Sort of off the wall but...comments are appreciated (Minneapolis: work, college)

[2blessed2stress]

Well, here's the deal. I am somewhat lacking in social skills and have always had a hard time making friends. I am graduating in December and really have no friends to speak of. My family will be there of course, but...

I am wondering would I look like a total loser if I invite some people from high-school that I've kept in touch with but aren't considered 'friends'??

[sugarbeet]

If you've kept in touch with them, aren't the still sort of your friends?

Sure, why not invite them?

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by 2blessed2stress

Well, here's the deal. I am somewhat lacking in social skills and have always had a hard time making friends. I am graduating in December and really have no friends to speak of. My family will be there of course, but...

I am wondering would I look like a total loser if I invite some people from high-school that I've kept in touch with but aren't considered 'friends'??

dancing on egg shells. if you think that you might have some long standing issues you might consider seeing a counselor to find out why these feelings are still bugging you after this much time?. you deserve a full life with friends and confidence in yourself. could be you could use some sort of activity that you are not doing to build confidence or correct behavior or lack of an appropriate behavior. counselor is a good place to start and explore.
this post is not meant to belittle embarrass or offend the thread maker.
it is a solicted opinion.

[2blessed2stress]

No offense Bunky. Actually, there are no self-esteem issues. I think it stems more from the fact that we moved - a lot - when I was young. Like, By the time we moved to Minneapolis, I was in 10th grade, and had attended 5 or 6 schools. I just think we never 'rooted' anywhere. I have 3 siblings, we're pretty much all the same way.

Now, as an adult (I'm 28), I work full-time, have been in school full-time, and have 2 elementary school aged kids. SOOOO now it's more of a factor of being too busy to breathe less known socialize.

[2blessed2stress]

One more question:

Does anyone know of venues (party may be about 50 total) here in Mpls that will allow me to bring my own alcohol?

Thanks!

[golfgal]

Originally Posted by 2blessed2stress

One more question:

Does anyone know of venues (party may be about 50 total) here in Mpls that will allow me to bring my own alcohol?

Thanks!

I don't know specifically in Minneapolis but often VFW's, Eagle's Clubs and such will allow that.

[K-Luv]

Originally Posted by 2blessed2stress

Well, here's the deal. I am somewhat lacking in social skills and have always had a hard time making friends. I am graduating in December and really have no friends to speak of. My family will be there of course, but...

I am wondering would I look like a total loser if I invite some people from high-school that I've kept in touch with but aren't considered 'friends'??

Honestly, you'd look like a "total loser" if you invited people just to fill up the room. You're family is already going to be there so don't sweat it. But on a kind-of funny tip-if you really want to 'friends' to show up just mention that there will be free booze. That may sound pathetic, but in MPLS this will work like a charm!

As for a venue....you can always try the old stand-by of Holiday Inn. The one downtown is used to drunken conventioneers, so you'll be ok.

[Camden Northsider]

With the schedule you've been working and two small kids, I don't think anyone's expecting you to have friends or a social life and if you're expecting 50, i'd think you have quite a few. By the time I graduated from college most of my friends had already graduated or transferred so it was a few friends and family, and now that I'm working in a highly demanding position/ am a workaholic, I've given up on an any hopes of having much of an active friends/ social life. How I came to start using an online posting forum as some twisted social outlet I'm not sure (maybe i need counseling).

[2blessed2stress]

Originally Posted by Camden Northsider

With the schedule you've been working and two small kids, I don't think anyone's expecting you to have friends or a social life and if you're expecting 50, i'd think you have quite a few. By the time I graduated from college most of my friends had already graduated or transferred so it was a few friends and family, and now that I'm working in a highly demanding position/ am a workaholic, I've given up on an any hopes of having much of an active friends/ social life. How I came to start using an online posting forum as some twisted social outlet I'm not sure (maybe i need counseling).

Your post made me smile Well, since it's a graduation, with family alone it would be around 30 of us. That's pretty much my parents, siblings/spouses, and nieces & nephews. Have a few cousins, aunts, & uncles here in town. So it's about 8 people from school I was going to invite, there are 2 couples in there with 4 kids total. So, the 30 family members & 12 friends...

I don't know...we'll see. I have a little bit of time yet to decide.

Thanks ALL!

[sushigirlie]

Originally Posted by 2blessed2stress

Well, here's the deal. I am somewhat lacking in social skills and have always had a hard time making friends. I am graduating in December and really have no friends to speak of. My family will be there of course, but...

I am wondering would I look like a total loser if I invite some people from high-school that I've kept in touch with but aren't considered 'friends'??

I would only invite people that are important to me. Honesty is the best policy. It's no secret that Minneapolis is not an easy place to integrate socially. So, why force an issue. Most likely your family is interested in seeing you and not the people that you are going to invite. So, spare yourself some stress and distractions for your family. Life is too short to sweat little stuff...