my neighbor parking his car on Street in front of my house. (live, suburbs)

[Cleverfield]

Originally Posted by uptown_urbanist

Unless you live in Anoka, their rules don't apply to your house. If you do live in Anoka, sounds like you could complain, but then he could presumably just get an overnight permit and still park in front of your house, but would then be angry with you. For most petty annoyances it's worth it to just bite your tongue because it's not worth it to start a feud with a neighbor. Leave the complaints for issues that really matter, and honestly, even if it annoys you the law is probably on his side in this situation.

I live in a city. There is NO expectation that the city-owned public street in front of your house is reserved for you; anyone can park there -- neighbors, visitors, whoever. You own or rent the house, not the street. Maybe this parking complaint is some aspect of suburban culture I just don't understand.

Typical Minnesota -- don't voice your feelings, just shove them down inside you. Just because you shouldn't be aggressive doesn't mean you should convert your aggressive feelings into passive aggressive ones. Just be assertive. Tell him why it bothers you that he parks his car there and ask him if he could consider moving it. See if you can compromise. Don't just "bite your tongue". That's psychologically unhealthy, and leads to the passive aggressiveness that Minnesotans are so famous for.

[iNviNciBL3]

Originally Posted by Cleverfield

Typical Minnesota -- don't voice your feelings, just shove them down inside you. Just because you shouldn't be aggressive doesn't mean you should convert your aggressive feelings into passive aggressive ones. Just be assertive. Tell him why it bothers you that he parks his car there and ask him if he could consider moving it. See if you can compromise. Don't just "bite your tongue". That's psychologically unhealthy, and leads to the passive aggressiveness that Minnesotans are so famous for.

At least our police officers don't kill 12 year olds.

[uptown_urbanist]

Originally Posted by Cleverfield

Typical Minnesota -- don't voice your feelings, just shove them down inside you. Just because you shouldn't be aggressive doesn't mean you should convert your aggressive feelings into passive aggressive ones. Just be assertive. Tell him why it bothers you that he parks his car there and ask him if he could consider moving it. See if you can compromise. Don't just "bite your tongue". That's psychologically unhealthy, and leads to the passive aggressiveness that Minnesotans are so famous for.

That's not shoving down feelings. I'm not suggesting that he shouldn't say anything ever -- but it's incredibly stupid to complain about someone parking in front of your house (it's NOT your street, after all, and it's a complain with no merit), and sometimes life is just easier if you don't complain about every little petty thing. Save the complaints for the stuff that matters -- ESPECIALLY when the person is your neighbor. I'll tell you what would happen if a neighbor asked us not to park on a public street in front of his house: I'd be that much more inclined to park there EVERY SINGLE DAY just because the request and the implied sense of entitlement is so irritating.

Knowing when to speak up and when to live with stuff is not being passive, it's having common sense and knowing what fights are worth fighting.

[Rhody2Mn]

Originally Posted by uptown_urbanist

That's not shoving down feelings. I'm not suggesting that he shouldn't say anything ever -- but it's incredibly stupid to complain about someone parking in front of your house (it's NOT your street, after all, and it's a complain with no merit), and sometimes life is just easier if you don't complain about every little petty thing. Save the complaints for the stuff that matters -- ESPECIALLY when the person is your neighbor. I'll tell you what would happen if a neighbor asked us not to park on a public street in front of his house: I'd be that much more inclined to park there EVERY SINGLE DAY just because the request and the implied sense of entitlement is so irritating.

Knowing when to speak up and when to live with stuff is not being passive, it's having common sense and knowing what fights are worth fighting.

I couldn't agree more. Life is challenging enough, and if more people would learn not to sweat the small stuff and when to pick their battles, their personal stress levels would go down substantially and they'd find themselves much happier in their daily existence.

[Thedosius]

Originally Posted by Cleverfield

Typical Minnesota -- don't voice your feelings, just shove them down inside you. Just because you shouldn't be aggressive doesn't mean you should convert your aggressive feelings into passive aggressive ones. Just be assertive. Tell him why it bothers you that he parks his car there and ask him if he could consider moving it. See if you can compromise. Don't just "bite your tongue". That's psychologically unhealthy, and leads to the passive aggressiveness that Minnesotans are so famous for.

Troll.

[Cleverfield]

Originally Posted by Thedosius

Troll.

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[Yosh01]

Living in the city, I'm used to people parking on the street in front. What I do not like are cars blocking my shoveled sidewalk and forcing my guests to climb over snow banks to visit me, especially when there is plenty of room to park elsewhere. It's thoughtless and rude. I've talked to people who've done it habitually and they've kindly stopped.

[rzzzz]

I've never heard of this in Minnesota. However, when I lived in Boston it was understood that everyone had their own "spot" in front of their house and nobody else was ever supposed to park there.

[PullMyFinger]

Originally Posted by wamer27

It is a suburban culture thing. There isn't a ton of people parking on my street or most suburban steets and I get annoyed if people park in front of my house, I don't want to look at your car, but really it's not a problem I'd ever do anything about. I've always followed park in front of your own place, don't annoy your neighbors, and it's closer to come and go. My neighbor saw a car come park in front of my house and he drove up to him and said you can't park there, it's national security, you'll get towed, guy went and parked elsewhere (I had nothing to do with this)

This is what makes me love the suburbs. I haven't had a car parked in front of my house in 20 years. I look out my front window and see trees and on the other side of the street I see a lake.

[Campeador]

Originally Posted by PullMyFinger

This is what makes me love the suburbs. I haven't had a car parked in front of my house in 20 years. I look out my front window and see trees and on the other side of the street I see a lake.

... a lake with the reflection of a neon sign from Walmart or Applebee's.

To each his/her own... but if you really get your knickers in a stitch about possessing the parking spot on a public roadway, city living isn't for you.