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Old 01-13-2018, 06:58 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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yes, there is a reason. His daughter is next of kin. My daughter was his girl friend for 14 years, not married to him so she has no status to ask about anything officially or to bury him or cremate him.

HIS daughter wants a military funeral. She can not afford a funeral herself. BUT she is in no hurry to do anything and his body sits in the hospital for nearly 3 weeks now.

I was hoping if there was an on-line, fast answer, database we could tell the daughter for sure he has benefits and help her get something set up a little faster.

And the daughter is 2100 miles away from us and his body, so she also wants it transported to her area for burial. Which if he was in the military, I could research what they will cover for her, and maybe get her moving to do something. Some things, like burying someone should not wait indefinitely.
If this is the case, With the DD214 on file, if a family wants an honor guard for a loved one, all they have to do is call the funeral home or mortuary and the staff will contact the military and make the arrangements.

Here you can get a DD214

https://www.archives.gov/veterans/mi...ervice-records
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Old 01-13-2018, 07:29 AM
 
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If they want him to be buried in a military national cemetery, it would take weeks anyway. They have a big demand even with multiple funerals every day.

And I believe that the funeral home would be able to help find documentation. They would need a 214 before proceeding. And the military won't cover all the costs either. I just made my funeral arrangements and they provide a grave marker and flag. And unless I want to be buried at a military cemetery, the other parts of the funeral come out of my pocket.

I personally think he was not being truthful
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Old 01-13-2018, 07:32 AM
 
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yes, there is a reason. His daughter is next of kin. My daughter was his girl friend for 14 years, not married to him so she has no status to ask about anything officially or to bury him or cremate him.

HIS daughter wants a military funeral. She can not afford a funeral herself. BUT she is in no hurry to do anything and his body sits in the hospital for nearly 3 weeks now.

I was hoping if there was an on-line, fast answer, database we could tell the daughter for sure he has benefits and help her get something set up a little faster.

And the daughter is 2100 miles away from us and his body, so she also wants it transported to her area for burial. Which if he was in the military, I could research what they will cover for her, and maybe get her moving to do something. Some things, like burying someone should not wait indefinitely.
Wow she wants a lo without making any effort or bringing cash on her part.

Is her mom still alive? Maybe contact her. She might have the real info.
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Old 01-14-2018, 08:29 PM
 
Location: Tennessee at last!
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Wow she wants a lo without making any effort or bringing cash on her part.

Is her mom still alive? Maybe contact her. She might have the real info.
Mom died of cancer 2 years ago.

And yes, she wants the best of the best without contributing anything on her part. No reasoning with her to be affordable, etc.

BTW, her mother was cremated and her sister (different father) arranged everything and has the ashes. But she will NOT do that for her father, at least not yet.
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Old 01-14-2018, 09:05 PM
 
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BUT she is in no hurry to do anything and his body sits in the hospital for nearly 3 weeks now.
She needs to take action quickly. veteran or not, most states have maximum holding regualtions before the caretaker of ther deceased must consider the remains abandon. Some states set 2 weeks after proper legal niotifcation of next fo kin, others a motnh. If yuo are expecting them to hold the remains just because the person may eb a veteran, unelss you can prove it, the body will eb treated l;iek all others.

This may be a good time to remind veterans that they can now get Dept of Veterans Affair funeral/burial pre approval so next of kin doesn't have to deal with, figure out what needs to be done or search for eligibility documentation when the time comes. VA Pre Need
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Old 01-15-2018, 02:12 AM
 
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There are also paid services like checktohire.com that some people use to verify specific employment background, including military service.
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Old 01-15-2018, 06:38 PM
 
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She needs to take action quickly. veteran or not, most states have maximum holding regualtions before the caretaker of ther deceased must consider the remains abandon. Some states set 2 weeks after proper legal niotifcation of next fo kin, others a motnh. If yuo are expecting them to hold the remains just because the person may eb a veteran, unelss you can prove it, the body will eb treated l;iek all others.

This may be a good time to remind veterans that they can now get Dept of Veterans Affair funeral/burial pre approval so next of kin doesn't have to deal with, figure out what needs to be done or search for eligibility documentation when the time comes. VA Pre Need



I applied for that "pre-need" document. its been almost two months and not a word..........If I was actually dead I would not be smelling real good bout now..........
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Old 01-15-2018, 06:43 PM
 
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She needs to take action quickly. veteran or not, most states have maximum holding regualtions before the caretaker of ther deceased must consider the remains abandon. Some states set 2 weeks after proper legal niotifcation of next fo kin, others a motnh. If yuo are expecting them to hold the remains just because the person may eb a veteran, unelss you can prove it, the body will eb treated l;iek all others.

This may be a good time to remind veterans that they can now get Dept of Veterans Affair funeral/burial pre approval so next of kin doesn't have to deal with, figure out what needs to be done or search for eligibility documentation when the time comes. VA Pre Need
I left a copy of my 214 with the funeral home that will take care of my cremation and internment. I just want the bronze marker and my ashes to be placed with my parents.
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Old 01-15-2018, 11:56 PM
 
Location: Rathdrum, ID
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I applied for that "pre-need" document. its been almost two months and not a word..........If I was actually dead I would not be smelling real good bout now..........
My pre-approval letter came in about two weeks. This is at the Boise Veterans Cemetery.
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Old 01-16-2018, 06:41 AM
 
Location: Wasilla, AK
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My pre-approval letter came in about two weeks. This is at the Boise Veterans Cemetery.

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