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Old 06-02-2010, 06:57 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I quit smoking because I hate smoking and it got to the point where I was exhausted running up stairs (and I'm 22 and fit). Anyways, I quit smoking but still dip and use nicotine gum. The main problem I have is how it affects my relationship. Ive been with this girl a long time and I trust her, but when I'm without nicotine I get really jealous and untrusting and downright depressive. It scares me because she's never smoked, she also hates it.. but she doesn't understand truly what its like to quit and if I'm acting like this with her she might just get tired of it all. Does anybody have advice on how to explain these things or what I could do to deal with it? I don't give a crap about how I feel and if I was single I wouldn't care if I was a jerk.. but this isn't something I want to ruin.
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Old 06-02-2010, 06:58 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Does this go in relationship forum or health forum? haha , wasn't sure feel free to move this thread wherever
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Old 06-03-2010, 06:54 AM
 
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I guess that's why some people use Chantix (a pill that's kind of like an antideppresant) to quit. I don't recommend it, as the warnings (like suicidal thoughts) outweigh the benefits. I am an ex-smoker, so I'm empathetic. You shouldn't be feeling or acting nasty because it's not like you're having nicotine withdrawal, as you're chewing tobacco and using the nicotine gum. I want to support you and say, "You can do this!! You can quit!!" At the same time, it sounds like you're using it as an excuse for acting nasty. If you want the girl, shape up and be nice! Best wishes!
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Old 06-03-2010, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Mostly in my head
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Get the patch - they work!
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Old 06-16-2010, 01:36 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I guess that's why some people use Chantix (a pill that's kind of like an antideppresant) to quit. I don't recommend it, as the warnings (like suicidal thoughts) outweigh the benefits. I am an ex-smoker, so I'm empathetic. You shouldn't be feeling or acting nasty because it's not like you're having nicotine withdrawal, as you're chewing tobacco and using the nicotine gum. I want to support you and say, "You can do this!! You can quit!!" At the same time, it sounds like you're using it as an excuse for acting nasty. If you want the girl, shape up and be nice! Best wishes!
by the way, i only do when im not using the gum or chew. and for an update, I haven't touched any nicotine since my OP, I've gone crazy a couple times but nothing terrible

Good luck to anyone else quitting
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Old 06-16-2010, 03:53 PM
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Location: Western WA
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First off you need to know that you being a smoker and your GF not is a huge issue and will weight heavily on your relationship giving a huge disadvantage to it even working out between the two of you. Especially if your GF hates it. Have you guys ever fought over your smoking??

Next you need to make a decision if you want to quit or not. If you do you need to quit and stop playing around with Nicotine. If you don't you will go right back to it. For using the gums and patches is still providing you your drug of choice. Yes it does suck to quit. And yes you will be an a$$ for a while as you get over it. But it will and does get better! 3-10 days and you will be better, then it's gradual from there and it can takes years to be over it, if ever...

Do yourself a favor and do the right thing.

Visit www.whyquit.com for more info and encouragement.

Good luck to you.
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Old 06-16-2010, 04:18 PM
 
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First off you need to know that you being a smoker and your GF not is a huge issue and will weight heavily on your relationship giving a huge disadvantage to it even working out between the two of you.

We're well aware that you love to troll through "smoking" threads. If you would actually read what you're responding to, you'll make an a$$ out of yourself far less often than you do.

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I quit smoking because I hate smoking and it got to the point where I was exhausted running up stairs (and I'm 22 and fit). Anyways, I quit smoking but still dip and use nicotine gum.
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Old 06-17-2010, 08:47 AM
 
Location: So Ca
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Does anybody have advice on how to explain these things or what I could do to deal with it? I don't give a crap about how I feel and if I was single I wouldn't care...
Of course it profoundly affects one's relationships, and I don't think anyone who has never smoked would ever be able to understand nicotine addiction or withdrawal. There was an article in the Wall St Journal years ago in which a tobacco researcher at the U. of California at San Francisco stated that nicotine is one of the few drugs that function as a stimulant first thing in the morning, a tranquilizer later in the day for people who are anxious, and a mild antidepressant for people who are feeling a little down. Quitting and being able to live without that extra dopamine is harder for some than others. Keep at it; you can do it. And it'll worth it to be free of all that tobacco paraphernalia...no more being encumbered by searching for a pack, looking for a lighter/matches, finding an ashtray, etc, etc.
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Old 06-17-2010, 04:25 PM
 
Location: East Coast
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I quit smoking because I hate smoking and it got to the point where I was exhausted running up stairs (and I'm 22 and fit). Anyways, I quit smoking but still dip and use nicotine gum.
OMG...chewing tobacco is just as bad as smoking!

Chewing tobacco: Not a safe alternative to cigarettes - MayoClinic.com

Here's a picture of a guy who lost half of his jaw and a third of his tongue...due to chewing tobacco:

Smokeless Tobacco Doesn't Mean There's No Fire - ClearysNoteBook (http://www.gloucestercitynews.net/clearysnotebook/2009/06/httporalcancernewsorg-chewing-tobacco-is-very-dangerous-a-man-who-lost-part-of-his-face-to-cancer-says-smokeless.html - broken link)
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Old 06-17-2010, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Planet Eaarth
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As a point of info: Smoking itself is hard enough to quit but wait until you try to quit the snuff you dip! With the amount of nicotine in snuff at about 3x that of cigarettes you have a monkey on your back that has real teeth so get ready for one hellva fight when you quit dip snuff.......


Been there done that sure as hell don't wanna go back!
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