advise please about bipolar

[oleo]

Originally Posted by beachluc

Her brother is 8 years older than her,and ya she looks up to him.But,he lives in another town,so she does not see him as much as she would like.

I would try to get him involved with her life as much as possible. I'm surprised he would move away from a widow and his sister. I think your daughter would benefit tremendously if her brother stepped in and acted like that stable male that I was talking about. It gives her something to look up to. An image that she wants some day for herself to have, like a future husband. It's weird how it works, but girls want the type of guy that their male role model is (father or older caring brother). Studies have shown that girls raised without fathers are more sexually active and prone to other illnesses. Girls with great fathers or role models are usually more stable and happy. Their boyfriends are competing with how their father treats them. Girls that have nothing to compare to, end up with sleezy guys, because they don't know what is better. There is no father or role model to show them that they can have, and deserve better...

That's all I got, good luck with everything. Bring the family together.

[movin'on]

I wish I had some good advice here. She is 21. Perhaps she will tire of the instability and the self injury. You can't force her to take meds or see a therapist. What you can do is to be there for her and have the kind of relationship where she will feel supported and like it's safe to talk to you. Best wishes.

[Miborn]

Do you live in a state that you could have her committed for evaluation they would get her on meds and she would see that she feels better on the right ones.

[beachluc]

Originally Posted by movin'on

I wish I had some good advice here. She is 21. Perhaps she will tire of the instability and the self injury. You can't force her to take meds or see a therapist. What you can do is to be there for her and have the kind of relationship where she will feel supported and like it's safe to talk to you. Best wishes.

thanks for your thoughts,this is what I am hoping for.I am going to a support group and hopefully that will help too.

[Jaxson]

I had never heard of cutting until we started seeing it in a youth group I was helping with. After talking to the girls and 1 boy doing it we just left it alone with the info we gave them but prayed for them. After a short while they all quit cutting when we asked them why they said because we didn't make a big deal out of it like their parents did. They realized they were only harming themselves but they liked the rise they got out of their parents from doing it. They knew it was the wrong kind of attention but to them it was attention they weren't getting.

Maybe try not to mention it to her? Good luck the longer they have been cutting the harder it is for them to stop. Your DD has to realize she isn't gaining anything by cutting.