PTSD help! PLEASE! (Marines, soldiers, counselor, deploy)

[linzieco]

My dh has seena dr and has been to treatment and he was doing great with treatment and he was pulled out by the garrison commander because the g.c was being dumb. So now my dh is worse than ever. Drinking too much, maybe using drugs, out all the time. when home cant sit still, waking inthe night screaming and crying. we tried to xfer and they said no. He is in the WTB. We have had abuse of command and they are screwing my dh's life up. He has been in for 8 years and has done 4 deployments. I may not have a dh much longer if it does not stop. He will hurt himself. YES we have taken ALL measurements to TRY to get him help but the military seems to pull him out everytime. This time the said he can go to any treatment center he wants and I would like to know if anyone has been to a PTSD center and which one and how did it help or not help you. My dh's life is hanging on by a half a thread and we need help. Please tell be the best PTSD centers out there! Thank you so much!!!!

[InformationPlease]

I know this isn't what you asked but maybe it will help out.

It's free help outside of the military. All of the volunteers are trained and licensed clinical professionals... many of which have a good deal of experience.

Hope you guys find some peace soon.

Give an Hour - Home

[irman]

Originally Posted by linzieco

I would like to know if anyone has been to a PTSD center and which one and how did it help or not help you.

Been there, done that.
MAKE him go to the nearest VA center and insist on treatment !!!
Go with him, and attend sessions TOGETHER.

Originally Posted by linzieco

Please tell be the best PTSD centers out there!

No way anybody can tell you where *the best PTSD center(s) is (or are)*.

I have not heard of any study about the quality of PTSD centers anywhere ...

If you start your sessions, and you are not satisfied, make noise !!!
The squeaking wheel, gets greased !!!
We went through 4 counselors. The first one (a super guy) retired and finally we got another good one.

It takes a long time and a lot of work to *heal*.
I started with weekly sessions, and am now on a 6-8 week interval (going on 4 years now ...).
Have to insist that *If not for my wife .., I would still be in trouble*
Also, if he is put on meds, then insist, he takes them !!!!

[Sandy Nelson]

linzieco,

I see your post has received quite a few views, but only two answers. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. I just want you to know that my heart (and probably ever reader's heart) goes out to you and your husband. Four deployments in eight years is way too much. I hope you'll receive the help you need to pull through the agony and stress.
All the best to both of you.

[irman]

Originally Posted by Sandy Nelson

lFour deployments in eight years is way too much.

As long as we, as soldiers, are considered nothing more as *collateral*,
then nothing will change .....

[alicejb]

OP, I don't know if you've already looked it up, but hopefully this will help a little. It's really hard for the soldiers and marines because of their high deployment tempo, and I agree that saving your dh is the most important than anything else. It's the right thing that you're looking outside of your unit's resources, and like the other poster said, make some noise and read up more on the Regs so you know where he (and your family) stands. Mental Health Care Providers Home

[alicejb]

Find Information - Military OneSource

[GrammasCabin]

Originally Posted by Sandy Nelson

linzieco,

I see your post has received quite a few views, but only two answers. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. I just want you to know that my heart (and probably ever reader's heart) goes out to you and your husband. Four deployments in eight years is way too much. I hope you'll receive the help you need to pull through the agony and stress.
All the best to both of you.

Sandy says just what I'm thinking. Breaks my heart to see your post and know you and your poor dh are having such a struggle - #%^& this country for it's lack of care for our soldiers! All I can offer are my prayers for healing your family and gratitude for your husband's service.

[irman]

Originally Posted by GrammasCabin

#%^& this country for it's lack of care for our soldiers!

I do have to defend the people who do try to take care of those who need the care.
Once you are involved, you may find that there are many soldiers who refuse to accept that they need help.
Been there done that. I did not want to admit I needed help.
Just one side of the problem.

Maybe overall, there is a problem, but a blanket statement is unfair.
Does not makes sense at all does it ????

PTSD, has been around a long time, but was not widely recognised.
The Vietnam problem did not surface for several years, but the recent wars in the Mid East are taking its toll almost immediately ....

[linzieco]

Thank you for all your well wishes. It does feel good when you know there are people out there who do care. It seems like no one cares because most civi's have no idea what this life is about. most military will not talk about it. There is NO support. Our war does not end once the plane lands. Its just beginning. I am fighting so hard to keep my dh from hurting himself. Not likehe is running around with a gun but he is throwing his life away. I cant walk away. I have to help him. I love him so much and this is not the man I married. This happens to be the for worse part. I am so exausted and tired of being a single mom and tired of sleeping in a bed alone. Tired of wondering when the next time is going to be that he freaks out. We will see what that military will no. He was talking about a med board but the colonel said no. This is supposed to be a Wounded Worrier Battalion and they are screwing us over too. I just want to be done with the military. If anyone has any advise please let me know. i am desperate now. It is so hard to hang on.