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A lot of this just stems to arguments here on this forum and in the real world pertaining to car-free lifestyles. I see vehicles as being too expensive and an overall hindrance to life in general. And now I feel guilty and worthless for having to own one. I express these thoughts and the willingness to go car-free to others and that's when they think something is generally wrong with me. Then of course there's the issues of why I prefer not to drive and would rather take a train, or bus, or even rent a car if driving needs to be done. Most would probably see this as "not getting with the program", I see this in the political vein as conservative conformity and I'm some sort of threat to them for continually riding my bike to work and letting my somewhat new, pickup truck rot in the driveway.
I'm still flushing money down on it due to some mistakes made earlier the past year. So it's not going any where.
Then of course there's the other small issue of work life becoming stressful again. No way to really change how I'm being treated in there as far as choice of work assignments, so once again, it's application submitting time.
I completely get you, because I'm the same way. Here's my overall take on thing. You're breaking the norm, and people don't like that. People have become control freaks. Anything that isn't what they think "should be" scares the you-know-what out of them. Whenever they see true freedom, they are horrified.
And for anyone else reading, it's not a conservative problem, but a modern one. Liberals too try to "conserve" their values through the same fear and hate-mongering.
Therapists are over-rated. Most of them do a great service by teaching severely disabled people how to live their lives so they don't end up on the streets or go to jail. And yes, SOME of them are great to just talk to. But those are few and far between, because of how they're trained.
Now here's your (and my) problem. You care about what the conformists think, and it's causing you stress! That's the real problem. And yeah, if nobody agrees with you, it's hard to go through life without friends... but come on. They're out there.
It's not just about the truck. It's about fitting into society. It took me a while to come to grips with disagreeing with all sorts of mainstream thought. But once I did, it became a source of confidence. When you rightfully go against the grain, you become more important than you can imagine.
I completely get you, because I'm the same way. Here's my overall take on thing. You're breaking the norm, and people don't like that. People have become control freaks. Anything that isn't what they think "should be" scares the you-know-what out of them. Whenever they see true freedom, they are horrified.
And for anyone else reading, it's not a conservative problem, but a modern one. Liberals too try to "conserve" their values through the same fear and hate-mongering.
Therapists are over-rated. Most of them do a great service by teaching severely disabled people how to live their lives so they don't end up on the streets or go to jail. And yes, SOME of them are great to just talk to. But those are few and far between, because of how they're trained.
Now here's your (and my) problem. You care about what the conformists think, and it's causing you stress! That's the real problem. And yeah, if nobody agrees with you, it's hard to go through life without friends... but come on. They're out there.
It's not just about the truck. It's about fitting into society. It took me a while to come to grips with disagreeing with all sorts of mainstream thought. But once I did, it became a source of confidence. When you rightfully go against the grain, you become more important than you can imagine.
If anything, I did pick up some useful messages from good therapists I've had in the past. Mainly those lessons being if the given situation becomes too tough to handle, it's better to walk/run away if an exit is within sight. No need to stick around and fight through whichever means.
Even if running away means losing income, credit score dropping, or even some sort of legal penalty, those consequences could be less dire than the weight that just fell off your shoulders.
As far as the truck goes, I'm aiming towards sticking with the line of work I'm doing for now until it's finally paid off. I figure once this debt and a few others are out of the way, there's no use in keeping a high paying, high stress job like I'm doing anymore.
Go back to either low pay security, or find a night job at Denny's or something peeling onions for a paltry sum.
If society can't handle someone that doesn't want to handle the stress of a high maintenance lifestyle, then tuberculosis to them.
Nothing wrong with staying in a cheap part of NM, paying little for rent, and working the truck-stop Denny's or IHOP eight hours a night.
Nothing really, just like I feel it there's nothing to gain from lining some therapist's pockets with my hard earned cash. I'm just ultimately tired of everyone acting like death is inevitable if I give up on seeing some sort of therapist. I know I'm not going to hurt anyone or anything crazily outlandish.
Nothing wrong with just shuffling around without much of a care.
It's your life. You can choose to be unhappy, unsettled, and/or in emotional pain. Live how you want to live. Just know that people are only trying to help. You can refuse that help.
On quite a few forums and real life discussions, I've been known to get a little ranty. I mean we all do and we should all just take it in stride and find a solution the root cause of the anger.
However, when someone takes a cheap shot with suggesting a professional therapist, I see that as hitting below the belt. And perhaps that person suggesting it might be getting some sort of kick-back or helping out a friend's struggling business.
If the argument becomes too heated, just walk away, or offer back a cheeky response in kind.
Seems to be the go-to reply for 95% of the threads around here. Other popular responses are "dump him/her", "cut contact", and "get a new job" depending on the topic at hand. Welcome to C-D!
Seems to be the go-to reply for 95% of the threads around here. Other popular responses are "dump him/her", "cut contact", and "get a new job" depending on the topic at hand. Welcome to C-D!
Sometimes the solutions are that simple. You have a boyfriend that is making your life miserable? Why not dump him? The simple solution is the first step along a path to something better.
Seems to be the go-to reply for 95% of the threads around here. Other popular responses are "dump him/her", "cut contact", and "get a new job" depending on the topic at hand. Welcome to C-D!
The new job thing kind of works in a way. I'd just like to try that step without it following a stress-induced, firing from the previous job. By stress-induced, I don't mean violently "blowing up". But more or less, poor job performance following years of strong performance, or just running out of energy one day and taking that snooze at the wrong time.
Replying to OP, I'v learned that whenever you vent to your friends or even complain about something (anything) online, the first thing they do is tell you how to solve the damn problem, which drives me up a wall. No one has ever suggested I see therapy, but I'd be so angry if they did. I'm not mentally unstable or ill. I just have complaints that I feel like venting about. So I've learned that to have small talk and say everything is great in my life. Friends don't like honesty. They want to hear positivity, so that's what I give them.
As for someone saying you need therapy, they're not going to know if you'll get offended or not. If they said the same thing to someone else, perhaps THAT person will take it to heart and actually get therapy. So I'm assuming you came here to vent, which is fine.
Replying to OP, I'v learned that whenever you vent to your friends or even complain about something (anything) online, the first thing they do is tell you how to solve the damn problem, which drives me up a wall. No one has ever suggested I see therapy, but I'd be so angry if they did. I'm not mentally unstable or ill. I just have complaints that I feel like venting about. So I've learned that to have small talk and say everything is great in my life. Friends don't like honesty. They want to hear positivity, so that's what I give them.
As for someone saying you need therapy, they're not going to know if you'll get offended or not. If they said the same thing to someone else, perhaps THAT person will take it to heart and actually get therapy. So I'm assuming you came here to vent, which is fine.
Kind of a rant, kind of a vent due to how things have been going for the past, few months. Just trying to keep a lid on things at work while I continue to try and find a new gig.
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