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Old 07-14-2017, 10:54 AM
Location: Greater LA area
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Originally Posted by Remington Steel View Post
That just comes with the territory. I have seen the majority of military families handle this with no problem. My wife and I handled 8 deployments between the both of us in a 24 year time span, and our family turned out just fine. Just depends on how well you handle it mentally.
I agree. I handled it well. I would say my ex was deployed more than half of the time we were together.

But the other guy was asking and I answered - it is tough to be alone on your birthday, kids birthday, maybe even birth of child, deaths, when something breaks ...I know a Navy wife who was without her husband when each of their 3 kids were born. Once he came home, he got to meet his 6 month old for the first time. That is tough.

I always said it is like being single without the fun. I could deal with it. Others can't. OP has concerns, rightfully so. It isn't for everone.
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Old 07-20-2017, 09:32 PM
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Thanks everyone for your input, I just view the military negatively always have and growing up without military I know we can survive with education and careers alone. My husband was raised different one side of his family does nothing while the other side is military so we have different views on how to survive and take care of our families. Because I feelso strongly about him not going he has reconcidered and is now thinking about aviation, I just don't want him to look back and regret not going. I see the positive of being financially stabled but I worry he won't be there for our children he is thinking about 20 years so when he his done they will be grown. Although my parents were divorced both of my parents were involved in my life and I would like my children to grow up the same way.
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Old 07-20-2017, 10:10 PM
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There are few regrets when the family unit is safe,stable,and together.

Pro's: different cultural experiences. Great benefits once retired.

Cons: no true family bonding or safe feeling. On edge more then stability.The relatives...grandparents..cousins will be a distant memory..

Good for you OP on this recent update. Compromise seemed to work.
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