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Old 10-20-2012, 08:17 AM
 
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It was not just slaves that were affected by this but also the lower class whites as well historically speaking thanks to the plantation economy which de-emphasized education in comparison with the Northeastern/Midwestern states during the pre-civil war era.
Part of my point. Poor white people were often unable to get an education during the pre-Civil War days in Mississippi. Part of it had to do with the plantation economy.
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Old 10-22-2012, 12:11 AM
 
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I have a hard time believing you and would not be surprised if you are "Randy in disguise", some Northern bias extreme liberal who hates the South and it's people and looks down on everyone who is not where you are from. However, I realize, I could be wrong but I don't think so!

The coast of Mississippi used to be great and is still pretty good. With the very large infulx of non native people who have move to the coast the culture has really changed a lot and not for the better! The same thing is happening is a lot of place3s in the South, so the rude people you are encountering are probably not from Mississippi!

Your probably did the best thing by moving if you knew you did not belong. I totally disagee with Randy and the garbage he was spilling.
Garbage? Most of what Randy said though is fact.
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Old 10-22-2012, 08:28 AM
 
Location: Somewhere flat in Mississippi
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There are many people, black and white alike, in Mississippi who grew up poor and worked in cotton fields.
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Old 10-22-2012, 07:30 PM
 
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I won't say that I "hate" Mississippi. Fact is that the first few weeks I was here it was an incredible. "Isaac" had just come through and folks were just as nice as they could be. Since then, though, I really wonder just what I got myself into.Since I am not a big fan of waving around generalities, how about I just limit myself to what I have experienced.

a.) One of the first things I noticed was unless I was one of the known regulars who is born and bred to this place there just isn't a place for me at the bar. Oh...I get my beer...and yes they take my order and food comes, but it is absolutely minimal service after which the bartender goes down to the other end of the bar like I have some disease. I went into one place and I swear the female bartender looked at me like I crawled out from under a rock!

b.) I noticed the same thing about service in the stores. Its not like I am not familiar with the typical salesman's "mercenary sensibilities"; after all he is there to make a living. But could you just once at least be a little bit pleasant about it? Every other salesperson acts like "customer service" is equivalent to having to pull your own teeth.

c.) And while we're at it, what the heck is it with the inventory in the stores? Every other item I have asked for in the last month has to be "special ordered". Ans its amazing that no matter what store a person goes into or what part of the week, the orders always take "four to six weeks"!

d.) I thought it would be enjoyable to take a few classes at one of the local schools. Have any of you ever tried to get information about taking a class..... and NOT taking it because it meant a bigger paycheck!?! Advisors don't return calls; the websites don't carry the catalogue and every other pitch is about "get a degree and make more money."

e.) But for me....the single worst thing is that re-occuring "chip-on-the-shoulder" thing. I get it all the time. And the interesting thing is the more I work to be pleasant, the more hell-bent the fella I say "good morning" to seems to be about glaring back at me. And its entirely "democratic"....White, Black, Male, Female, rich, poor....its the same thing day after day. I get a very clear message that I am not part of the community, that I am not invited to be part of the community, and that I am begrudged every minute of every day that I remain here. And the temptation is terrible to simply treat these antagonists the way I feel I am being treated. Yes, I know its childish... but the fact is that I have not done anything to these people and I come to resent the feeling that I am being treated as though I have. Thanks for listening.

FWIW.
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Old 10-22-2012, 07:57 PM
 
Location: Springfield, mo
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I am a Mississippian who has moved further north because of my husband's school and job opportunities. Let me just say that the problem you are having is not strictly a Mississippi thing. I have been living in MO for almost two years now and have had a really hard time fitting in. People here are not that eager to to say hello or have small talk with you at the store. I think that most people nowadays are so caught up in the own lives and are so busy that they just don't think about it.

I am still working on fitting in here and I am trying new things and looking to get involved in a church or mom's group. Give it a little more time and don't take it personally. I don't know what part if MS you are in, but because the coast has a big military community, you might find a little more acceptance there. As someone one from that area I always tried my best to welcome any new military families to our church and community.

There are some friendly people in MS. Just give them a chance and try to get involved somewhere. As far as the bars go I never have found people to be overly friendly, that is unless they were really drunk


I hope that you find the niche you are looking for!

Stephanie
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Old 10-23-2012, 06:12 AM
 
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I am a Mississippian who has moved further north because of my husband's school and job opportunities. Let me just say that the problem you are having is not strictly a Mississippi thing. I have been living in MO for almost two years now and have had a really hard time fitting in. People here are not that eager to to say hello or have small talk with you at the store. I think that most people nowadays are so caught up in the own lives and are so busy that they just don't think about it.

I am still working on fitting in here and I am trying new things and looking to get involved in a church or mom's group. Give it a little more time and don't take it personally. I don't know what part if MS you are in, but because the coast has a big military community, you might find a little more acceptance there. As someone one from that area I always tried my best to welcome any new military families to our church and community.

There are some friendly people in MS. Just give them a chance and try to get involved somewhere. As far as the bars go I never have found people to be overly friendly, that is unless they were really drunk


I hope that you find the niche you are looking for!

Stephanie
Thanks, Stephanie... I really hope it turns out that way. I think I was prepared for the fitting-in part. But the "chip-on-the-shoulder" thing really blind-sided me. I was thinking things like, "...the Civil War can't STILL be going on", and "maybe I need to invest in some bib-overalls and a banjo". I know it sounds terrible, but there WAS a part of me that sorta wished for a couple of more hurricanes. Maybe nasty situations have a way of "helping" people put aside their differences and pull the community a little closer together.

Where I am at I know KATRINA dealt a pretty nasty blow and there seems to be some hard feelings about how some areas got more attention in being helped back onto their feet than others. There IS also the matter of the "big box" stores having come in and pulled shoppers away from established "downtown areas" and out to shopping centers instead.

For me, personally, I think the one thing I really miss is having some sort of scholarly or cultural resource. Most of the entertainment in the area seems to relate to the casinos one way or the other and I'm just not a casino person.

I do wonder if anyone on here knows if there is a marked difference between populations from one side of the state to the other, or from North to Southern ends of the state? Anyone?

FWIW.
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Old 10-23-2012, 06:40 PM
 
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Fantastic thumbnail, Gloria!! Thanks ever so much.

And you are quite right....I can walk out on my apartment balcony and probably spit into the Backbay. Fact is that relocating to Miss. is on the table as long as I can find an area where I won't be nursing my regrets for years to come. Sounds like Hattiesburg might be a place to investigate, or at least some sleepy town halfway between there and where I am now. I understand that the Real Estate prices are beginning to climb again. Guess the Recession is over, right?

FWIW.
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Old 10-25-2012, 10:29 AM
 
Location: The South
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and once again dont let the doorknob hit you on your way OUT
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Old 10-27-2012, 01:35 PM
 
Location: :~)
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Default C'mon man, use the quote correctly!

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and once again dont let the doorknob hit you on your way OUT
"don't let the door hit you on the way out"
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Old 11-01-2012, 07:36 AM
 
Location: Nesbit, MS (NW corner of the state)
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LOL Randy...
Sounds like you're really hating it. Don't worry, time will pass, and you'll be on to the next place.
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