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Old 07-31-2009, 12:43 PM
 
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I'm just curious to see what your opinions are on this topic. Are military men/women less faithful in relationships compared to civilian men/women?

Ready, set, discuss.

Last edited by LA_86; 07-31-2009 at 01:04 PM.. Reason: Edited to sound objective :)
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Old 07-31-2009, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Your final question reveals that you think the answer is no.

"Why do you think this is?"
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Old 07-31-2009, 01:05 PM
 
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Your final question reveals that you think the answer is no.

"Why do you think this is?"
Edited to sound objective. I honestly don't have an opinion one way or the other, just got brought up in conversation with my friends today and wanted to see what the CD community has to say about it.
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Old 07-31-2009, 01:10 PM
 
Location: following the wind of change
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Loaded topic... *sits back and watches*
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Old 07-31-2009, 01:32 PM
 
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Loaded topic... *sits back and watches*

Getting out my bucket of popcorn...

I was on another forum and someone made the statement "typical military wife" and got ridiculed.

I am interested as well to see where this one goes.
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Old 07-31-2009, 01:34 PM
 
Location: New Mexico U.S.A.
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Loaded topic... *sits back and watches*
Move over so I can sit and watch. You gonna hog the whole bench?
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Old 07-31-2009, 02:51 PM
 
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Based on my experience of 22years in the U.S. Navy, and many other years in civilian endeavors, I would say that the answer is no.
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Old 07-31-2009, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Fly-over country.
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The military in the US is a near exact slice of the US population. The demographics on race, income and education levels are almost the same -- more so if you count reserves. In some ways, it's a mirror, and it should be. In other ways, the folks in the military have some notable differences -- a requirement of serving in a meritocracy if you will (fitness-level, discipline, etc).

So any social problem in the population, like being unfaithful, ends up being a problem in the military.

Trends in higher suicide and higher divorce rate have spiked (and caused alarm) due to a deployment tempo not seen in recent history, but those will flatten back out when this cycle ends (either through a pull-out or increased end cap for the most-deployed folks).
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Old 07-31-2009, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Aurora, Colorado
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Hmmm...perhaps I have a different perspective. I was a military spouse but worked as a DoD civilian for 10 years in the higher-level offices (Wing/CC, Group/CC and Squadron/CC). I worked for 3 years for the group commander of a fighter wing and was totally surrounded by hundreds of fighter pilots. I had heard all the rumors (and needless to say, my husband was less-than-thrilled at my working there ) and had my own preconceived notions on what they were like. However, for every man (and I'm only saying "men" because in our entire group, there were only 2 women who were flying) who was walking around with a "newer model" and an ex-wife at home collecting support payments, there were plenty who were totally faithful and married for years.

However, I find it funny that the convention bureau in Las Vegas thinks they made up the phrase, "what happens here stays here". The saying, "what happens when you're TDY stays TDY" has been around in the military for a long time.

But to answer your question, I don't think a military person is a "higher risk" to date than a non-military person. If you find yourself a dog, he/she will be a dog whether they're in uniform or not. Temptation is always there...it could be the person who gets your Starbucks every day or the person you're stationed with in the desert for a year. People who cheat are going to cheat and those who don't...won't.
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Old 07-31-2009, 06:07 PM
 
Location: Aurora, Colorado
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Trends in higher suicide and higher divorce rate have spiked (and caused alarm) due to a deployment tempo not seen in recent history, but those will flatten back out when this cycle ends (either through a pull-out or increased end cap for the most-deployed folks).
Divorce rates, however, are not necessarily an indicator of "faithfulness." There are so many people who get married in the military (perhaps they want to live life a little faster than "normal" folks) very young and then they get deployed and their spouses find themselves pregnant and alone. The family support center was absolutely bombarded with spouses who were looking for a support system because so many of these people are newly married and away from family. It's no wonder divorce rates are high...perhaps they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Trust me...you've got to be made of strong stuff to be a military spouse. There are a lot of people who are dazzled by the uniform and have no idea what it's like to be stationed in a place when your spouse gets a 10-month TDY assignment. Mine was deployed for 2, 1-year remote tours and a 10-month TDY in the 9 years we were married before he retired. Not easy.
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