Over 30 and single in Milwaukee? (West Allis, Lake Geneva: hotels, house, neighborhood)

[Milwaukee Jason]

I'm looking for feedback on what people think it's like being over 30 and single in Milwaukee. I really think it's very tough being over 30 and single in this city and meeting quality people. What are your thoughts?

[Milwaukee City]

Originally Posted by Milwaukee Jason

I'm looking for feedback on what people think it's like being over 30 and single in Milwaukee. I really think it's very tough being over 30 and single in this city and meeting quality people. What are your thoughts?

According to my friends who all live east side, downtown, third ward really enjoy living here and being single. I have a lot of friends from other places and they love it here b/c the very large supply of nightlife. I imagine in the suburbs you have more reserved people that tend to be more shy than the out going east side yuppie. Which all my friends classify as yuppies

You want to meet more quality women starting going to event's that have more upscale women, start networking around golf country clubs, yacht clubs, charitable event, athletic clubs and other social/ethnic events. If you know how to network then you will be fine. Plus surrounding yourself around the kind of women/guys a person wants to meet is key.

Take my examples, I used to go hang out at Alpine ski hill on the weekends to meet foreign wealthy women which they all came up from Chicago on the weekends.

Go to Lake Geneva, you know a lot of wealthy and well to do people go there for vacation from Chicago to go to the beach, golf, shop and hang out.

Also, it's okay to go to the high end hotels and hang around at the bars and you never know who you might meet.

Put yourself in a position to meet the type of people who want, go where they go b/c they aint gonna come to West Allis.

If you can't meet people in Milwaukee you might as well move up to Bloomer and call it a day

It has more to do with how you network and what you do rather than the city you are in. Get out there and Promote yourself.

[quijote]

I agree with both of you: it's not as easy for 30+ singles in Mke as in many other largish cities, but if you strategize a bit and get involved in certain activities and circles, you should do okay. I'm not really single, but I live very long-distance from my partner, so it's been a bit of work for me to meet 30+ singles outside of work who are interesting, gay-friendly, etc. As with most places, you just have to invest time, and sometimes you have to be aggressive/proactive and make the first moves in meeting/bonding with people.

[caieva]

I think it is all about setting up and maintaining a predictable out of the house pattern.
Go to one coffee shop to hang out and do it regularly, walk your dog on the same path every day that goes through a busy area, run regularly - or walk if you can't, and then connect to your neighborhood by just going to a meeting of the community group - joining a block watch or going to a block party. Also, taking an evening class at UWM is a great idea - lots of older singles.
Once people notice you on your rounds, as it were, you can start talking to them. They may not be date material, but you start making the connections that lead you to that date.
Make eye contact - say hello - don't go to the grocery store looking like hell!
These are the non alcohol related options

[karfar]

As a single woman in my 30's, I think I qualify exceptionally for this thread. Let me tell ya, although I'm ok being single, I'd definitely like to meet someone & so far, it's been almost impossible unless you want to do the online thing which I did for a couple months & that was a big fail. All the guys I find attractive always end up being in their mid 20's, go figure! I have yet to meet a guy around my age who isn't married, doesn't have a girlfriend, no kids, etc. It is seriously hard to find someone when you're in your 30's, no question.

[Fishtacos]

Originally Posted by Milwaukee Jason

I'm looking for feedback on what people think it's like being over 30 and single in Milwaukee. I really think it's very tough being over 30 and single in this city and meeting quality people. What are your thoughts?

People won't come up and smack you in the face.

There are some built in challenges, some insular people, a large traditional population, metro size, location, and so on...so that means you have to be active in your pursuits.

I'd recommend doing the things you like to do consistently, and that is where you will meet people in general. You never know who they may know, or whom you might even meet. Don't discount anyone.

If you isolate yourself, or limit yourself socially, you will have some challenges.