Hi Everyone.. (Eldon, California, Bethany: lease, house, find a job)

[r8rfan]

It's been quite a while since I've been on here and it seems that a lot of the regulars aren't on here much.

My how life changes. Remember when I couldn't wait to move back to Missouri last year? I now wish that we'd stayed in Colorado. The one big deciding factor in us moving back here was I could get my old job back. Well I did. It lasted 8 months and on December 5th of 2008 they told me they no longer needed me. I was heart broken. I LOVED that job. Working with the kids in the summer was the greatest. I worked there almost a total of ten years. Any how I've been out of work since. I'm getting unemployment, but it sure doesn't stretch very far.

I have no desire to even be here now. I can't find a job for anything. There are jobs in Colorado and we are really wanting to go back now. We both left good jobs in Colorado. Our daughter wants to stay here so she can graduate from Eldon High school, so we are willing to do that. However if we had the funds I think we'd really reconsider this. I think I've got a job lined up,but they keep dragging their feet on getting me there to start. It's also going to be a lot less money than I was making before. I'm so depressed at this point I can't sleep or eat. I just feel horrible about things. I look at my kids and feel I'm not doing for them. They say they understand, but I know it's hurting them too. And come to find out my wife is pregnant. She is due in September. So now I constantly worry about this too. I'm a physical wreck right now. Don't even feel like going fishing.

I'm sorry to get on here vent, but I know what a great bunch of folks are on here.

Thanks for listening.

[Versatile]

Hang in there guy! Look at what you do have and say a prayer. Remember "This day too shall pass".

[Curmudgeon]

That's tough. I feel for you. As Versatile said, it will get better and as long as you keep the faith and don't give up it will all turn around for you in the end. You just might have to wait a bit more. In the meantime, don't give-in to depression as that will only make it worse for you physically and emotionally. Seek some help for that. Not wanting to go fishing is NOT a good sign. You have to be rating high on the stress scale right now and that CAN be helped.

Best of luck!

[misplaced1]

I'm really sorry to hear that. The economy is crap for a lot of people right now. My husband will be on permanant layoff beginning May 5th. We are in California right now in a fairly rural area so job's are not plentiful. I am not working because of an injury so I don't collect any money and that isn't helping. I homeschool my youngest (16) and he'll be graduating in December early so we are sticking it out here although there is absolutely nothing but that to keep us here now. We're going to be taking a trip out to Missouri for a week or so ( I have a house there) and then we'll come back here and hope we can find work and save what we can till we move.

Can you get any help if you find a job out of the area to get back there? Did you buy a house that you might be able to sell and use that to move on?

I hope things get better for you guys and congrats on the pregnancy even though it might have come at a better time.

[tambre]

Sorry to hear about the job situation, but congratulations on the new baby on the way! What kind of work do you do? Maybe someone on here knows of an opportunity in your field. Saying a prayer for you and keeping positive thoughts for a fresh new beginning.

[r8rfan]

Originally Posted by misplaced1

I'm really sorry to hear that. The economy is crap for a lot of people right now. My husband will be on permanant layoff beginning May 5th. We are in California right now in a fairly rural area so job's are not plentiful. I am not working because of an injury so I don't collect any money and that isn't helping. I homeschool my youngest (16) and he'll be graduating in December early so we are sticking it out here although there is absolutely nothing but that to keep us here now. We're going to be taking a trip out to Missouri for a week or so ( I have a house there) and then we'll come back here and hope we can find work and save what we can till we move.

Can you get any help if you find a job out of the area to get back there? Did you buy a house that you might be able to sell and use that to move on?

I hope things get better for you guys and congrats on the pregnancy even though it might have come at a better time.

Thanks a lot.

We are renting right now, and it's probably just as well. We don't have a lease so if something works out it's not a big deal to move.

My wife got a job offer in Craig, Colorado that offers some relocation assistance, but it wouldn't be near enough to get us there and settled in. My parents live in Steamboat and we have friends in Craig so we could possibly work something out as far as a place to stay for a while if it came to that. We contemplated putting stuff in storage here and just taking the kids and dogs and our clothes and going on out there after school gets out.We could work for a month or so and then be able to come get our stuff.

I just can't believe the bad luck we're having. We had to get a different vehicle so we are now making payments that we can barely afford. Our old truck blew the head gasket or cracked the block. Water in the oil. Not good. Cost more to get it fixed than it's worth.

If it was just my wife and I it wouldn't be so bad, but I look at my kids and I feel just horrible about it all.

It looks like I may be going back to work next week. Like I said it's not going to pay near what I was making before. And they pay every two weeks and withold the first pay period so I'll be working a month before I get my first check. That's really going to hurt.

[Inoxkeeper]

Hang in there...I know this has to be killing you but you can't put all the blame on your shoulders. You moved about the time the economy went south and you like many others got caught up in the whirlwind.

Plus you are in such a rural location that there just isn't much opportunity.

Try to enjoy the extra time you have with your kids. Do cheap stuff, wading creeks was always something I loved, catching a fish or 5 is a tasty bonus.

A day trip to places like Elephant Rock won't cost that much and I promise your kids will never forget it.

Also, consider volunteering...it's a good way to give back, makes you feel better, and who knows it could open another door.

So, go out and have fun!...there is an old line, "95% of the things you worry about don't happen and the 5% that does happen you couldn't have changed so why worry!"

We will have you in our prayers...

Inox.

[Northwoods Voyager]

r8rfan, Many of us that were around are still here. Some of us read a lot but don't post as often. I saw your thread title and just knew that I had to come here and say hello. Now that I've read all of your thread, I must also say that my prayers will now include you and your family. Tough times always takes a toll on us. You have to be the tough one tho'. Your family probably looks to you for leadership and guidance. Heavy load but keep telling yourself that you can handle this disruption of your lives.

You may want to do as much networking as possible. Word of mouth can be a great way to get your name out there and what it is that you are looking for. The suggestion of volunteering is super. You must keep busy. Please don't dwell on what has happened. It won't do you any good, not at all. You need to think positively and keep your ears and eyes open for just that right contact.

Your family will follow your lead and give you the inspiration and initiative that you need. Sit down and make a list of pros and cons about your current situation. Can you stay where you are with any type of employment? Can you and your family not only survive but accept this change and work together? Have family sit downs and discuss what has happened in a factual manner. Not as a negative tho'. You have to look at things from outside.

Check your spending habits and what can be cut back. Every dollar helps. Yep, every single dollar. I know, because my husband and I live on just S.S. He is ill and I'm not much better at times. So there have been a few liabilities that I have cut back on or cut out. As I said, it is tough. Have faith in yourself and your family. Now, go grab a rod and reel, dig up some worms from that damp corner and go catch dinner. Prayers for you and the best of Karma for you. You are important!

[misplaced1]

Originally Posted by r8rfan

Thanks a lot.

We are renting right now, and it's probably just as well. We don't have a lease so if something works out it's not a big deal to move.

My wife got a job offer in Craig, Colorado that offers some relocation assistance, but it wouldn't be near enough to get us there and settled in. My parents live in Steamboat and we have friends in Craig so we could possibly work something out as far as a place to stay for a while if it came to that. We contemplated putting stuff in storage here and just taking the kids and dogs and our clothes and going on out there after school gets out.We could work for a month or so and then be able to come get our stuff.

I just can't believe the bad luck we're having. We had to get a different vehicle so we are now making payments that we can barely afford. Our old truck blew the head gasket or cracked the block. Water in the oil. Not good. Cost more to get it fixed than it's worth.

If it was just my wife and I it wouldn't be so bad, but I look at my kids and I feel just horrible about it all.

It looks like I may be going back to work next week. Like I said it's not going to pay near what I was making before. And they pay every two weeks and withold the first pay period so I'll be working a month before I get my first check. That's really going to hurt.

Oh man it is really piling up. I know it's hard but do what you think will be best for the family in the long run and less stressful overall. If you can get help it might be better to go back to Colorado if you have more resources there to get back on your feet. You guys can always move to another place after things look up if you like, it's not like it is forever if you don't want it to be. Talk together and see how both of you really feel about it.

We had moved to Bethany Missouri from the area I am now in California and lived in Bethany for a couple of great years. My husband had to be gone a lot for work though and I my neck was injured in chiropractic treatment so I needed help. Our kids were younger then so they needed me and I needed help so we ended up having sell our home and leave to come back here to Ca. for help (my family is here). It's been a couple years and I am back to almost where I was now thankfully. I'm not happy in Ca., nor have I ever been so now that the kids are older we bought a house ( a fixer that will need work) and will be moving back to Missouri sometime after next winter.

Just discuss all the pro's and con's and see what the two of you honestly feel is the best to do and make plans to do it. Things will get better.

[r8rfan]

Thanks for all the kind words and thoughts. I don't want to say it can't get any worse,because the last few times I said it in the past few months it in fact has gotten worse!

Unfortunately I only have a high school education so I've been a labor person my whole life. I worked as a plumber for a while in Colorado. Should've stuck with that job. Paid good, but the coworkers were less than desirable to be around.(They all wanted to party instead of working) I have several years of building maintenance experience. Kind of a Jack of all trades. That's why this is so hard on me right now. Any jobs that come open here are scooped up immediately. I've been all over the internet looking for jobs. Like I say there seems to be more availibility in Colorado, but we just don't have the funds right now to make that move. Our best option is going to be to wait it out until next year and try and save enough to make the move out there. Unless my new job turns out better than it looks like it will.

I'm trying to stay positive about it all, but it sure is tough. I love Misssouri, but it just seems like since we came back everything has gone wrong. We'd even be willing to relocate within the state if oppurtunities were availible.

My wife wants to go back to Colorado in the worst way. Now my son says he wants to go back too. My daughter wants to stay here. I feel like I'm being pulled in three different directions.

I guess if anyone knows of any oppurtunities in your area any info would be much appreciated.

Thanks a lot.