I should date...but I don't know where to hang out...help?! (condo)

[lovinmyhair]

Hi MN,

I feel strange about this but I need a little guidance. I have been single to long and I need to find a friend. I have tried the downtown Mpls night life (the clubs are so much fun and flirtatious- sweet),and I have tried the bar sceen but still, I feel like the 'bar guy" only focus on that particular night and not in tomarro and they come off so rude at times! I am not looking for "that" type of relationship- for me "that" takes time. I just want a standard friend, first. So where do professional hard working, classy, educated and available guys chill out??

I am sooo open for suggestions

[rcsteiner]

Originally Posted by lovinmyhair

Hi MN,

I feel strange about this but I need a little guidance. I have been single to long and I need to find a friend. I have tried the downtown Mpls night life (the clubs are so much fun and flirtatious- sweet),and I have tried the bar sceen but still, I feel like the 'bar guy" only focus on that particular night and not in tomarro and they come off so rude at times! I am not looking for "that" type of relationship- for me "that" takes time. I just want a standard friend, first. So where do professional hard working, classy, educated and available guys chill out??

I am sooo open for suggestions

Seriously? Check out people at bookstores, talk to folks in the grocery line, or just people-watch at the mall and see who walks by. If you're looking for someone who might have a particular interest, try joining a group of people who have that interest ... you might find someone who you "click" with.

That said... I met my wife on Yahoo Personals. We've been together for nine years and our 5th wedding anniversary is coming up this fall. So it's also possible to meet people online.

Most of the single folks I know don't do bars or clubs at all.

[Lereca]

Originally Posted by lovinmyhair

Hi MN,

I feel strange about this but I need a little guidance. I have been single to long and I need to find a friend. I have tried the downtown Mpls night life (the clubs are so much fun and flirtatious- sweet),and I have tried the bar sceen but still, I feel like the 'bar guy" only focus on that particular night and not in tomarro and they come off so rude at times! I am not looking for "that" type of relationship- for me "that" takes time. I just want a standard friend, first. So where do professional hard working, classy, educated and available guys chill out??

I am sooo open for suggestions

The bar is not the place to meet someone for a serious relationship.

[Lereca]

Originally Posted by rcsteiner

Seriously? Check out people at bookstores, talk to folks in the grocery line, or just people-watch at the mall and see who walks by. If you're looking for someone who might have a particular interest, try joining a group of people who have that interest ... you might find someone who you "click" with.

That said... I met my wife on Yahoo Personals. We've been together for nine years and our 5th wedding anniversary is coming up this fall. So it's also possible to meet people online.

Most of the single folks I know don't do bars or clubs at all.

I met my husband from a singles newspaper that was around in the late 80's through 90's, called Di's Meet People. We met in 92' married in 94 '. We have 3 beautiful children, and will celebrate 14 years this July.The bar scene was over in the 90's. Nobody we know go to the bars anymore, at least not meet someone. If all you want to do is hook up, then yes go to the bar, but if you want something more, steer clear of the bar.

[lilamae217]

I know online dating has worked for some people....it just wasn't for me- too many wierdos.

I'm still single at 34, so I'm starting to think more creatively. Currently I know the most gorgeous, intelligent, decent, thoughtful, successful, charming gentleman in the state....I'm talking about THE perfect catch. He's my chiropractor..... unfortunately however, he's married, so decided to put him to work for me to help me find a single guy of his "stock". Also, I ask questions about where he hung out when he was single, how he met his wife (who is super-nice, intelligent, pretty and is totally spoiled by him), what kind of girls interested him, what turned him off, basically.... how do I meet the newer, single version of HIM?
If you happen to get a chance to grill one of these perfect married guys, investigate, research, ask him everything you can think of....and if he's really perfect, he'll be happy to help you.

[j123mff66543]

Originally Posted by Lereca

I met my husband from a singles newspaper that was around in the late 80's through 90's, called Di's Meet People. We met in 92' married in 94 '. We have 3 beautiful children, and will celebrate 14 years this July.The bar scene was over in the 90's. Nobody we know go to the bars anymore, at least not meet someone. If all you want to do is hook up, then yes go to the bar, but if you want something more, steer clear of the bar.

I also met my wife through "Di's Meet People" back in 1992. We were married the following year. We have our 15th anniversary this week and have three great kids.

While some of the single's ad's can be scary, I would say to not overlook some other ways to meet people. Bars are certainly not the place to find someone for a long lasting relationship.

[asitshouldbe]

Originally Posted by j123mff66543

I also met my wife through "Di's Meet People" back in 1992. We were married the following year. We have our 15th anniversary this week and have three great kids.

While some of the single's ad's can be scary, I would say to not overlook some other ways to meet people. Bars are certainly not the place to find someone for a long lasting relationship.

I wonder what ever happened to that newspaper? It was in alot of stores. The newspaper should take out an ad asking for follow up to see how many people met and married through that paper. Met my husband in 92' married 94'. Still going strong with 3 awesome kids.

[Sarah Maske]

Lunds in Uptown. Be there at 9:00 in the morning. What will you find?

Trendy cool guys who are shopping for their OWN groceries (not their wives or mothers shopping for them), probably own a cute condo in the area, are making decent money (to be able to afford Lunds), and aren't too hung over from the night before to get out and do their shopping!

Good luck!

[Astron1000]

Originally Posted by Sarah Maske

Lunds in Uptown. Be there at 9:00 in the morning. What will you find?

Trendy cool guys who are shopping for their OWN groceries (not their wives or mothers shopping for them), probably own a cute condo in the area, are making decent money (to be able to afford Lunds), and aren't too hung over from the night before to get out and do their shopping!

Good luck!

And half of those guys are gay, LOL. But that's OK, seriously! Maybe you should find a few gay guy friends. They have the best insights and sometimes the best connections. And they're really good for telling you like it is...

e.g.

Him: "Gawd! Don't wear that! You look like a cheap, desperate divorcee' looking to land a sugar-daddy!!!"

Me: "But maybe I want a sugar-daddy!"

Him: "Fine! Just don't look cheap!"

My gay friends have saved me time and again!