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Old 10-26-2010, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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It blows my mind that people automatically assume that a custodial parent, seeking money from her ex, is "just looking for money"... whether or not the deadbeat is a disabled vet, his children still need to eat. Food and shelter cost money. Why do non-custodial parents not understand this basic fact of life?

i think you should go back and re-read what was posted before ASSUMING what we said!

I think it was said "if he is paying child support why go after disability"

The OP never replied when asked more than once if he was paying his support. if he isn't then by all means she should get what her kids deserve!

I love how people misread something then twist it for their own spin on things lol
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Old 10-26-2010, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Richmond, VA
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It blows my mind that people automatically assume that a custodial parent, seeking money from her ex, is "just looking for money"... whether or not the deadbeat is a disabled vet, his children still need to eat. Food and shelter cost money.
Apparently, so does investment property.

Investment property mortgage limit? , posted 10-25-2008

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That makes sense to me now. I'm pursuing financing on an investment property and I'm looking at 6.875 with almost 3 discount points. I thought that was out of whack until I started calling around to compare. They say the rate is because of the low loan amount and the fact that it's an investment property. And I guess rates went up the last few weeks.
Before you jump me, notice the OP doesn't even *know* when the ex retired-the divorce is most likely not recent.

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I think his retirement became effective in December 2008 or early 2009. He had more than 20 years of service.
It would be far easier to be sympathetic to the OP if she'd answer the specific questions that are asked to clarify the situation-as in,

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Does he pay child support?
Otherwise, I have to assume the investments didn't work out...

Don't misunderstand me. She should get *everything* she and the children are entitled to. She should not overachieve to go after more (e.g., GI Bill is a veteran's entitlement unless he *wants* to give it up or a judge forces him to).
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Old 10-29-2010, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Indy
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I think there is a way to go to college for free if you have disabled VA parent
It depends on your state. Indiana will pay around 120 credit hours if the parent has a disability and a campaign medal.
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Old 11-08-2010, 07:24 PM
 
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i think you should go back and re-read what was posted before ASSUMING what we said!

I think it was said "if he is paying child support why go after disability"

The OP never replied when asked more than once if he was paying his support. if he isn't then by all means she should get what her kids deserve!

I love how people misread something then twist it for their own spin on things lol

I went back and re-read.

YOU posted:

Sounds like someone is just trying to get paid!

So the assumption that you think she's just going after the money is wrong? What part of that post of yours did I misunderstand?
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Old 11-09-2010, 09:19 AM
 
Location: North Pole Alaska
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It sounds to me like she is after money as well.
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Old 11-09-2010, 07:49 PM
 
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Before you jump me, notice the OP doesn't even *know* when the ex retired-the divorce is most likely not recent.
There is a BIG difference between retired and getting benefits from the VA.
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Old 11-09-2010, 08:12 PM
 
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I had to comment on this subject, I receive 100% Service connected VA Compensation and pay court ordered child support that is paid from my compensation payment, but my ex-wife put in the paperwork to have an apportionment also taken out my monthly payment. So, she recevies monthly child support and this apportionment, the apportionment at this time hasn't been paid to her yet, the VA keeps it several months for the actual payment to be paid. I right now am working to get this apportionment stopped.
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Old 11-22-2010, 11:34 AM
 
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If you have a service connected disability and you're from nc, can your kids go to college for free??
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Old 02-23-2013, 04:49 PM
 
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What state is he in?
I've hear support interpreted both ways, by the court. Court have ruled "disabilty" is for the soldier AND his family, to get around ESTBLISHED "legal" precedence (states a vet va "benies" are NOT to be touched, PERIOD.)
They CAN take Va benifits, though, VA (as far as I know) will not give $ directly to Child support. The will direct deposit the cash, and child support can take whatever they want from non-custodial parents bank account.
Like the others, I question your motives & ask u (as a fellow combat vet) leave the guy alone, if you're getting money "for your kids".
You want him to snap, go to jail, have his credit ruined? Is he REALLY your kid's father? Then why screw up his life? Go on with your life & let him do the same.
Everyone loves responsible parents, but nobody likes heartless greed!
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Old 02-24-2013, 02:09 AM
 
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Does he pay child support?
VA disability is paid at a higher rate with dependants.
Probably won't happen in this case with a divorce though.
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