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Old 12-22-2008, 05:56 PM
 
Location: Griffin, Georgia
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I would caution anyone on this board against forming a romantic relationship with someone who has a type of mental illness like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, schizo-affective disorder, etc. I have had this experience a few times and I must say it is gut-wrenching to deal with these people intimately even when they are super amazing people. I am not prejudiced in any way..I have an older brother with autism and I have mild depression, but I am stable and take meds. I have gone out with a few men who have bipolar illness and all of a sudden they just up and you dont hear from them anymore. Same with schizophrenia. I also talked to two guys on the Internet who were diagnosed-same deal. I have had one female friend for seven years who has just decided to brush me off coldly. I am deadly serious about this. I know one girl who has schizophrenia who got married at 26, has a successful job, but that was a few years ago and I don't know how she is doing now. But apparently she is one of those on the "high end " of functioning. So this is why for a long term relationship, for me "no mental illness" is a deal-breaker. I am OK with guys who have lost limbs, are mentally disabled, learning impaired-just not with a mood disorder. If anyone on this board has a major mental illness please do not take this post the wrong way. I am completely sensitive to your plight because I have friends (not close friends) who deal with these issues. Thank you for your time.
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Old 12-22-2008, 06:01 PM
 
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^ I find this post a bit offensive. Everybody has the right to choose who they love and fall in love with.

I've known people that were not bipolar or schizophrenic that were here today and gone tomorrow or rude and selfish. Negative human qualities span across every human alive.
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Old 12-22-2008, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I have gone out with a few men who have bipolar illness and all of a sudden they just up and you dont hear from them anymore.
And how'd you know if you just went out with them a few times (sounds like)?

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I have had one female friend for seven years who has just decided to brush me off coldly.
This is an example of a mental illness...?!
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Old 12-22-2008, 10:41 PM
 
Location: Floribama
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I have gone out with a few men who have bipolar illness and all of a sudden they just up and you dont hear from them anymore.
Better to deal with someone like that than someone who turns out to be a lunatic stalker. I have seen my share of those.
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Old 12-22-2008, 11:27 PM
 
Location: Funky Town
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Sorry your relationship didn't work out with your mentally ill boyfriend. I think maybe you should have thought long and hard before you started your thread. There are some of us who are parents, children, relatives, or loved ones of mentally ill people. This time of year, can be profoundly sad for some. Tolerance and unconditional love is the key during this time of year, and all through our lives. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and yours.
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Old 12-23-2008, 09:11 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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WOW! I have a comment but I'll keep it to myself.All I'll say is I totally disagree.
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Old 12-23-2008, 10:03 AM
 
Location: Sarasota Florida
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Every family has someone in it who has mental or physical issues. A "holier-than-thou" attitude is impractical and might lead to a very lonely life !
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Old 12-23-2008, 12:18 PM
 
Location: Back in New York
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I know its not PC to say it but I would not get involved with someone with mental illness...besides they are difficult to deal with, if you ever do have kids they may inherit it.
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Old 12-23-2008, 12:19 PM
 
Location: southern california
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lots of crazy people post on CDF. internet is the liars highway to the galaxy.
liars are much harder to spot on a keyboard (difficult but not impossible)
please, dont date them.
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Old 12-23-2008, 12:26 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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Yes... stay away from the crazies!!!!

Depression can be a form of mental illness. I have dealt with it for many many years, and they call it a mental illness. Doesn't seem like it should be called that but it is.

I guess I am just lucky that someone would consider being with me, even though I am mental. YAY me!
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