to have anxiety over the concept as well. I didn't believe it, but because I saw so many folks worked up over it, i started thinking, "Hmmm...maybe they're right!" And my panic attacks use to manifest in the presence of this theory. So I did my own exposure therapy to it until I reached a point where I accepted that there's no point in worrying about it, because it's out of my control. Only stating that since you said it could be a control issue.
I think seeking help is a good idea....sounds like you don't feel you deserve good things....hence, you focus on all the bad that can happen. Why? That's what you need to find out!
You bring up a good point that a friend mentioned to me the other day. My folks died when I was young and I was raised in a lower - mid class family. I did horrible in school, dropped out of a community college and continued to work. I currently make low six figures working for an IT company. I'm good at what I do, but I almost feel bad that I was blessed with this good fortune and there are other people out of work, even though I have worked of it. The 'better' my life gets, the more afraid I become in life. I remember when I would take flights when I was making $7 an hour and dont ever remember worrying.
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But on the other hand I'm not concerned with driving 90mph on the highway not wearing a seatbelt, so it may be a control issue more then anything
