Hi,
I've posted before, asked questions, read responses, done research and am still undecided.

I would love advice from folks who are 'in the know'.
We own, free and clear, a home in Northern Virginia (Herndon). It has increased in value while we've owned it (19 years) and we have depreciated it, as a rental, for nearly 18 of those years. We would have to pay BIG capital gain taxes if we sell it. While we don't mind paying taxes, we prefer to do it the smart way. The home would currently sell for around $350, - to $400,000. We would be willing to put in another $50, - $100,000. bringing the price of a replacement home in Minnesota, that we'd be willing to spend, to around $450, - $500,000.
We are considering two options (and would love advice/suggestions on any options that we are missing):
1. Living in the N.Virginia home for 2 years to free up the capital (we currently live overseas) and then purchasing our dream-home in Minnesota to retire to (taking around 6 months to live in Minnesota and research the area).
Or:
2. Selling the Herndon home and doing a Starker Exchange for a rental home in Minnesota. This new purchase (in Minnesota) would have to remain a rental for at least one year, from my understanding. We would then, ideally, retire and move in to this Starker Exchange rental home in Minnesota. Since we don't really know where we want to live in Minnesota

, we would need to purchase a home in a strong resale market so that, after living in the new home in Minnesota for 2 or 3 years, we could sell it if it wasn't all that we had hoped, freeing up our capital gains (finely) and purchasing our 'dream retirement home'. Obviously, we'd prefer to purchase our dream retirement home via a Starker Exchange, rent it out for one or two years and then move in to it, living our twilight years out and never moving again.
For any home that we move in to, we need/want some basic things:
- Good resale in case it isn't the dream that we had hoped
- Good special education school district (severely-disabled teen son, who will need support services for life, will live some of those twilight years with us)
- Good adult special education services available
- Adult special ed group homes available within reasonable distance
- Near a lake/river (but not on one, for safety reasons) where one can jet ski, row crew and perhaps sail
- Not too far from Winona, my home town (about 2 hours would be fine)
- Not too far (1 hour) from an airport (Minneapolis, Rochester, LaCrosse?)
- a bit of land and space
- The beautiful bluffs of Minnesota would be a bonus
If anyone has any ideas of where we should look, I'd love to hear it. I've already heard (and researched) Stillwater, Afton, Red Wing, Lake City but wonder how the resale market is for those areas and the adult special ed services. The latter is not an easy question to find information on. I suspect that it will require an extended visit.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to respond.
Mari