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08-22-2009, 08:23 PM
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lillian3,
Hey, I am here in California---and a friend of mine lived in Green Hills years ago...isn't
that supposed to be a nicer area....
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08-22-2009, 08:28 PM
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You are so welcome. Gosh the thing with holding the door open sounds so familiar. I am the same as you when it comes to being polite. I could not have said what you just said better myself!!! You are a gem..
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08-22-2009, 08:32 PM
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Originally Posted by BlueyedCat
Your welcome Lillian; and thank you also. We also have not met anyone that we could actually call a friend. We have met many people but everyone keeps to themselves as if they are afraid of getting to know someone. My husband and I are also very outgoing people. It's just not the same here. When I moved to California I heard so many rumors about how rude people were out there. I met so many people in California that I consider very close friends in just a few weeks. We all still keep in touch on a weekly basis. We have been here close to 2 years.
We are very polite to everyone and help when we see someone needs it. There is never a thank you or anything. When we hold a door open for someone they shrug and walk past us like we were bothering them or in their way. I just don't understand. I will never stop being who I am because of it though. I will continue to be nice to them any way and hopefully one day they will see. And hopefully they will start to treat others better.
Everywhere we have lived we have made very good friends. It's a shame that we couldn't do the same here.
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Folks, I totally understand what you are saying about "meeting people you would consider friends" but just realize that there are those of us who just want to be to ourselves, particularly after living in a "crowded" environment. Nothing wrong with wanting friends, if that's what you want but just be tolerant of those of us who espouse solitude with family only, and don't want or need close friends.
I would venture to say that most of the posts from transplants who are happy with their moves are those who enjoy the solitude that we enjoy and I would also bet that those who are not as happy are those who miss the close relationships of friends, get togethers, etc.
There is plenty of room for all and thank goodness not everyone is like we are otherwise we would have the same type of environment there that we are trying to get away from. 
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08-22-2009, 08:42 PM
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Yes, that is why I moved here to this area. Supposedly the shopping was good, no crime. I heard it was like the Beverly Hills of L.A. if you will. Unfortunately it is congested with traffic at all hours of the day because the main drag is only two lanes, they are trying to widen it now or they are doing something to it who knows. The shopping is very disapointing. the Green Hills Mall is supposed to be good but it is not, not if you are used to better shopping. There are a few restaurants but nothing special. There is a Cheese Cake Factory, I have never been to this one. It should be an area where people can sit outside with cafes and it is so compact one could walk but no one does and it is not pedestrian friendly even though I heard they want to improve that in the future. There is crime here and I mean some crime that is not petty crime. I was very disapointed moving here for it is expensive to compared to L.A but it is not worth it, not in my opinion. I could think of some things that could be done to enhance it but its not happening I do not see it in the next five years at least.
There is a Whole foods the only one in Nashville and there is a Trader Joes but other than that it is bland here. That is my opinion... but I feel I am pretty aware of my surroundings and a good judge of things so I hope that helps........ Oh there is a movie theatre that is rather nice. Oh this is for noamisday, I am responding to your question. Thank you...
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08-22-2009, 08:45 PM
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08-22-2009, 08:50 PM
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For Eeeeeeazy Sorry, that sounds a little anti social. And we are living in a crowded area here in Nashville. For those of you that do not want to make a little effort thats ok but that is exactly the slight social freeze I am talking about......Wow
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08-22-2009, 08:58 PM
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Wow, Socal4life. I just read the GroverCleveland. I wish I would have read this before I moved here. Thanks for the link. This is what I am talking about, people that are helping people!!! I got a chill after reading that. That blog was so well articulated.
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08-22-2009, 09:03 PM
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Wow, Socal4life. I just read the GroverCleveland. I wish I would have read this before I moved here. Thanks for the link. This is what I am talking about, people that are helping people!!! I got a chill after reading that. That blog was so well articulated.
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Anytime...anything I could do to help |
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08-22-2009, 10:03 PM
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Oh no, not that again. I hope Grover found happiness, though.
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08-22-2009, 10:54 PM
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Originally Posted by BlueyedCat
Your welcome Lillian; and thank you also. We also have not met anyone that we could actually call a friend. We have met many people but everyone keeps to themselves as if they are afraid of getting to know someone. My husband and I are also very outgoing people. It's just not the same here. When I moved to California I heard so many rumors about how rude people were out there. I met so many people in California that I consider very close friends in just a few weeks. We all still keep in touch on a weekly basis. We have been here close to 2 years.
We are very polite to everyone and help when we see someone needs it. There is never a thank you or anything. When we hold a door open for someone they shrug and walk past us like we were bothering them or in their way. I just don't understand. I will never stop being who I am because of it though. I will continue to be nice to them any way and hopefully one day they will see. And hopefully they will start to treat others better.
Everywhere we have lived we have made very good friends. It's a shame that we couldn't do the same here.
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Maybe you did not look hard enough. Have you ever heard of Nashville New Neighbors. Its a social club, only $47 to join and members have moved from all over, including out of the US. This month is Ammesty month, so all could join, even if you have lived here all your life. Its a Womens club, but has activities for both Husband and Wife.
Diane G
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