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Old 04-11-2012, 05:48 PM
 
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My friend has always had low self-esteem. A lot of the way she feels is how people treat her. Now after years of feeling inferior she's had enough. I've known her since I was little and she's always hated herself. Literally, she's HATED herself. Now, she says she will get help and try to do things differently but she has come to the conclusion that if she doesn't feel better about herself she will commit suicide in a year. I unfortunately believe her but there is nothing that anyone can do to convince her differently.
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Old 04-11-2012, 05:58 PM
 
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A lot can happen in a year. If she gets counseling, that should help her, if it doesn't, she needs to go somewhere else for help. There is no reason she can't start feeling better about herself if she is taking the first step.
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:15 PM
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Location: Islip,NY
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My friend has always had low self-esteem. A lot of the way she feels is how people treat her. Now after years of feeling inferior she's had enough. I've known her since I was little and she's always hated herself. Literally, she's HATED herself. Now, she says she will get help and try to do things differently but she has come to the conclusion that if she doesn't feel better about herself she will commit suicide in a year. I unfortunately believe her but there is nothing that anyone can do to convince her differently.
I would stick by her side and encourage her to get help and just be there for her. That's the best you can do. Maybe you guys could do something fun together to help her get her mind off of things (if that's something she'd be willing to do) Does she talk about things to you and vent? Let her know you will always be there for her no matter what. You can give her advice but that does not mean she will follow it. I hope things get better for you and your friend.
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Santa Cruz, CA
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what does "compromise her suicide mean"?
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:24 PM
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what does "compromise her suicide mean"?
Maybe she is re-thinking it by getting help?
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:27 PM
 
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taking generic brand sleeping pills
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:30 PM
 
Location: If you're not living on the edge, you're taking up too much space
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what does "compromise her suicide mean"?
Maybe she meant 'contemplate'?

In any case, I agree about sticking with her and expressing your feelings that she should not kill herself. There are suicide hotlines, too, that counsel people.
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:35 PM
 
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By "compromising", she means that she will commit suicide within a year as opposed to "anytime" if things don't change. There is nothing we can do. We've tried talking her out of it and she's "compromising" her decision for us (Like it's helping the situation..).
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Old 04-11-2012, 08:39 PM
 
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I think I should write a book, about people who really went thru with suicide, by shooting themselves, taking meds, driving into a tree...and lived. Many of them with severe disabilities. The experience completely changed their lives, and one would think for the worse..!ut interestingly enough, the entire event is a life changing experience, almost like the act of committing suicide was a catharsis. And living afterwards, even with a self inflicted disability, created a purpose in life.

I don't recommend a self inflicted injury as a "cure" for depression, but it definitely changes the direction of many people's lives.

Your friend needs help. Professional help, maybe even hospitalization. Even without insurance, people who are a danger to themselves can be committed for 72 hours under the "Baker Act", as an involuntary committment. I suggest you tell adult protective services about your friend's plan, so they can intervene, and get her the treatment she needs.
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Old 04-11-2012, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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I think I should write a book, about people who really went thru with suicide, by shooting themselves, taking meds, driving into a tree...and lived. Many of them with severe disabilities. The experience completely changed their lives, and one would think for the worse..!ut interestingly enough, the entire event is a life changing experience, almost like the act of committing suicide was a catharsis. And living afterwards, even with a self inflicted disability, created a purpose in life.

I don't recommend a self inflicted injury as a "cure" for depression, but it definitely changes the direction of many people's lives.

Your friend needs help. Professional help, maybe even hospitalization. Even without insurance, people who are a danger to themselves can be committed for 72 hours under the "Baker Act", as an involuntary committment. I suggest you tell adult protective services about your friend's plan, so they can intervene, and get her the treatment she needs.
If she is going to try and get help, why would it be necessary to have her carted off for a 72 hour lock up stay against her will? If she felt she had no self esteem before, that trip will only make it worse. I've seen staff that could care less about the well being of the person and showed inpatients very little respect. That is not uncommon at all.

All the OP can do now is be there for her as much as she can, showing compassion and love for her friend. I do hope she can see some relief through treatment, and thanks to the OP for be a caring friend. Many people are quick to dump those with serious problems like this.
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