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Update: I just found out yesterday that one of the people who used to mess with me at school is currently has an arrest warrant out for shooting someone.
I know, I'm glad. Anyway, this is sort of random, but if I have a significant other and/or kids in the future and they ask about my youth, should I keep the things that happened to me a secret and just pretend that it never happened?
I know, I'm glad. Anyway, this is sort of random, but if I have a significant other and/or kids in the future and they ask about my youth, should I keep the things that happened to me a secret and just pretend that it never happened?
I don't think so. Secrets carry their own burden, and especially if you have kids, it might help them handle a similar situation if they should run into it.
I didn't read through all 8 pages, but I wanted to add my two cents. Its normal. I feel the same way. I was bullied in high school, too. Recently, one of the bullies tried to add me on Facebook. I declined it. Doesn't look like he's up to much these days..
I was horrendously bullied though kindergarten to 10th grade. I dealt with it badly. I repressed a lot of anger and let an abuse pattern develop. I say let the anger out constructively an grow from it. Easier said than done but don't let what evil people did to you define your life.
I know that my body conscious opinion of myself is tied to that. I was a chubby kid, but not fat like today's kids are. Nevertheless, unrelenting attacks on my outer attributes caused me to have no confidence. Stays with me today. I struggle in being a faithful husband, at times, because I now get the attention from the opposite sex that i would have liked to have gotten back in high school.
I guess that people change, but damage can be done early in your life. I try to instill self-confidence in my kids, the best I can.
Let it go and move on with your life. Wanting revenge is only hurting you, not them.
I'm actually calmer now than I was when I initially made the thread. However, I don't want to let go of what happened and if I ever get the chance to get some sort of revenge against them, however unlikely that may be, I'm still taking it. The dislike I hold for the people that bullied me is for life.
I know that my body conscious opinion of myself is tied to that. I was a chubby kid, but not fat like today's kids are. Nevertheless, unrelenting attacks on my outer attributes caused me to have no confidence. Stays with me today. I struggle in being a faithful husband, at times, because I now get the attention from the opposite sex that i would have liked to have gotten back in high school.
I guess that people change, but damage can be done early in your life. I try to instill self-confidence in my kids, the best I can.
That's a problem I have as well. I want to live out the days I missed due to being a loner and having no self-esteem. I want to have a lot of friends and get the girls I was never able to have.
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