Trying to decide to move to Missouri (Washington, Ozark: fit in, apartment)

[theresnoplacelikehome]

If I get a bit too wordy here, someone just step in. Hopefully, someone out there has beein in my situation. As I have posted before, I live in Washington state in a small apartment. The management really does not maintain the building very well and I realy would like to move. The problem is I can only afford around $400 a month and I basically am priced out of the Pacific Northwest. I have had several comments from before, but I just thought I would update this. I am just not sure what to do.

I am in my 50s and have a grown daughter who lives in Oregon. I have several family members who live in Oregon. My family, sister in particular, thinks this is an absolutely terrible idea, to be away from the family and move that far away, especially since I do not know anyone in Missouri. I have tried over and over to explain to her that I do not want to stay in this apartment and that it is extremely hard to find a decent apartment in my price range, but she said if she were basically in similar circumstances, she would rather live in an attic and stay by the family. My sister has had hardships, but she also has her own home now.

I just feel sort of caught in this dilemma. I love my daughter very much and do not want to disappoint the rest of my family, but no one is paying my bills!!!! I work as a medical transcriptionist so my job is mobile, but I just do not make the money I used to, especially for the last few years.

Thank you for letting me explain!! Any comments would be appreciated.

[Curmudgeon]

Besides the far more favorable cost of living are there other reasons you've chosen Missouri. My wife and I are flying there from California in a week or two to buy a house we can move into but that'[s only after a year or more of research.

[ozarksboy]

Originally Posted by theresnoplacelikehome

If I get a bit too wordy here, someone just step in. Hopefully, someone out there has beein in my situation. As I have posted before, I live in Washington state in a small apartment. The management really does not maintain the building very well and I realy would like to move. The problem is I can only afford around $400 a month and I basically am priced out of the Pacific Northwest. I have had several comments from before, but I just thought I would update this. I am just not sure what to do.

I am in my 50s and have a grown daughter who lives in Oregon. I have several family members who live in Oregon. My family, sister in particular, thinks this is an absolutely terrible idea, to be away from the family and move that far away, especially since I do not know anyone in Missouri. I have tried over and over to explain to her that I do not want to stay in this apartment and that it is extremely hard to find a decent apartment in my price range, but she said if she were basically in similar circumstances, she would rather live in an attic and stay by the family. My sister has had hardships, but she also has her own home now.

I just feel sort of caught in this dilemma. I love my daughter very much and do not want to disappoint the rest of my family, but no one is paying my bills!!!! I work as a medical transcriptionist so my job is mobile, but I just do not make the money I used to, especially for the last few years.

Thank you for letting me explain!! Any comments would be appreciated.

Stay there, get a smaller apartment. Your relatives are right. Why would you even think about moving so far away from friends, family, the life you've built for yourself? You want to move to a place where you know no one, have no interest in the history, heritage or culture of the state and don't have a clue what life is like here. You make no sense to me.

[Ellwood]

It is my understanding that jobs are limited in Missouri, so make sure you have firm employment first. Moving away from family and friends can be difficult, as you don't have no one to depend on in an emergency or illness. Think this totally through, because the grass is not always greener.

[misplaced1]

Originally Posted by ozarksboy

Stay there, get a smaller apartment. Your relatives are right. Why would you even think about moving so far away from friends, family, the life you've built for yourself? You want to move to a place where you know no one, have no interest in the history, heritage or culture of the state and don't have a clue what life is like here. You make no sense to me.

She sounds like she is close enough to her family that it would likely matter if she was that far away.

But... In some cases it's not always a bad thing to move to a place you've never been, away from the drama of the people you are related to.

I understand her thoughts I think. Sometimes being able to live comfortably without constant stress, worry and struggle over how you will do it, means you consider options you might not have otherwise.

[misplaced1]

Originally Posted by theresnoplacelikehome

If I get a bit too wordy here, someone just step in. Hopefully, someone out there has beein in my situation. As I have posted before, I live in Washington state in a small apartment. The management really does not maintain the building very well and I realy would like to move. The problem is I can only afford around $400 a month and I basically am priced out of the Pacific Northwest. I have had several comments from before, but I just thought I would update this. I am just not sure what to do.

I am in my 50s and have a grown daughter who lives in Oregon. I have several family members who live in Oregon. My family, sister in particular, thinks this is an absolutely terrible idea, to be away from the family and move that far away, especially since I do not know anyone in Missouri. I have tried over and over to explain to her that I do not want to stay in this apartment and that it is extremely hard to find a decent apartment in my price range, but she said if she were basically in similar circumstances, she would rather live in an attic and stay by the family. My sister has had hardships, but she also has her own home now.

I just feel sort of caught in this dilemma. I love my daughter very much and do not want to disappoint the rest of my family, but no one is paying my bills!!!! I work as a medical transcriptionist so my job is mobile, but I just do not make the money I used to, especially for the last few years.

Thank you for letting me explain!! Any comments would be appreciated.

What were you thinking of when you created your screen name? A place you live or have been or long for?, a feeling?

I think it might be difficult for a single person to move so far away without having been there. But... If you decide to do so and are able to choose a place to live, I'd stick to more rural areas if you don't mind limited shopping and having to commute to see specialist if you should need them. For the rent you can afford, the areas would likely be a lot safer in the rural areas and small towns.

Have you made a point of watching the weather in Missouri? I'd do that and do a little research before I thought to move. Honestly the storms in spring and fall can get down right scary and you might experience a winter that Washington seldom sees. There can be weeks of high humidity also in the summer to get used to so you would likely need air.

What kind of life do you think of having when you consider moving to Missouri? Is it pretty easy for you to meet people?

[Mollym313]

Moving to a new place is scary when you don't know anyone. Why did you chose Missouri? I also believe that we can make a "home" anywhere if we chose too. However, you have to have a plan. I will say that when I moved to SW MO back in 1989, I fit in right away. I felt people were very welcoming. However I moved here with family. If you are committed to a move, pick a few places and do some research. Are you interested in attending a church? A church family is a great way to get support when moving to a new area. Many churches can be contacted online nowadays.
GOOD LUCK!

[theresnoplacelikehome]

Originally Posted by Curmudgeon

Besides the far more favorable cost of living are there other reasons you've chosen Missouri. My wife and I are flying there from California in a week or two to buy a house we can move into but that'[s only after a year or more of research.

Hi:

Thank you for your reply. Obviously, the cost of living is a factor. Plus, there are areas of Missouri that look so beautiful, especially in the Southern part, toward the Ozarks. Unless I am way off base, the people in Missouri seem so much more open and friendly than here in Washington and Oregon. The weather is also a factor - even though there are extremes, some states have even more extreme weather. Thanks.

[theresnoplacelikehome]

Originally Posted by ozarksboy

Stay there, get a smaller apartment. Your relatives are right. Why would you even think about moving so far away from friends, family, the life you've built for yourself? You want to move to a place where you know no one, have no interest in the history, heritage or culture of the state and don't have a clue what life is like here. You make no sense to me.

I'm not sure if your statement makes any sense to me either, so we're even. Thank you.

[Mollym313]

Originally Posted by theresnoplacelikehome

I'm not sure if your statement makes any sense to me either, so we're even. Thank you.

I think if you decide to move here...you'll fit right in

I moved here from Oregon and I never regretted it.