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Old 08-03-2015, 09:19 AM
 
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We are wanting to make a move from Florida and are considering Montana. I grew up in the north and cannot stand the heat and humidity here any longer. We are considering Billings for a job transfer. We are very quiet and keep to ourselves but obviously will need to be out and about mingling with the locals and wonder how accepting is Billings of alternate lifestyles. We would look to live outside the city as acreage is a must for us - we have competition dogs, Search & Rescue dogs and horses.

Thank you in advance for any input!
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Old 08-03-2015, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Denver, Colorado
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One word, Missoula..

Question Answered..
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Old 08-03-2015, 12:02 PM
 
Location: Billings, MT
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Billings will accept your lifestyle.
However, there are some "do nots":
Do not flaunt it in people's faces. Many people do not care how you live, or what you do in the privacy of your home, but they really don't want to hear about it or see it. That goes for heterosexuals, too.
Do not make a habit of saying, "Well, back home we did that THIS way" or "Back home, we had a (whatever your new town does not have). Why isn't there one here?". Chances are you will eventually be invited to return home! It may be stated in a profane manner.
Do not get upset and threaten to sue if you meet someone who does not like you. It may or may not have anything to do with your lifestyle. They might just find your personality repugnant. Live with it.
Welcome to Billings.
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Old 08-04-2015, 12:10 AM
 
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Last place Id want to live as a gay couple would be Billings or anywhere near there. Although Im sure there are plenty that are still hiding in the closet. Missoula is where its at if you truly want to be out in the open without fear of being discriminated. Possibly Bozeman as well
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Old 08-04-2015, 01:11 PM
 
Location: East Helena, MT
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One of my former co-workers is gay. He has lived his entire life in MT. He has never had any serious problems. I didn't find out untill I saw his "roomate" at his retirement party. It was none of anybody's business what he did at home and he kept it that way.

BUT, I have noticed a large number of young lesbian couples recently, and they are very "out" and in your face. I hate stereotypes but when they apply, they apply. I'm talking about the "butch" "babydoll" couples. I have not witnessed any problems in public around them.
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Old 08-04-2015, 05:06 PM
 
Location: Denver, Colorado
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Lesbian couples will never face the stigma two gay men will face.. So, lesbians pretty much have it easy. I am sad to say that Lesbian Porn on the net, has soften most men's (and women's) views of lesbianism. Two women making out on the streets of Billings will probably turn on a lot of guys. Two men making out on the street of Billings will probably get their a*ses kicked sooner or later.. Billings is not Capitol Hill of Seattle. Sorry, if people are offended by what I say, but I am just telling it like it is, even if it pisses people off.

But, this is the internet, who wants to hear the truth? People just want to hear flattering things and that it will be ok!

Anyhow, Lesbians are rock stars in the modern world. Although, if they move into a religious neighborhood like in the Deep South and have "Surrogate Kids" or Adoptee kids, etc , they will probably feel some wrath from their neighbors. This could also be possible and true if they move to a family neighborhood in Billings or many other less, Ultra-Liberalized parts of the USA. Heck, even in a family suburban neighborhood of Seattle they can run into problems with neighbors if kids are in the picture or if they are the only lesbians on the block.

Even in the very liberal Puget Sound, most Lesbian couples I see live within the city limits of Seattle. Where I live it is almost entirely families and most of the suburbs of the Seattle are surprisingly more conservative and religious than you would believe. The irony, is that Seattle and Washington , as a whole, are considered one of the least religious, atheistic and open-minded parts of the country. I am sure the same would apply for a much more conservative town like Billings. If you live in a hip downtown neighborhood with lots of young people, you probably will go unnoticed. Be the only lesbian couple on the block of your suburban neighborhood and everybody will be eye-balling you.
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Old 08-04-2015, 06:21 PM
 
Location: 406
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Last place Id want to live as a gay couple would be Billings or anywhere near there. Although Im sure there are plenty that are still hiding in the closet. Missoula is where its at if you truly want to be out in the open without fear of being discriminated. Possibly Bozeman as well
Your first two sentences here have me truly bewildered, as I've never known Billings to have any sort of reputation of being especially enthusiastic or particularly standoffish toward LGBT residents. Yes, indeed they do live there, and there's no reason I can find to assume that they're overwhelmingly closeted.

Outside the city-limits could be another story, true, but even then I've never heard of violence or intimidation toward LGBT persons to be a thing.

Maybe you know something more than what you've shared in your first post?
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Old 08-04-2015, 08:59 PM
 
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Lesbian couples will never face the stigma two gay men will face.. So, lesbians pretty much have it easy. I am sad to say that Lesbian Porn on the net, has soften most men's (and women's) views of lesbianism. Two women making out on the streets of Billings will probably turn on a lot of guys. Two men making out on the street of Billings will probably get their a*ses kicked sooner or later.. Billings is not Capitol Hill of Seattle. Sorry, if people are offended by what I say, but I am just telling it like it is, even if it pisses people off.

But, this is the internet, who wants to hear the truth? People just want to hear flattering things and that it will be ok!

Anyhow, Lesbians are rock stars in the modern world. Although, if they move into a religious neighborhood like in the Deep South and have "Surrogate Kids" or Adoptee kids, etc , they will probably feel some wrath from their neighbors. This could also be possible and true if they move to a family neighborhood in Billings or many other less, Ultra-Liberalized parts of the USA. Heck, even in a family suburban neighborhood of Seattle they can run into problems with neighbors if kids are in the picture or if they are the only lesbians on the block.

Even in the very liberal Puget Sound, most Lesbian couples I see live within the city limits of Seattle. Where I live it is almost entirely families and most of the suburbs of the Seattle are surprisingly more conservative and religious than you would believe. The irony, is that Seattle and Washington , as a whole, are considered one of the least religious, atheistic and open-minded parts of the country. I am sure the same would apply for a much more conservative town like Billings. If you live in a hip downtown neighborhood with lots of young people, you probably will go unnoticed. Be the only lesbian couple on the block of your suburban neighborhood and everybody will be eye-balling you.
There are jerks everywhere. I'm sure Billings has some.

People who actually live in Montana probably have a better idea how people behave here. Most Montanans are darn polite.
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Old 08-05-2015, 10:21 AM
 
Location: Billings, MT
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"Outside the city-limits could be another story, true, but even then I've never heard of violence or intimidation toward LGBT persons to be a thing."

I live outside the city limits (mainly to avoid HOAs and CCRs). I have met one couple who I knew to be lesbian. Even though they did not make an issue of identifying themselves, it was obvious, even though I had been told of their lifestyle before they came to visit. They were nice people.
I'm sure I have met others, who also did not make an issue of their lifestyle.
The flamboyant ones give the others a bad name, IMO. I'm sure there are a LOT of nice, quiet, genteel people who happen to be homosexual. Those people will get along quite well nearly everywhere.
The others I do my best to ignore.
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Old 08-10-2015, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Montana
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We hang out in really rural places hunting, and know several gay people in small towns in eastern MT (men and women) and it doesn't seem to be a big deal. It isn't really the topic of conversation (but of course, my husband and I aren't detailing our personal activities at the dinner table either), and no one seems to care.

So, in a town the size of Billings, I don't think people will give a d-mn. Honestly, that's one of the good things about Montana, people pretty much leave you alone about your private life, as long as you don't get preachy about theirs. I think personally you'd have no problem about it in a larger town, or even a smaller town. Now, if you marched down the street in butt-less chaps painted as a rainbow, people would raise their eyebrows. But of course, they'd do it in exactly the same way they would if I dressed up in a black wig and Marilyn Manson fan-girl outfit and danced down the street. But in the end, they'd just raise an eyebrow, shake their heads, and go back to what ever they were doing.
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