Can someone tell me the truth about Miami?? What is it Really like!!! (best school, living)

[♥♥PRINC3Ss♥♥]

Originally Posted by kek1993

Yeah, I don't know. One would think that a tall, blonde would not have a problem getting a date in Miami.

Many South Florida latinas dye their her blonde so I don't think it's an advantage or disadvantage because it's actually average down here.

The worthless garbage men is the easy part though. Eventually you will be able to recognize them or you can just stop dating them after the second date. The tough part is that South Florida is gay heaven and many gay men move down here from other parts of the country. There are plenty of gay/bi men that are still in the closet and just want to get married because they want to have children or keep up appearances with society.

[lilred0005]

Originally Posted by ♥♥PRINC3Ss♥♥

Many South Florida latinas dye their her blonde so I don't think it's an advantage or disadvantage because it's actually average down here.

The worthless garbage men is the easy part though. Eventually you will be able to recognize them or you can just stop dating them after the second date. The tough part is that South Florida is gay heaven and many gay men move down here from other parts of the country. There are plenty of gay/bi men that are still in the closet and just want to get married because they want to have children or keep up appearances with society.

Yup, that's happened to me too, thank God we didn't get married. He seemed like a great guy, had just moved down here, had a MBA from Harvard, and nice parents. Unfortunately, he was a closet-case who was obsessed with money and career and needed the beautiful, thin wife and 2 kids to complete the image. It was truly heartbreaking.

[cjs08]

First of all, sorry to hear everyone's had such a tough time. Thinking about some people I know, I can't say I'm surprised at all lol.

Now, I would build upon my suggestion to eliminate clubs and bars from your dating scene with a couple of things.

First, much like business, referrals always seem to work well. Almost everyone I know who is married or in a long-term relationship was introduced by a mutual friend, myself included. Notice I didn't say "set up"; I don't believe it's a friend's job to play match-maker or put pressure on one person to date the other, but rather to give a reference, make the intro, and step back and let the two individuals work it out themselves. But this can be one of the best ways to meet quality people.

Second, look for new places to meet people. Church may not appeal to everyone, but it's usually a good place to meet people. Also, check out things such as charities or service organizations. Doesn't mean you'll find a bunch of Brad Pitt's hanging out there, but it takes a generally upstanding person to volunteer their time and talent to a good cause, yeah? Nothing is foolproof...you can meet great people and awful people ANYWHERE, but expanding your horizons can help if you play your cards right

[Michelle887]

Originally Posted by doggiebus

Is Miami dirty? Well no, but there are many parts of Miami-Dade that don't look so nice. Is crime bad? Its on the rise here. Put it this way, you pretty much have to be aware of your surrounding once you step outside your door. You have to lock your doors always. I know people that leave there cars unlocked with nothing inside so that they don't have to pay to have their windows replaced, if someone wants to get inside their cars. We never leave the windows open at night or if we are not home, but that is the reality of the times now. With that said, I think Miami is a good place to go to college.

I can't explain it better

[sungrl]

Originally Posted by Tiger Beer

I like this thread!

I've heard pretty much ALL NEGATIVE stories about Miami as well...that as a white guy, I was a sitting target, on and on.

But I lived in MI (Detroit vicinity so familiar) and lived in New York City for several years...plus South America for a year. Most people on these threads portray South Florida to be a combination of Detroit and some fravela of Brazil combined.

BUT...I went to Miami as well...I found the drivers to be extremely normal (I lived in South America and Asia for years, so driving back in the U.S. is NOT a problem). I didn't feel it was crowded or road rage or anything whatsoever. Extremely organized and orderly just like anywhere else in the U.S. - no difference whatsoever.

Crime-wise...I drove around Little Havana..and I kept thinking it looked exactly like the neighborhoods I lived in New York City (Washington Heights and parts of Brooklyn)...I went to Little Haiti...and it looked like just about any city in Michigan (Detroit, Flint, Lansing, take your pick) except confined to a very very small little geographical area and that's about it.

I even heard I'd get robbed in South Beach...I went there...looks like standard U.S. tourist area...

In the end, I came to the conclusion that 99.9999% of the people who complain about Miami probably NEVER lived in a big city, never exposed to another language outside of English, and basically were a fish out of water. YOu have to sometimes remind yourself how untraveled and how underexposed most AMericans are to nearly everything that is so commonplace throughout the entire world, to understand their strong hesitation with anything which isn't standard hamburgerland with no options kind of preference.

Amen Tiger Beer! Where in Japan do you teach English? I lived in Misawa for 3 years and absolutely miss Japan!

[sungrl]

Oh and I forgot to mention that I am a Miami lover myself. Amidst all the glitz, the glam, superficiality, and craziness (I bartended in South Beach), there is something electric about Miami that no other city in America offers. Being in Miami is like being in another country. Unless you actually make the trip and experience it for yourself, other peoples perceptions will inevitably be different from your own subjective ideas about what life in Miami may possess. If you are not an open-minded person who also lacks focus, direction, or will power...IMO I would not recommend you come live here.

[322]

Well to add my input, Ive lived in several Bigger citys. For me it was a real disappointment moving here. I was asked to accompany my girl (I am 1 in a billion here, a nice guy) from a further destination. I like list so heres mine.

First I’m overqualified to get ANY job that makes over 11hr. I haven’t done retail in 10 years so im not qualified enough. You wouldn’t want me bringing your food..trust me..lol. So I have lots of time on my hands to notice things and evaluate the area and its trends. A few stages will happen when you move here from out of state.

You will be so impressed with SOBE and its Art Deco buildings, the beaches will call you everyday to visit them. The new luxury condos will incite you..Move into me they will sing.Until you deal with management and your neighbors kid that up screaming every night @ 1am.

Once you move here you will find yourself paying a toll to go anywhere, you will pay big bucks to go to the beach and all nature parks cost money as a Parking fee, anything on key Biscayne will cost you.

You start to drive to destinations. On the way you see places that look “odd” taking shortcuts through Overton to medical campus and all. Then you see the road patterns. The city instead of cleaning up areas built bypasses that go over these bad areas and tie them in with the interstate.

You start to notice that actually North Miami Beach, Miami Beach; Miami are 3 different places with 3 different city limits. Signs are posted.

Driving well I won’t get into it. You will experience your first hit and run. Police will not show up for 3 hours, you will not feel safe and you will not want to drive anywhere for days.

Then you start to mimic the driving styles of the area and start to feel better especially doing 90 running lights and feeling quite safe that no cop will pull you over.(just my opinion and i think they just let go 20% of the force last month. Sad for them guys)

At this point it will cost you to drive, park, visit beaches, visit nature areas, visit animal parks.

Now if you take the 1 line Metro, you will now have to keep a minimum of 5 dollars on your card. You will say this is not bad. But you quickly notice that as you arrive to the first part of your trip you have a balance of 3 dollars and you must have a minimum of 5 so now your back at the machine putting in another 5 bill. So i have been told, we will see. They have not put a metro line to SOBE, I dont know why (I think i do) but this would have been smarter. You probably will see a decline in homeless Metro riders.


Now you can’t beat Miami’s views or the weather.

Now with that being said. If you’re financially stable or well off. You have the ability not to get stresses, you’re not an introvert and you have a support base then yes every city can be somewhat familiar of another.

Your comfort level will not change much of all making adapting easier here. For me and probably a lot of people here, we are not working or we don’t like our jobs this does reflect in life. Keep in mind there are still bad areas but I could see the potential of a pleasant experience if you had all your eggs in the basket before you move here.

[cjs08]

Originally Posted by 322

The new luxury condos will incite you..Move into me they will sing.Until you deal with management and your neighbors kid that up screaming every night @ 1am.

How does the potential for this happening differ from any condo or apartment building anywhere else in the city (or the country for that matter) ?

Originally Posted by 322

Once you move here you will find yourself paying a toll to go anywhere.

Not true...I drive 18 miles to work one way and I don't pay a toll...the Palmetto and 95 are free, although that probably won't last forever

Originally Posted by 322

The city instead of cleaning up areas built bypasses that go over these bad areas and tie them in with the interstate.

An unfortunate circumstance in cities all around the country...

Originally Posted by 322

Driving well I won’t get into it. You will experience your first hit and run. Police will not show up for 3 hours, you will not feel safe and you will not want to drive anywhere for days.

Then you start to mimic the driving styles of the area and start to feel better especially doing 90 running lights and feeling quite safe that no cop will pull you over.(just my opinion and i think they just let go 20% of the force last month. Sad for them guys)

Exaggerated. Went 6 years without an accident until last February, when I hydroplaned into the back of a car on slick roads. Damage only to my car, the other was fine...Also, the cops were not laid off, the Union reached a deal with the City

The other parts of your post I agree with

[322]

Originally Posted by cjs08

How does the potential for this happening differ from any condo or apartment building anywhere else in the city (or the country for that matter) ?


Not true...I drive 18 miles to work one way and I don't pay a toll...the Palmetto and 95 are free, although that probably won't last forever


An unfortunate circumstance in cities all around the country...


Exaggerated. Went 6 years without an accident until last February, when I hydroplaned into the back of a car on slick roads. Damage only to my car, the other was fine...Also, the cops were not laid off, the Union reached a deal with the City

The other parts of your post I agree with

These are my personal experiences, they are all true. These things happend to me and are not exaggerated i waited 3 hours for police. Not true 95 has a sunpass hotlane. That sucks that you wrecked your car :-(

[♥♥PRINC3Ss♥♥]

Originally Posted by 322

These are my personal experiences, they are all true. These things happend to me and are not exaggerated

OK sorry but you make generalizations and then you say it's personal experience you did say this:

Originally Posted by 322

You will experience your first hit and run

Well I haven't after living here since the early 90's. The closest thing I have experienced is when I hit a car in a parking lot, and the other car flew the scene. The other times I or someone else have been involved in an accident, everybody has stayed and people have taking responsibility for their actions.