Would you move out of Mississippi ? (to live, costs, to move)

[Natchezbreed]

Poptones... There are several complex reasons why black folk choose to stay in Mississippi despite, how miserable it may or may not be.

Sure culture is relevant, but its mere existence does not denounce the prevalence of racism in MS or any other state as far as that matters. As I have mentioned in the past, racism has its roots planted in all states; however, it appears in some aspects that the roots run deeper in a few states such as the Great Mississippi.

A great sum of it has to do with, the "Good ole Boy Network" that exists in the state. Another factor is the reluctance of the state to move forward in a variety of areas, such as industrialization, technology, etc. New ideas, will lead to new people, new leadership, and new ways to replace the old. Now why would the "ole boys" want to mess up a good thing?

But back to the point I was aiming to make, folks stay here for family, socioeconomic restraints, the fear of the unknown, and some stay simply because they have an unconditional love for Mississippi. I know I do.

[blueman_fan1]

I've made a very big mistake for moving down here! Such a culture shock! I took it out on the boards to the people of Mississippi and I'm Sorry! But still doesn't change how I feel about it here and what I see. But none the less There are no jobs and yes it is to s-l--o---w. Hopefully will be moving at the end of the year.

[Pastelito de limon]

For now, living in Mississippi works for me. I live close to Memphis Tn so there are things to do on the weekends. Memphis isn't the most metropolitan and chique of places to be sure, but it's something...plus I get to live in a quiet area for the week and just go to the city to play. I am happy to have my job and it takes up lots of time during the week so I can't do much partying, sightseeing or socializing then anyway. Also I think location matters....I am pleased with the town I'm in, but there are plenty of places in MS that I would shun as desirable locations to live in.

Yes, life can be slow here. But it's still enjoyable. People still get together to throw a bash or hang out, barbecue in the yard or go to the lake...and there's lots of nature to partake in. There's camping, biking and fishing and kinds of stuff to do that I think is interesting.

I don't want to stay here forever, though. It's helpful for my career at the moment but eventually I will get bored and want to move on.

[Miss Marie]

I would move back to Tennessee if i could get my husband to go with me. He says his job is the only thing holding him back. He doesn't like it here either so i can't understand why he won't take a chance and leave this place. I hate living here.

I have never encountered so much rudeness in all of my life. I learned real quick here not to try and start a friendly conversation with the person standing behind me in a grocery store. The looks some people give can be down right scarey. My husband insists that it's like this any where you can go, but he's wrong or i wouldn't be in such shock. I know better because it's not like this where i came from.

And i agree with Blueman_Fan, it has been an extreme culture shock for me too and i'll never get used to it. I've been here for over 2 years now and i'm still going through the shock.

[Tama]

Originally Posted by blueman_fan1

I've made a very big mistake for moving down here! Such a culture shock! I took it out on the boards to the people of Mississippi and I'm Sorry! But still doesn't change how I feel about it here and what I see. But none the less There are no jobs and yes it is to s-l--o---w. Hopefully will be moving at the end of the year.

Blueman--It is refreshing to see an apology from you. Since you mention culture shock--are you aware of the various stages of culture shock? Do you know what stage you are in? Sometimes people make a decision to leave a place before really giving themselves a chance to be sure it is not simply needing to go through the stages of culture shock. Then at the end of the day, a better decision can be made.
You are in a rural area and unemployed. A real bummer. Have you considered the Mobile area first before making a long-distance move--or the coast--either Ms or Ala.?
I suspect with a decent job and friends--and a chance to enjoy the pursuits available in Ms. and Ala.--music festivals, farmer's markets, boating, fishing, sports events, bowling, gardening, hiking, studying at a college, arts events and exhibitions (you are close to Mobile and Florida, for pete's sake)--I suspect your attitude would improve.
At any rate--good luck to you!

[Scotslass]

Originally Posted by Miss Marie

And i agree with Blueman_Fan, it has been an extreme culture shock for me too and i'll never get used to it. I've been here for over 2 years now and i'm still going through the shock.

What shock exactly can you please elaborate in more detail?

I spent time in the southern U.S visiting in laws and coming from Scotland yes some things were different but culture shock? Not exactly, there are visible similarities i found between the two. However a culture shock to me is like going to Japan or India.

Sorry to hear that you haven't enjoyed your stay in MS. Though TN does not feel/look much different to me unless your speaking of terrain only.


Good luck.

[poptones]

It's all relative. You know, Scotslas, your different perception is most likely your own fault. I don't know if you have noticed but I have met several scots here and there seems to be something about the scot demeanor that meshes well with the south. Irish seem to do ok too, but it's not just a brit thing - heck I had one friend visit me in LA from London and all he did the entire time was complain about how stupid america was and how much better things were back in jolly old.

Australians do ok here too - but they don't count, really, because they're weird anyway.

[Scotslass]

Originally Posted by poptones

It's all relative. You know, Scotslas, your different perception is most likely your own fault. I don't know if you have noticed but I have met several scots here and there seems to be something about the scot demeanor that meshes well with the south. Irish seem to do ok too, but it's not just a brit thing - heck I had one friend visit me in LA from London and all he did the entire time was complain about how stupid america was and how much better things were back in jolly old.

Australians do ok here too - but they don't count, really, because they're weird anyway.

I know alot of Scot's that have moved to various locations around the U.S and love it. They seem to blend very well and are very outgoing/open minded. Of course like everywhere you'll get the odd one.

And of course vice versa with my American friends living here they love it too i have met very few that are unhappy...if they are its mostly with the weather but tell me someone that does like the weather here?

From what you've said all i can say is that if people are so unhappy about a place then quit complaining and move to somewhere else. Simple as that.

English and Scottish are 100% completely different people, in my own experience we're more outgoing and can let our hair down.
For people to say that America is stupid, well these people are just plain ignorant and need to go to a place first before condemning.

[poptones]

You'd probably feel right at home in Scotland here right now. It's late September and everything is still GREEN because it's been RAINING EVERY DAY SINCE AUGUST!

I'm over it. I'm about to go buy an xbox just so I can have the Beatles sing "Here comes the sun" to me...

[Scotslass]

Scotland is a very green country even in winter.

We had alot of rain last week but its still mild considering its September.