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Unread 03-13-2011, 04:05 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Where can I go to meet people that doesn't require me to buy them a drink or show off?
...... this statement alone shows that its obviously NOT the city's problem
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Unread 03-13-2011, 04:05 PM
 
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College? A bar(you dont have to drink)? A park(get a dog)? A book store? Match.com? The beach? The library? A casino? A Short cruise? The keys? A Free event like a book fair or concert? A mall?

In that order, seriously.

Where do you live and what do you enjoy doing? We already know what You DON'T like. Let's here what you like.
Well, I'm at college a lot of the time and the pervasive culture of Miami is still there. Sure, there are a few more friendly and open people but it's not a godsend either. I'm trying though, like I said I belong to a few clubs and am trying everything I can to meet new people there.

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He is going to end up alone in all those places... the best choice he has at the moment is college.

BBB, Try to look for friends who live near your area, otherwise you won't be able to get in touch with friends once the semester ends.
Yeah, public places, people mostly keep to themselves around here...most people are not interested in meeting someone else in a public space. They're either with someone or are just plain suspicious of anyone who's alone.

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Move. Seriously - as soon as you can. I would suggest a mid sized city in the northeast or the midwest. Heck, for the time being, just take a vacation to one of these places, hang out at concerts, bookstores, public events and I think you will be quite pleasantly surprised. Many of the Miami lifers would have you believe the issue is with you, and that the culture of Miami has no role in someone being disenchanted here. Not necessarily so.
I wish -- but I will likely be here for quite a few more years, I'm a college student and with the way the economy is going there is no chance I'll find a job that will be able to support me elsewhere until I graduate with an MBA or more.

Of course, I still really appreciate all the suggestions and advice!
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Unread 03-13-2011, 05:20 PM
 
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You can join meetups, that is groups of random people that do stuff together. I belong to a few groups, that usually go out to dinner. It is laid back, no pressure. Do you go to church? There are some groups that have special programs for singles, and it is fun.
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Unread 03-13-2011, 05:36 PM
 
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Common ground goes a long way. Hobbies...interests. I suppose everyone is different. But really like something else said join a meetup.com group. It works...personally i'm working out the details of moving to miami...i've already joined various types of social groups in the area per my interests (biking and soccer). It can be a sketchy place...you have to do some leg work rather than wait for things to come your way.
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Unread 03-13-2011, 06:34 PM
 
Location: Dallas
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The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. – Bertrand Russell
Right! So evident on the highways too. The most fearless drivers are the ones too stupid to know how good they aren't.
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Unread 03-13-2011, 06:39 PM
 
Location: Land Of Moose, Blueberries and Chickadees
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Someone way back mentioned volunteering. I could not possibly agree with that more. That is a very good way to meet not only like minded people, (say you love animals, volunteer at a shelter or HSUS, for example...OR, volunteer your time with a rescue), and good, quality people.

Do you do church? Go to church.

What do you like to do? What are your interests? Find clubs that blossom your interests. Do you like reading? Is there a book club at your school? If not, how about trying to start one? Do you like fishing, canoeing, water skiing, jet skiing, SCUBA diving, gardening, sky diving....I'm just naming things off the top of my head...find something you really enjoy doing and find a club or others to go with you. Heck, let's say you enjoy skydiving...even if you go by yourself the first couple of times, you are going to meet people that you can become friends with there.

I completely agree with you that most people seem to be interested in partying and getting drunk, (three sheets to the wind, I call it), and frankly I'd rather not spend my time sitting on a bar stool catcalling to girls, (or guys, in my case), so how do you meet people?

I also agree that in this town, it's not easy to meet people. Many people have cliques and are either unaware of how to properly socialize or as you said, can be suspicious of new people.

You said you've lived here all of your life...what about people you knew growing up? Are they still around?

It's not easy but go with what interests you and if you can't find a club or something that is already set up, set one up yourself. You might find that you are not alone in your loneliness.

Also, you may find that some people slightly older than you may also be enjoyable company so don't shut doors on anyone just because they are 5 years older than you, (for example only).

Does your college have a community bulletin board? Post something up there. See what you get.
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Unread 03-13-2011, 06:39 PM
 
Location: Dallas
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Once I thought I was lonely, but after a while I realized I was never lonely, I was just horny. Get a little satisfaction from the opposite sex, suddenly no more lonely! Just still horny. Try a Colombian dating site. Lots of nice girls there - no tattoos. :-)

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Unread 03-13-2011, 06:39 PM
 
Location: Up North
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Where can I go to meet people that doesn't require me to buy them a drink or show off?

I have met friends through old jobs or some of my friends were just people who lived on my block that are in the same age range as me.
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Unread 03-13-2011, 07:28 PM
 
Location: West Kendall
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BBB, you are going to remain lonely no matter what. The sooner you accept this the better, that way you won't get any "optimistic" ideas concerning a "future".
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Unread 03-13-2011, 07:32 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Once I thought I was lonely, but after a while I realized I was never lonely, I was just horny. Get a little satisfaction from the opposite sex, suddenly no more lonely! Just still horny. Try a Colombian dating site. Lots of nice girls there - no tattoos. :-)
hahaha aint that the truth
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