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OP, I don't know if you've already looked it up, but hopefully this will help a little. It's really hard for the soldiers and marines because of their high deployment tempo, and I agree that saving your dh is the most important than anything else. It's the right thing that you're looking outside of your unit's resources, and like the other poster said, make some noise and read up more on the Regs so you know where he (and your family) stands. Mental Health Care Providers Home
I see your post has received quite a few views, but only two answers. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. I just want you to know that my heart (and probably ever reader's heart) goes out to you and your husband. Four deployments in eight years is way too much. I hope you'll receive the help you need to pull through the agony and stress.
All the best to both of you.
Sandy says just what I'm thinking. Breaks my heart to see your post and know you and your poor dh are having such a struggle - #%^& this country for it's lack of care for our soldiers! All I can offer are my prayers for healing your family and gratitude for your husband's service.
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#%^& this country for it's lack of care for our soldiers!
I do have to defend the people who do try to take care of those who need the care.
Once you are involved, you may find that there are many soldiers who refuse to accept that they need help.
Been there done that. I did not want to admit I needed help.
Just one side of the problem.
Maybe overall, there is a problem, but a blanket statement is unfair.
Does not makes sense at all does it ????
PTSD, has been around a long time, but was not widely recognised.
The Vietnam problem did not surface for several years, but the recent wars in the Mid East are taking its toll almost immediately ....
Thank you for all your well wishes. It does feel good when you know there are people out there who do care. It seems like no one cares because most civi's have no idea what this life is about. most military will not talk about it. There is NO support. Our war does not end once the plane lands. Its just beginning. I am fighting so hard to keep my dh from hurting himself. Not likehe is running around with a gun but he is throwing his life away. I cant walk away. I have to help him. I love him so much and this is not the man I married. This happens to be the for worse part. I am so exausted and tired of being a single mom and tired of sleeping in a bed alone. Tired of wondering when the next time is going to be that he freaks out. We will see what that military will no. He was talking about a med board but the colonel said no. This is supposed to be a Wounded Worrier Battalion and they are screwing us over too. I just want to be done with the military. If anyone has any advise please let me know. i am desperate now. It is so hard to hang on.
lin, it can help to have multiple resources. We had success going through Mil One Source. They give you 12 free sessions per family member, per situation. You can call just for info to get comfortable or to open a file and get a referral. You can choose if the file is open to your husband or not (and visa versa). They have a variety of therapists, including cognitive behavioral therapists, who have special training dealing with PTSD. 12 sessions isn't enough but it's a good start and he might end up feeling more at ease speaking with a counselor who isn't in the military. Best of luck to you.
I know a young guy here in MA who suffers from this. He is 25 years old and it breaks my heart. He has been in the VA hopital here being treated and will soon be going into a PTS Clinic in Northhampton MA for a period of 6 weeks. They tried to originally give hm drugs which made him twitch and tremor...that has since been fixed.
Good Luck with this and hang in there but please get to a VA hospital and ask how to get into a clinic.
Thank you for all your well wishes. It does feel good when you know there are people out there who do care. It seems like no one cares because most civi's have no idea what this life is about. most military will not talk about it. There is NO support. Our war does not end once the plane lands. Its just beginning. I am fighting so hard to keep my dh from hurting himself. Not likehe is running around with a gun but he is throwing his life away. I cant walk away. I have to help him. I love him so much and this is not the man I married. This happens to be the for worse part. I am so exausted and tired of being a single mom and tired of sleeping in a bed alone. Tired of wondering when the next time is going to be that he freaks out. We will see what that military will no. He was talking about a med board but the colonel said no. This is supposed to be a Wounded Worrier Battalion and they are screwing us over too. I just want to be done with the military. If anyone has any advise please let me know. i am desperate now. It is so hard to hang on.
I am so sorry about what you and your DH are going through. And YOU are going through as much pain as he is; military spouses have to put up with the pain and anguish which can be as troubling as what the Soldier is going through.
God Bless you for seeking help for your husband.
I can't offer an help other than to say that you are in my prayers.
BTW, I want to thank you for your husband's service to this country. And YOU have served this country too my dear. I want to thank YOU for your service as well.
aloha, does your hubby have any friends who were with him that he can talk to? I think talking with people who saw the same thing could help some. my husband still has nightmares from when he was in VN. I think when you see and do the things that our solider's do that it can't help but effect these men. keep talking to him and encouraging him to talk out his feelings with someone, maybe even writting it all down would help. I think some of the memories will never go away but in time they should be easier to live with. hugs for both of you.
The mindset of Bush & Co. was that the 'grunts' in the military are disposable units. Use them until they are no longer an asset, then dispose of them. The local veterans shelter is full of Nam vets that were no longer useful, and another generation will replace them from Bush/Cheney/Rumsfeld total disregard for our troops as people, but only as an asset to their goals, or a liability to be discarded.
As poorly as Nam vets were treated upon their return it pales to the total disregard for those returning from Iraq.
The damage is done, and it rests solely on Bush and his minions.
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