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Originally Posted by tarajane2013
But if I did let him do what he wanted I would be there to see him in horrible agony. I have thought many times about just giving him all his meds including heart, kidney meds and let him be in charge and say have at it. but he would not keep them straight. Have you taken your morning pills, no have you taken your night pills no, do you need a pain pill no. That's on my mind 24/7. My ship is about to sink and I have no life vest. I am going to find a good therapist, don't know how to find a good one but I will work on it. Maybe it's ME that needs therapy to learn how to deal with this. Take care
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You're putting his well-being waaaay over yours. Rather than see him in "horrible agony", you'll go through it yourself. (the compassionate act of one who loves another more than themself). The mind is even more important than the physical shell we reside in.
Put his pills on the table where he knows that they are....marked morning and night. Don't leave the pain pills where he can access them. It may sound cruel, but I wouldn't give him any until he's taken the other, necessary ones first....Anyone I've EVER known who suffers severe pain (myself included at times) NEVER NEVER forgets to take those pain pills..........If he finds he's in "horrible agony" he'll remember mighty quick. He doesn't have to right now because you're living that part of his life for him. It's not your ship that's sinking tarajane, it's his, and you've decided to go down with him.
It's only because you're feeling so down about your life, that I feel OK to say that you need to tell him you ain't babysitting his meds anymore.....maybe the pain is what he needs...to straighten him out and make him want to do what he needs knows doing. Why should you do that?...they're HIS conditions, not yours, yet it sounds like they're hurting you more than him.....and that can only happen if you let it. You gotta love yourself too...
He's a grown man...it can't always be about him, and just because he's disabled does not mean it has to.
You need to believe that, and not feel bad that you do. Your life is precious too, you know.